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Exercise: Correlative Conjunctions

Exercise 1: fill in the blank.

In this exercise, you need to complete each sentence with the appropriate correlative conjunction.

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• ________ I visit my grandparents, __________ I realise how much I miss them. (The more…, the more)
• We can eat out for dinner __________ we can cook at home. (or…, or)
• _________ you finish your work early, __________ you can go home. (not only…, but also)
• He is __________ friendly __________ helpful. (both…, and)
• _________ she was tired, __________ she still helped me with my homework. (although…yet)

Exercise 2: Multiple Choice Questions

In this exercise, select the correct correlative conjunction that fits the context of the sentence:

• ________ everyone likes to go hiking, _________ I find it very refreshing and energizing. (although…yet)
• You can either stay here _________ go to the park. (or… or)
• We had __________ ice cream __________ cake for dessert. (both… and)
• __________ you decide to study harder, __________ you will get better grades. (The more… the more)
• _________ my mom is a good cook, ___________ my dad is not. (while… yet)

Exercise 3: Match the Correlative Conjunctions

Match the pairs of correlative conjunctions from column A and column B:

• Not only…
• Either…
• Neither…
• Both…
• The more…
• …but also
• …the more

Write your answers as – (A# – B#). For example, if you think "Not only…" matches with "…but also", your answer would be A1 – B2.

Exercise 4: Creating Sentences Using Correlative Conjunctions

Using the given correlative conjunctions, write five sentences of your own:

• Either…or
• Both…and
• Neither… nor
• Not only… but also
• The more… the more

Answer Key:

Exercise 1:.

• The more I visit my grandparents, the more I realise how much I miss them.
• We can eat out for dinner or we can cook at home.
• Not only you finish your work early, but also you can go home.
• He is both friendly and helpful.
• Although she was tired, yet she still helped me with my homework.

Exercise 2:

• Although everyone likes to go hiking, yet I find it very refreshing and energizing.
• You can either stay here or go to the park.
• We had both ice cream and cake for dessert.
• The more you decide to study harder, the more you will get better grades.
• While my mom is a good cook, yet my dad is not.

Exercise 3:

• A1 – B2
• A2 – B3
• A3 – B1
• A4 – B4
• A5 – B5

Exercise 4:

This part is open-ended for students to construct their own sentences and should be corrected accordingly by the teacher or instructor.

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Reported speech – indirect speech

Choose the correct reported speech forms to complete the sentences below..

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What is reported speech or indirect speech?

When we tell people what another person said or thought , we often use reported speech or indirect speech. To do that, we need to change verb tenses (present, past, etc.) and pronouns ( I, you, my, your, etc .) if the time and speaker are different.

• Sally: ‘ I don’t have time.’  ⇒ Sally said that she didn’t have time. 
• Peter: ‘ I am tired .’  ⇒ He said that he was tired. 

Omission of that

We often leave out  that after reporting verbs like  say, think ,  etc. 

• She said she was late. (= She said that she was late. )
• I thought I would get the job.  

Say or tell ?

The most common verbs we use in reported speech are  say and  tell . We must pay attention here. We say  tell somebody something and  say something (to somebody) .

Tense changes in reported speech

When a person said something in the past , and now we tell somebody what that person said, the time is different, and for this reason, the verb tenses change. Look at a summary of these changes.

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Pronoun changes in reported speech.

In reported or indirect speech, we must also pay attention to the use of pronouns. When a person tells us something, he or she uses the first person ( I, me, my, we, us, our ) to talk about himself or herself and the second person ( you, your ) to talk about us, the person listening. But when we tell someone else what that person said, we are going to use the third person ( he, she, his, her, etc. ) to talk about the speaker and the first person ( I, me, my ) to talk about ourselves, the listener.

• ‘ I will help you .’  ⇒ He said that he would help me . 
• ‘That’s my pen.’  ⇒ She said that it was her pen. 
• ‘ I need your help.’  ⇒ She said that she needed my help. 

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"Mom, Can You Help me With my Homework?” 5 Tips on How to do it Right

Homework Emotions in Children and Parents

Negative emotions can help get homework done..

Posted December 23, 2015

Most kids and their parents hate homework, or at best don’t see the point of it. Teachers are not that fond of homework either, but they are expected to assign it. I will not be reviewing the merits and disadvantages of extended learning—what homework is supposed to be—since this has been done for decades. Let’s assume, for the time being, homework is here to stay regardless of the fact that many children and parents believe it makes their lives miserable. Since homework assignments can activate negative emotions, let’s take a look at how to effectively use those feelings to get it done.

A homework assignment can be a stimulus for any number of emotions. Erroneously, many children, parents, teachers, and even psychological researchers believe that children should be interested in doing their homework or enjoy doing it. However, in most cases, that’s just not going to happen. This belief is rooted in the notion that only positive emotions such as interest, excitement, or enjoyment are what motivate us. Granted, positive emotions are motivating because that’s their purpose, just as it is with negative emotions or neutral ones. In fact, at the core of our motivational system is emotion . Through their creation of bodily feelings, core emotions motivate us by directing our attention and giving us information about what’s going on. Thoughts and images (cognitions) that arise at the same time, make more specific the information provided by emotion.

Yet how many kids have a motivational system that will trigger the emotion of excitement in response to a stimulus consisting of 2 pages of math problems? I predict the numbers will be low. Perhaps there are some children who learn for love: they are interested in doing their homework because they desire approval from a teacher, or because they want to please them. And how many parents consider their role of helping their child with 2 pages of math problems to be an interesting job or anticipate with excitement reminding their child to do it? Few, if any. Nevertheless, some researchers suggest that a parent should maintain positive emotions in the homework context to counter the child’s negative response, since children are supposed to enjoy homework as well. Essentially, they are suggesting a parent should fib, as well as negate what the child feels, since it is likely most parents are not so positive about homework and how their kids are feeling about it. Why would anyone want to teach a child that it’s okay to lie or dismiss how a child feels? Let’s consider an alternative strategy that may be more in alignment with human motivation ; essentially, helping a child effectively use the motivation provided by his negative emotions to get his homework done.

Most often, what motivates a child to do his or her homework (or a parent to oversee it) are negative emotions. Negative emotions, like distress, fear , anger , disgust, and shame , will motivate a child to do something to avoid them, or urge a child to do something that will relieve their effects.[1] This does not imply that a child should ever be threatened by a parent or teacher with a behavior that activates negative emotion. It’s punishment enough for a child who experiences negative emotion in response to pages of math problems, be it anger, disgust, fear, or the anticipation of shame. Parents who recognize how to help the child make use of negative emotion can provide their child a lifelong gift: understanding human motivation.

So here is my point: Essentially, all humans are motivated by a desire to turn on emotions that are positive or to turn off the negative ones. A child may not be interested in or excited about doing homework, regardless of your efficacy as a cheerleader. And you don’t have to offer rewards as incentives, which can lead a child to expect that he or she should only do something for an external reward. And they don’t really understand the concept of intrinsic rewards in 3rd grade. But they do understand the notion of relief. The reason to get homework done, from the perspective of negative emotions, is to feel better. Relief from an emotion that is negative does feel better and it represents a primary reason why humans take care of many tasks in their lives. There is also another important component to this process. That is, the child should have a choice about timing and be helped to maintain that commitment. She may prefer to seek immediate relief by getting the work done as soon as possible so that it is off her mind and she can play. Or she may prefer to specify a later time when it will be done and engage in other activities until that deadline appears. Either way, the focus is on being effective and efficient, doing one’s best work, and relieving the negative emotion either now or later. Like adults and their tasks, children develop such preferences and you may even want to help them experiment with each way, without imposing your own style of getting things done.

Unfortunately, instead, researchers emphasize that negative emotions, especially on the part of a parent, will undermine a child’s motivation.[2] [3] Granted, I completely agree about the importance of a parent keeping their interactions with their children fun and loving around homework.[4] However, fun and loving does not involve lying and pretending to be positive about homework when you’re not, including feigning how exciting and interesting it is. Besides, some amusing moments with a child can occur when together you can laugh about something evoking a negative emotion, such as disgust. Yuck! Homework is disgusting! As well it can make you feel angry, distressed, and afraid that you'll experience shame if it isn't done well. Thus, a positive fun and loving relationship between parent and child can happen around seeking relief from homework emotions that are negative, and learning at the same time how to effectively use the emotions that evolved to motivate us.

[1] Tomkins, S. Affect imagery consciousness (1962/2008), New York, NY: Springer.

[2] Pomerantz, E.; Wang, Q.; & Fei-Yin Ng, F. (2005), cited above.

[3] Hokoda, A., & Fincham, F. D. (1995). Origins of children’s helpless and mastery achievement patterns in the family. Journal of Educational Psychology, 87, 375–385.

[4] Pomerantz, E.; Wang, Q.; & Fei-Yin Ng, F. (2005), cited above.

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This article was co-authored by Ashley Pritchard, MA and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden . Ashley Pritchard is an Academic and School Counselor at Delaware Valley Regional High School in Frenchtown, New Jersey. Ashley has over 3 years of high school, college, and career counseling experience. She has an MA in School Counseling with a specialization in Mental Health from Caldwell University and is certified as an Independent Education Consultant through the University of California, Irvine. There are 9 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 248,414 times.

Homework can be a drag, but it's got to be done to keep your grades up and stay on track during school. Going somewhere quiet, making a plan, and giving yourself breaks can all help you stay focused and on task to get your work done quickly. Try to keep your assignments organized and give yourself credit for completing hard or boring work, even if you didn’t want to.

Getting Motivated

• Keep a list of your assignments and check them off as you finish them. This can give you a sense of accomplishment that can motivate you to keep going.

• Make it the rule that you work for a certain amount of time, or until a certain amount of work has been accomplished. Afterward, you can hang out. Stick to this schedule.
• Try this out and see if it works. If you're too distracted by having friends around, make a date to hang out after homework instead.

• Make sure you keep the competition to yourself. Competing with your friends isn’t fun, especially over homework assignments and grades.

• Learning something that will probably help with future assignments, even if you don't know what they are yet.
• Proving to your teacher that you understand the homework so that they don’t keep assigning it over and over.
• Improving your GPA.
• Getting a good grade.

• Try not to reward yourself with food, as that can lead to snacking when you aren’t really hungry.

Staying Focused

• For instance, tell yourself that if you finish your first assignment in 20 minutes, you can go on your phone for 5 minutes.

• Make sure you stand up and do something when it's your break, or you won't get your wiggles out.
• Set a timer on your phone or use a kitchen timer to let yourself know when it's time to switch tasks.

• If you don't have control over the subject, try to find connections between the topic and something you care about. Find aspects of the subject that interest you.
• For instance, if you have to study History but you care the most about fashion, investigate the styles of the times and places you are studying. Learn how political and economical developments changed the way people dressed.

• You can find playlists on Spotify and YouTube that are made for studying and doing homework.

• When you're struggling to focus, sign out of your email and all social media so you don't check them as a reflex.

Creating Good Study Habits

• If you have many textbooks and worksheets, stack them and put them to the side.
• Get things like pencils, erasers, calculators, rulers, and paper.

• Having a planner will make it less tempting to procrastinate, as long as you have broken up your studying into manageable chunks.
• Your planner can be paper, or you can get one on your phone. Just make sure it has space for task lists as well as events.
• Once you have completed a task, cross it off or put a check next to it. Seeing that you're getting your work done will make you feel better, which in turn will motivate you to keep up the good work.
• Don't put more than you can do in one day on a list! Split up your week's work so that every day has a manageable amount.

• If you have a job or extracurricular activities that change your daily schedule, determine a weekly schedule that you stick to as much as possible.

• Sometimes just explaining what you have to do will help you understand it better.
• Talking to another person is a great way to brainstorm ideas. They may ask you questions or provide comments that can help you organize your ideas.
• Other times, the person you are talking to will notice something about the prompt that you overlooked.

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• Set up a dedicated study area at home with your needed supplies, to establish a consistent homework routine. Having everything in one prepared place helps minimize distractions.
• Use a planner to schedule out all your assignments. Break them into small, manageable pieces so it's less overwhelming. Checking tasks off as you finish motivates you along.
• If completely stuck on an assignment, reach out and talk it through with someone. Verbalizing it can provide new insights to move forward.
• Take short activity breaks every 45 minutes. Get up, stretch, grab some water. It refreshes your mental focus so you stay engaged.
• Incorporate a fun personal interest into an assignment when possible. Writing about something you care about keeps you absorbed.
• When you really need to concentrate, eliminate enticing distractions like your phone. Logging out keeps you on track.

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#1: She always has to be right.

It isn’t always easy to spot a toxic mom , especially if yours has been toxic for forever. You might not realize that her “annoying” traits — like the fact she brushes off your problems, criticizes your every move, or picks meaningless fights— all fall under the umbrella of toxic behavior . But they most definitely do.

In some cases, issues like these may be the result of an underlying mental health condition like borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder — both of which can create a toxic environment to grow up in as well as toxicity now that you’re an adult. But sometimes, toxic habits are simply due to a mom's immaturity more than anything else.

If your mom is immature , it may feel like you’ve always been the “mom” in the situation. This is what’s known as “ parentification ,” Dr. Racine R. Henry, PhD , a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. "It’s when children are expected to perform the physical/emotional/mental duties normally expected of a parent.” Parentification is unfair to experience as a kid because the parent/child roles are reversed. And as an adult, it can mean you have all sorts of conflict because your mom is unwilling to change, says Henry.

Whatever type of toxicity your mom has, Dr. Bethany Cook, PsyD, MT-BCk says it’ll begin to take a toll on your well-being. “It may inhibit your ability to relate to others in meaningful ways, and you may struggle to connect deeply with someone else and sharing your needs because when you were vulnerable with your mom, she shut your needs down or distorted them to benefit her,” she tells Bustle. And that’s why it’s so important to learn how to cope. Below are 17 signs your mom is toxic as well as what to to do about it.

She Always Has To Be Right

While your parents used to seem right when you were a kid, take note if your mom uses this as an excuse to dismiss what you’re saying. Not only is it tough to communicate with a mom who insists her opinion is 100% right, it’s a trait that can easily lead to stonewalling behavior, Cook says. When that happens, your mom will completely ignore you or shut down until you give in or agree.

She Ignores Your Boundaries

A toxic mother also has a way of ignoring boundaries , whether that means she barges into your apartment, tells people your secrets, posts things online when you asked her not to, makes unhelpful comments — you name it. “This is toxic because it sets up not only a power struggle between you and her but it also shows a lack of respect,” says Cook.

She Enables Dependence

As Cook says, you should consider it toxic “if your mom refuses to allow you to ‘grow up’ by insisting she does things for you that you should be doing for yourself, like making the bed, packing your own lunch, filling out paperwork without showing you how it's done, or laundry, among other things.” While some moms try to help out of genuine care, it’s a habit that can hold you back from becoming independent.

Other toxic moms might act like this intentionally to keep you dependent on her. It might be because she wants to be in control or because she’s having a tough time letting go of the role of caretaker. Either way, let her know that you appreciate the help but that she has to respect your boundaries.

She Oversimplifies Your Problems

Does your mom brush off your problems? Instead of offering support or advice, does she say things like, “You don’t need to go to therapy, you just need to try harder,” or “You aren’t depressed, you just don’t know how good you have it”? If so, consider it toxic.

While it might not seem like a big deal, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Amanda Darnley says these statements have a dismissive undertone. They also imply you don’t know how to take care of yourself, which is incredibly invalidating.

She Gets Mad At You For Being Emotional

Another sign? Your mother gets angry when you cry or show feelings. “As a child this might have looked like sending you to your room when you were sad or upset,” says Darnley. “As an adult, it might look like ignoring your calls for a month [or] changing the subject whenever anything remotely emotional comes up.”

She might even do things like ignore you for an extended period of time as a form of punishment. “These behaviors send the message that ‘emotions are not OK’ at best and ‘will not be tolerated’ at worst,” Darnley says.

She Claims You’re Overreacting

Take note if your mom constantly claims you’re overreacting, too, possibly by saying things like, “That didn’t happen,” or “Don’t be so sensitive.” As Darnley says, “This is particularly damaging because it sends the message that there is something wrong with you, your memories, your feelings, or your perspective. And over time, it can cause you to question your ability to view things accurately.”

It all comes back to invalidation, which Darnley says stifles authentic connection and ultimately causes you to question your own emotional reactions. As you get older, it’ll be tough for you to recognize your emotions and what causes them, leading you to feel confused about how you “should” react to things.

Every Conversation Makes You Upset

For an easy way to tell if your mom is toxic, consider how you feel after talking to her. If every conversation ends with you feeling guilty, angry, or invisible, that’s your sign, says licensed psychologist Dr. Tanisha M. Ranger, PsyD, CSAT-S, CMAT-S .

"Oftentimes when we are dealing with toxic people we can't put our finger on [what went wrong, but] conversations with them always seem to end with us feeling badly in some way,” she tells Bustle.

It can be super frustrating, as well as a sign it may be time to turn to other people in your life. As much as you'd like to call your mom and tell her everything, it may be healthier to talk with a therapist, best friend, or partner instead.

She Minimizes Your Achievements

Did you just graduate? Get a promotion? Rent a cool new apartment? If your mom can’t be bothered to congratulate you, it counts as toxic. What’s more, a toxic mom might minimize your achievements by saying something like, “Oh, that’s good, but your sister got promoted when she was 22.”

“Hearing messages like this consistently can lead you to have unhealthy and unattainably high standards for yourself, where essentially, even though you are high achieving, you’re still ‘failing,’” Darnley says.

Your Mom Wants To Be Your Best Friend

Remember Amy Poehler's "cool mom" character in Mean Girls ? That was a great example of a toxic, immature mom. And while it's obviously nice to have a loving mother who can also be a friend, it can easily go too far.

As author and stress management expert Debbie Mandel tells Bustle, "cool moms" tend to turn against their children the way a toxic friend might turn against you : by creating competition and doing whatever she can to erode your confidence.

If you constantly feel in competition with your mom — instead of loved and supported — this "cool mom" dynamic may be to blame. The best thing you can do is put up boundaries and create distance whenever possible.

You're Always The One Apologizing

Does your mom never say she’s sorry for how she treats you or speaks to you? "Toxic people, in general, have a lot of difficulty with taking responsibility and accepting the consequences of their own choices and behavior,” says Ranger. And that’s why, even though you didn’t do anything wrong, you’re always the one who has to reach out first and apologize.

She Always Plays The Victim

Your mom could also be playing the victim, which is another sign of toxicity. "Does your mother end disagreements over the phone by hanging up mid-convo? Does she avoid conversations about what she does wrong? When you try to tell her how she hurts your feelings, does she lash out or play the victim? An immature person often thinks they do no wrong and aren’t able to hear constructive criticism," says Henry.

If this perfectly describes the dynamic you have with your mom, it may help to put up some boundaries. By reacting to her every mood, you’re actually playing into her manipulation techniques. A toxic mom wants you to reach out and apologize and ask if she’s OK. Try giving her space the next time she plays the victim and see what happens.

She Cries To Get Her Way

While there’s nothing wrong with crying, toxic moms tend to use tears to their advantage. Henry says she might cry to get sympathy to get her way, particularly if you aren’t budging. And that is not OK.

"A parent should be able to communicate their needs and feelings without trying to manipulate you into bending to their will,” she says. This includes crying or running off into another room. All of these actions create drama that you just don't need.

She’s Super Critical

From cutting your hair to making lunch or choosing a partner, a toxic mom will always be looking over your shoulder with judgment in her eyes.

"It's the textbook scenario of a mother who picks apart every little thing about her adult child," Henry says. "If you find that you can’t do anything right, according to your mom, and you hear nothing but critiques this could be a sign of your mother struggling with her own maturity."

While it may be difficult to do, ignoring scathing comments from your mom may be helpful. Another option is to suggest you attend therapy together. If you’d like to maintain a connection with her, this may be a beneficial way to make her more aware of her toxic traits.

She Lashes Out When She’s Upset

Everyone's entitled to a minor slip-up or two when they're truly upset. Sometimes emotions run high and people say things they don’t mean. But if your mom lashes out, throws fits, or says awful things whenever she’s upset, consider it toxic with a capital T.

As therapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW tells Bustle, "A mother's role is to provide unconditional love, safety, and support,” so it’ll feel really bad when she uses harsh words or brings up a sore subject. The best thing you can do, in these moments, is to take good care of yourself.

“If you can physically limit yourself from her, counteract the toxic by finding and befriending healthy and supportive peers/mentors/coaches and spend time with them cultivating healthy relationships,” says Cook.

She Wants You To Fix Her Problems

If your mom needs help with a personal problem, that's certainly OK. It only becomes toxic if she starts to lean on you for everything — year after year — almost like you’re the parent.

If this sounds familiar, there is something you can do about it. Learning about boundaries and how to set them is a great place to start, Crystal Clancy, MA, LMFT , a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Bustle. That, and learning how to not take her behavior personally. "You need to know that it is not your fault that your mom is like this," Clancy says. "You do not have to continue to put up with the behavior."

Even though it can be difficult, a truly toxic situation may mean it's a good idea to go "no contact" with your mom — where you stop reaching, stop visiting, and fully focus on your own life — at least until she learns healthier ways to deal with her emotions.

She Wants To Control You And Your Siblings

If you have siblings, take it as a sign if your mom tries to get between you and control the way you communicate.

"[A toxic mom will] want to control the flow of information and turn siblings against each other so she will never be left out and so [you] will be disturbed enough to still need her," clinical psychologist Dr. Paul DePompo, PsyD, ABPP tells Bustle. "She [might] spread negative things that one sibling says to the other, and she will complain about one sibling to another — so your support toward her will turn away the sibling alliance."

If this seems to be the case, it'll be important that you don't give in or fall into her trap. "You have to allow her to be mad or disappointed and practice dealing with it," he says. "She will be cold next conversation but [you should] act as if all is OK. She will move on, especially when you make future plans with her."

You Have To Walk On Eggshells

Perhaps one of the most telling signs? Feeling as if you have to walk on eggshells around your mom, says Reena B. Patel, LEP, BCBA , a parenting expert, licensed educational psychologist, and board-certified behavior analyst. Whether you’re worried she’ll take your words out of context, embarrass you, or have a big emotional reaction, you always choose your words carefully for fear she’ll overreact.

It’s tough having a toxic mom , but remember there are things you can do to cope. As Patel says, “You are not your mom. You can take control and detach yourself. Seek support and therapy if needed. Do not react, take this personally, and do not feel responsible for your mom’s feelings. It is not our job to rescue her.”

Dr. Racine R. Henry, PhD , licensed marriage and family therapist

Dr. Bethany Cook, PsyD, MT-BCk , licensed clinical psychologist

Dr. Amanda Darnley , licensed clinical psychologist

Dr. Tanisha M. Ranger, PsyD, CSAT-S, CMAT-S , licensed psychologist

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This Is How You Can Cope With Being a Working Mom

If being a working mom is feeling extra messy these days, know you’re not alone — and you can reduce the stress and even up your enjoyment.

Being a working mom has always had its challenges (and upsides). Then came the pandemic, and life became way more complicated.

Most of us are still dealing with school and day care closures. Our supportive circles have shrunk. And the invites that were once a quick “yes” — play dates, activities — now feel more fraught.

In short, if you’re exhausted, you’re not alone.

According to 2020 data from Maven and Great Place to Work, 9.8 million working mothers reported experiencing burnout — almost 30% more than working fathers, with higher levels among Black, Asian, and Latina moms.

For single mothers, the pandemic has been especially difficult, with research confirming it.

How do I deal with being a working mother?

Whether you’re experiencing a few challenges being a working mother or you’re in full working mom burnout, you can reduce stress and even boost your joy.

Consider these 10 steps to cope with pandemic-related working mom stress.

1. Zero in on your burnout

“ Burnout ” is a big term. Bring it down to size by identifying where your burnout is coming from — and what solutions may help.

For example, according to Texas-based therapist and mom of two Heidi McBain , try self-reflecting:

• Is your burnout about work or home ?
• Could taking time off help?
• Can you hire help, or ask someone to pitch in?

2. Request changes at work

“I’ve found I needed to make bigger ‘asks’ at work by getting coverage for important meetings and taking more time off than I normally would,” says Desiree Walden-Chastain , a practicing attorney in the Midwest with a 2-year-old and 4-year-old.

In fact, Walden-Chastain, who also holds a bachelor’s degree in psychology, notes, “I shifted my mindset to ask, ‘Would this [request] be acceptable for a working dad?’ and, most often, the answer is yes.”

What changes can you request to reduce overwhelm?

3. Drop some balls

Ashley Brichter , a New York City mom, doula, and co-founder of the app Birthsmarter, suggests knowing your “glass balls” versus “rubber balls.”

Glass balls, she notes, “can’t be dropped and must be prioritized and attended to with care.” Rubber balls, however, “can be dropped or put down for a while without damage.”

To figure out which is which in your life, consider:

• What’s most important to me?
• What’s nonnegotiable?
• What can wait?

4. Adjust how you work

If your professional tasks allow for some flexibility, work in ways that are most helpful and empowering to you. For Walden-Chastain, burnout comes with anxiety around certain responsibilities.

“[I]f I ‘ eat the frog ’ and get the worst part of my job over with, I’m more confident and motivated to keep going,” she notes.

What energizes you to keep going ?

5. Be a loving parent… to yourself

Many of us have a loud inner critic that constantly reminds us we’re falling short.

As California-based relationship coach Nancy Landrum notes, your negative self-talk might scold you like this:

• “A good mom always stops what she’s doing to play with her child.”
• “A competent mom keeps up with laundry.”
• “A smart mom plans more nutritious meals.”
• “You’re selfish for wanting to relax when there’s so much left to do.”

You can counter these thoughts with self-compassion .

“Compassion enhances our immune system, changes the way our nervous system responds to distress, and reduces the effects of stress,” says Keshawn Hughes , a mom, certified neurocoach, and speaker in Atlanta, Georgia.

Neena Lall , LCSW, MPH, a New York City-based Grouport therapist, suggests using this affirmation : “Whatever I got done today was enough.”

Being loving with yourself is also critical for your kids.

As Lall notes, “By allowing your best to be enough, you’re modeling for your children that it’s OK to be human; it is OK to set expectations for yourself, fall short of them, get up, and try again the next day. By doing this for yourself, you’re affirming for your children that they don’t have to be perfect to be loved .”

6. Know your love language

Another self-compassionate practice is caring for yourself according to your love language , notes Hughes. She shares these examples:

• If your love language is words of affirmation, ask others to encourage you with supportive words and acknowledge your accomplishments. You can also create a board with inspirational quotes.
• If your love language is physical touch, take a bath, book a massage, and use a heating pad.

7. Take breathing breaks

“Breathing reconnects us with ourselves,” says Jessica LaMarre , an Arizona-based mom of three, holistic life coach, and author of “Reclaim Your Self! A Working Mom’s Healing Journey Back to HerSelf.”

Breathing “calms the vagus nerve , which moves us from the sympathetic nervous system ( fight, flight, or freeze ) to the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest),” says LaMarre.

To practice, simply take several deep breaths throughout the day.

You can try these five deep breathing techniques to get started.

8. Channel your anxiety

When thoughts of worry and anxiety arise, our bodies produce adrenaline and cortisol , which provide a quick burst of energy, explains Hughes.

Rather than letting worry take over, channel that energy into healthy action, such as dancing or practicing progressive muscle relaxation , she says.

9. Interrupt personal triggers

Similarly, Hughes suggests knowing when your worry typically pops up and swapping it with an alternative action.

For instance, she says if you typically feel overwhelmed first thing in the morning, listen to a guided meditation as soon as you open your eyes.

The key is to create a list of helpful, healthy practices, so you’re not having to come up with ideas during a stressful moment, adds Hughes.

You can pick practices that also reconnect you to yourself , as an individual.

10. Meet your needs — even in mini sessions

Throughout the day, you can ask yourself what you need. Pressed for time? Try thinking of a smaller way to still honor that need:

• Instead of a cardio session, do jumping jacks or run around the block with your kids.
• Instead of a yoga class, try these restorative poses at home.
• Instead of hours-long quiet time, listen to a soothing song while taking deep breaths.

Avoid the trap of all-or-nothing thinking .

Even slivers of self-care can instantly boost your mood and energy.

How do you get over the guilt of being a working mom?

If you’re feeling guilty about working, know that you can reduce this painful feeling.

First, understand it

LaMarre, whose feelings of guilt and shame were once constant, emphasizes acknowledging your guilt.

She suggests reflecting on these questions:

• Where do I feel guilt in my body?
• How has this guilt affected me?
• When do I first remember feeling guilty?
• Is there an image, thought, feeling, smell, or taste that comes up?
• Is this even my guilt, or was it inherited?

Refocus on the benefits

So often we focus on what work takes away from us. Consider what your job provides for you and your family. You can even make a list.

For example, Tanya Saunders , a nurse, coach, and mom to three, says maybe work allows you to:

• support your family
• be financially independent
• pursue your purpose

In most households, both caregivers need to work. So, what you do is significant.

Or, as Landrum says, “It’s not as if you can feed your kids air.”

Temper the comparisons

Most of us look to other working moms to gauge how we’re doing. But that usually just ups our guilt.

“Yes, there are some superstar moms who manage to teach their children advanced math concepts while making a three-course meal every day,” says Tejal V. Patel , a mindful parenting coach, author of “Meditation for Kids,” and mom of three.

But Patel notes, “That has no bearing on you and what you provide for your children. Look within your family and not outside of it. You’ll always find someone who does things better, but you’ll also always find someone who does things worse. And that’s just life.”

How can I be a ‘good mom’ if I work full time?

There’s no universal definition of a “good mom .” So, think about what being a good mom means to you — not anyone else.

In other words, what are your values around motherhood? What’s important to you?

For example, Saunders schedules one unique or special weekly activity with each child, like going on a lunch date or reading a new book.

Similarly, Patel suggests carving out 10 minutes of undivided time to be fully present with your kids and “enter their world.” Laugh together, discuss the highs and lows, she says. “Fully see, listen, play, and interact with them,” Patel adds.

In some cases, your concern about being a good mom may be a sign that you’d like to make a major change. As McBain notes, maybe you want to stay home, work part time, or find a fulfilling job with more flexibility.

Dig a bit and explore what you need and want to change — if anything.

Let’s recap

Being a working mom can be exhausting — especially with extra pandemic-related challenges.

But with a bit of self-reflection and small restorative habits throughout the day, you can reduce stress and enjoy both working and parenting.

On the days that guilt arises, pause and remind yourself of everything you are providing — both the big and seemingly small.

And above all, remember that you are a person who deserves care and compassion.

Last medically reviewed on January 28, 2022

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What’s the homework situation in your family? How much do your parents help with your homework? And in what ways?

Room for Debate recently asked whether parents should help their children with their homework or whether they end up doing more harm than good.

Experts weighed in with varying opinions.

Erika A. Patall, an assistant professor of educational psychology, writes:

When it comes to helping with homework, education and psychology research suggests that it all depends on how parents become involved. What is essential is that parents focus on supporting students’ motivation. Parent help can backfire when it involves providing instruction on homework content. In contrast, parents will support their kids’ school success when they communicate clear expectations and help students develop a homework routine. Students who have a clearly defined routine around homework — a set time, a set place and a set way to complete homework — are more likely to believe they can overcome challenges while doing homework, take more responsibility for learning, and ultimately do better in school. Homework is an especially good opportunity for parents to help young kids develop self-regulatory skills, by modeling study strategies and helping students set goals and make plans for completing homework. Parents should also give kids autonomy. When kids struggle with homework, parents sometimes have an instinct to take control by using commands, incentives, threats, surveillance, or just doing the work themselves. These tactics may work in the short term, but won’t benefit kids in the long run.

Martha Brockenbrough, a former high school teacher and the author of books for young readers, writes:

My daughters are 10 and 14. Once upon a time, I did everything for them. Then they learned and took over. This is a core principle of parenthood for me: If my kids can do it themselves, I don’t do it for them. My daughters sometimes wear questionable outfits and pack questionable lunches. Likewise, they’ve handed in homework that’s less than perfect. And this might look like incompetence, but when I see it, I see learning in progress. The principle seems to work equally well for all kinds of kids. One of my girls has learning disabilities and is in a private school that specializes in such things. The other is working two years ahead academically in a public school. Both have learned they prefer better grades and fewer corrections on their homework, so both do it carefully and on time.

Students: Read the entire article, then tell us …

— How much do your parents help with your homework? What kind of help do they provide?

— Do they help you develop a homework routine? Do they help motivate you and provide assistance when you ask?

— Do they ever use commands, incentives, threats or surveillance? Do they ever do the work themselves?

— Has the way your parents have supported you with homework changed as you have gotten older? Did they handle homework differently when you were in elementary school, for example?

— Does homework ever cause conflict in your family? How so?

— Are you happy with the way your parents support you with your homework? Or do you wish they would handle it differently? Why?

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– How much do your parents help with your homework? What kind of help do they provide?

Very little, and usually only when I asked. Unfortunately, despite both my parents being graduated, they had a tendency to do my work for me, especially in mathematics, and be rather impatient when I did not understand how they had done it.

– Do they help you develop a homework routine? Do they help motivate you and provide assistance when you ask?

They didn’t help; Until I entered 5th grade, when I was 11, I stayed the entire day at school, barely seeing my parents. The school caretakers, after the normal classes, helped us do homework. After my 5th grade, I had the morning for classes and then returned home. But, see, my father developed a thyroid condition in that year and had to be medicated heavily, which kept him asleep for most of the day, while my mother worked from 7am to 11pm. Both unable to reinforce any schedule, plus in that same year my school had financial problems which rebounded in teachers not passing homework and the whole administration was failing.

– Do they ever use commands, incentives, threats or surveillance? Do they ever do the work themselves?

They used to, and it left me frustrated because although the work was done, I didn’t understand a thing. Humanities were easier, because I could understand by reading a bit more, but mathematics and related– such as physics– I had to ask multiple times. My father had a doctorate in physics, but I hesitated to ask him for help as he usually explained something that went way over my head, and my mother had the tendency to take the notebook from my hands to do it herself, and not understand how I couldn’t grasp it.

– Has the way your parents have supported you with homework changed as you have gotten older? Did they handle homework differently when you were in elementary school, for example?

I don’t think so, as I stopped asking them. I find studying alone better, but it leaves a lot of gaps, especially in math.

– Does homework ever cause conflict in your family? How so?

It did, as it affected my grades. From that 5th grade (my 11 years) onwards, I couldn’t concentrate or didn’t have enough discipline to sit at home and make my homework. I also had problems remembering I had homework, as I couldn’t pay much attention in class. Usually, reaching the end of a bimester or trimester, where there were parent reunions and distribution of grades, my mother returned completely pissed, and it would be a few nightmarish hours of her screaming at me.

– Are you happy with the way your parents support you with your homework? Or do you wish they would handle it differently? Why?

I developed depression and suicidal tendencies in my teens. Today I’m 24, and still battle depression and a lack of discipline. I certainly wish it had been handled differently.

They help when they know I’m having trouble with a certain subject, and when they do they are patient about it. Yes, they have used commands and incentives, and I have gotten grounded, and I used to resent them for that. Now, though, I know that they have only ever wanted what’s best for me, including my education.

My parents rarely help me with my homework. When they do it’s usually because I am stuck on a problem and ask them to help me. Even then sometimes they can not help me because they don’t know how to do it either. When I was younger, my parents would keep a closer eye on the homework situation, and do a lot more to help me. Now it’s my responsibility to get my homework done and handed in on time. Which is good because it helps me get ready for college when they won’t be there to watch over me.

As a student in high school, my parents don’t help me out with my homework. They did help me a lot in elementary school but as time went on, they did not help me because the material was getting a lot harder. In elementary school, they helped me find what 2+2 was but as time went on they didn’t know how to find x if y=x2+9x-12. They helped me dramatically when the material was a lot easier. Once the material became harder, it was harder for them to teach me. At a certain point I couldn’t really ask them to help me because I didn’t want them to feel bad. I knew they tried their hardest to help me but once the material became harder, I had to learn how to teach myself the material. I knew that time would come. I had to start teaching myself once eighth grade came along. The material was getting tougher for the teacher to teach us let alone my parents to teach me. I know my parents tried to help me comprehend the material but they couldn’t do it any more once I went into middle school. They led me to the right direction in elementary school. They taught me a lot of things in elementary school that I carried out in middle school and high school. In eighth grade, they tried teaching me but they were doing it the wrong way. They would try to help me on my homework but once I got into class, all my answers were wrong. They tried helping me but it didn’t work out for my benefit. At a certain point, I had to say that I already did all my homework so they couldn’t try to help me out. I actually did work but not for long. They started asking questions. I always had my homework “finished” before I even got home. They started looking through my homework and found out I was still doing it wrong. I didn’t want to lie to them any more so I wanted to tell them the truth. I told them that they couldn’t help me and I didn’t understand the material. They told me that I should have told them a while ago. They called a tutor for me so I can actually understand what was going on during class. I did get caught lying but looking back at it, I am happy I did because it led me into getting a tutor that actually knew how to teach. My parents tried helping me with my homework but it didn’t really help me.

At sixteen years old my parents rarely help with my homework but when I was younger my parents would help more often. During elementary school, they would help me the most and then a little during middle school but not much. During elementary school when I would have trouble with a math problem they would help me solve it by going through the steps on how to solve the problem. If I was doing English homework and I did not understand what a question was asking my parents would explain what it meant using different words then the question used. These days with the common core curriculum it is going to get harder for parents to help kids with their homework because it is a different way of learning then what they are used to. When I was younger my parents would always encourage me to start my homework as soon as I got home. Ever since then, whenever I get home I always try and start my homework right away and get all of it done. This routine gets hard when sports start because I am not able to get my homework done right after school, because of practice, but whenever practice is over I try and get it done as soon as possible. My parents provide me with motivation to do my homework and also provide assistance when I need help. My parents rarely ever use commands, incentives, threats or surveillance and never do the work themselves. As I have gotten older, the support from my parents dealing with homework has been the same or maybe even increased. They have also encouraged my to do all of my homework, giving it one hundred percent and doing it the best that I can. Homework not only helps with reenforcing what you learned during the day but it can also improve your grade. During elementary school my parents would definitely help with my homework more then they do now because I was younger still needing help with many things. Now they still help me when I need help but they won’t do the problem for me, they will just explain what a question is asking or put a question in different words so it makes more sense for me. Homework rarely ever causes conflict in my family, but if it were to cause conflict it would be because of stress. Sometimes when people have a lot of homework or they are stuck on a problem they don’t know how to do they can have stress which may lead to conflict. I am happy with the way my family supports me with my homework, because they started encouraging homework at a young age which has helped me throughout the years. I always get all my homework done and complete it to the best of my ability.

Doing homework is can be super tough and a big hassle when it’s piled on more and more from each class period. I find it easier to do my homework on my own, but if I ask my parents to help me with something (not math) like proof reading an essay or simple asking them about a phrase or word I can’t remember. I don’t ask for help if it’s not to necessary, but whenever I do, they are always willing to help me get the answer.

i wish they would let me try a little more by myself

1.I usually get very little to no help on my homework from my parents and when they do help me wether or not their help is effective depends on the kind of work. 2. My parents will for the most part help me if I ask them they do not help me develop a routine but I have made myself one. 3. My parents don’t often do anything unless I ask them for help. 4. I had handled thing different than I did now in second and third grade when I started to need help from my parents about when to do my homework my parents for the most part support my changes in how I do home work. 5. Homework does not for the most part cause conflict in my family 6. I am happy with how my parents are handling my homework because it allows me to work independently

1). My parents help me a bit. Not too much though they don’t do it for me. If I don’t understand something they explain and I Usually get it after a few times. They provide me examples.

2). I don’t really have a homework routine. When I ask for help they do help but with a limit I do think that if the teachers are giving the work most kids should know it and not need help.

3). They don’t Usually command or watch me. If I am not doing it and they catch than I loose some autonomy.

4). They have changed there style of helping me with homework. I get more freedom but if I am messing around they get stricter which I find helps me.

5). Homework does cause conflict in my home. When my parents get mad about homework I get upset and turns into a fight.

6). I am happy with the way they handle homework. It helps me and It is sometimes annoying but in the long run it helps me a lot and I think it will help me.

1. My parents help me on my homework sometimes, but when they do they don’t do the work for me they help me figure it out for I can do it for myself.

2. My parents don’t motivate me to do it they just expect me to get it done becasie it’s my responsibility, they will usally help me when I ask them for my help.

3. They never command me or anything because it’s my responsibility and if I decide to not do it I get the punishment from my teachers.

4. My parents handle the homework the same as they did in elementary school, they helped me with my work but they didn’t do the work for me and they expected me to get it done or to know when I have to do it.

5. Homework never causes conflicts in my family because it’s my job to get it done and to self advocate if I don’t understand the homework, or if left it at school. My parents never yelled at me and told me to do my homework.

6. I am happy the way my parents support me with my homework I think nothing could get any better they help me when I need it and they are not looking over my shoulder when I’m doing it they leave it to me.

1.My parents don,t help me that much but they help me if I don,t understand a certain thing on my homework.

2.My Mom has had me develop a homework routine when I get home from school and my Mom is a great motivator to me a lot and she will provide assitence when I ask

3.Of course sometimes my Mom will get annoyed when I’m slow and not really concentrating and will tell to focus back in and hurry up and get it done.

4.My Mom has helped me practically the same way with homework since the 1st grade except I’m more Independant with homework now that I’m older.

5.Homework without a doubt will cause conflicts at home because me and my two sisters both have super busy schedules filled with activities during weeknights

6. I am happy with the way my parents help me with my handle homework,there very nice and patient about it.

Jaylin H 11/17/14 Writing

How ofter do your parents help you?

My parents rarely help me with my homework, if i need any help, which is not a lot, my parents would help me. My parents provide like teaching me how to do this then I got it on my own.

No my parents do not help me with a work routine I usually do my homework at my time when I want too. Yes they do help me and motivate me or provide assistance when I need help anytime.

Yes sometimes they use commands when I’m frustrated and they say come on get your homework done so you wont be so frustrated. Or sometimes they would threaten me if I don’t get my homework done i’m going to have to sit in my room for the rest of the night. If my parents are kind of confused or forget the work that I do they would have to do some of the work themselves.

When I was in kindergarden my dad used to help me every single day with my work and he would tell me to do my homework at this time every single day. So as I gotten older my dad has helped me less and less because he thinks I got this on my own. When I was In elementary school my parents helped me differently because they knew i had trouble in school everyday.

No my homework is not a conflict in my family we are usually calm about it.

Yes i’m happy about how my parents support me because they don’t really give me help because they give me more freedom and i could do this on my own and i’m just happy that they can give me more space while doing my homework.

My parents usually do not help with my homework at all. When my parents help they have almost always learned it a different way and can not help me. When they do it ends up being very confusing and does not work. If I need help I can just go into school early the next day and ask the teacher.

My parents like me to start my homework as soon as I get home. Sometimes that doesn’t happen, it depends on if I have a sport and when it is. For instance, if I have a sport in 20 minutes I’m not going to start my homework, but if I have one in 2 hours I will.

My parents have never really used any treats or surveillance that they are serious about, but if they did I don’t think they would work.

When I was in elementary school my parents used to help me a little. We released it just confused me more so sometimes I would ask my sister to help. Now I just ask my teachers for help in the beginning of the day.

Homework never really causes conflict, I can just finish it by myself and nobody has to get involved.

I’m happy my parents are not involved with my homework if I they where I think it would just be frustrating and confuse me. I’m also happy that the teachers are open to help in my school, or else I don’t know what I would do when it came to homework.

1Q)How much do your parents help with your homework? What kind of help do they provide? 1A) If I’m really struggling my parents will help me by explaining it in way I would understand and show me how to solve it and let me watch them do it than after they would make me do it and once I eventually get it they will leave me to try to finish on my own.

2Q)Do they help you develop a homework routine? Do they help motivate you and provide assistance when you ask? 2A) I don’t really have a homework routine because my scuduale changes everyday, but to help me get it done at a reasonable time each day they will give me reminders to get to work and start it

3Q)Do they ever use commands, incentives, threats or surveillance? Do they ever do the work themselves? 3A) If I’m procrastinating and getting off track my mom will always be there around me to get me back on track and even sometimes threat me to get it done or she won’t let me go to sports practice later on if I don’t complete my homework.

4Q)Has the way your parents have supported you with homework changed as you have gotten older? Did they handle homework differently when you were in elementary school, for example? 4A) Yes because when I was in elementary school they would help me a lot more and always be by my side while doing it an doing it with me. Now it’s more my job and on me to be getting it done and doing it alone.

5Q)Does homework ever cause conflict in your family? How so? 5A) Yes because if we all need help at the same time my parents can’t help all of us at the same time and I get home really late from practice and that causes a lot of homework conflicts in everyone.

6Q) Are you happy with the way your parents support you with your homework? Or do you wish they would handle it differently? Why? 6A) Yes I am because If I need help they will help me and make sure I get it.

If I am having a lot of trouble with my homework my mom or dad will give me an example to guide me with the rest of the work but they mostly want me to be independent. I never really had a problem making a H.W. routine or being motivated because I know it is just life you need to do homework. Because of this they have never had to threaten me and certainly never did my H.W for me. Even in my elementry school years my parents have always had the same values about working hard and being independent with my H.W. Unfortunatly, my sister is a huge precrasinater and is always on her phone and there has been huge conflicts when it is nine thirty at night and she has only gotten one page done. I am very happy with the way my parents have handled homework because it has shaped my good homework habits I have today.

Jason H 11/17/14 Literature/Writing A/P How Much Do Your Parents Help With Your Homework?

My parents only help me with my homework when I’m really stuck on a a problem or when I’m trouble understanding a question. Other then that my parents don’t help me with my homework. My parents do not help me develop a homework routine. It is automatic for me to come home and start my homework. Yes, my parents help motivate me and provide assistant when I ask. I ask for assistant when I don’t understand a question. No, my parents don’t ever use commands, incentives, threats or surveillance. No, they don’t ever do the work themselves. They would give me examples but not do the work. The way my parents have supported me with my homework has changed as I gotten older. It has changed as I gotten older because when I was much younger I would need a lot of help figuring the questions on my homework and now since I have gotten older I don’t need as much help with my homework. Yes, my parents handled homework differently when I was in elementary for example, my mom would sometimes sit next to me incase I would need help. After fourth and fifth grade my parents haven’t been sitting next to me just incase I would need help. I have been doing my homework on my own. No, homework doesn’t cause a conflict in my family. yes, I am happy the way my parents support me with my homework. I am happy with the way they support me because they don’t ask me if I got all my homework done. They know that I am responsible enough to get my homework done.

My parents help me a lot to finish my homework. They don’t really finish the entire homework for me .The only thing what they do for me whenever I find any problem to finish my homework and they only do that specific part for me and I don’t think that they should help me to finish the entire homework. They help me to develop a homework routine. Yes, they motivate me and provide assistance when I ask. They do use commands and incentives but not the other options. They don’t ever do the work themselves for me. No the way didn’t changed when I got older .yes they changed the way they liked to handle homework differently when i was in elementary school. No homework don’t really cause any conflict in my family because my parents are really cooperative to each other and in my case they are really responsible .Yes, I am happy with my parents support and in my opinion I think sometime they help me to finish the homework in Sunday night for the Monday school and it makes me thinking throughout the weekend but I wish if they would helped me Friday night in place of Sunday night for Monday school.at the end I would like say that I am really happy to have such an helpful parents.

For me my parents help me to do nothing with my homework, because they always tell me that is your homework. When I was some confused for homework they often give me prompt. No they don’t help me develop a homework routine. Yes when I ask them, they motivate me and provide assistance me. They never use threats and surveillance for me. I think do they ever do the work themselves, so they don’t do for me. Yes they supported me with homework changed as me have gotten older. When I was in elementary school, my parents handle math and Languages homework. Yes, does the homework ever cause conflict in my family, because for one question we have different opinion so does homework ever cause in my family. Yes I am happy with the way my parents support me with my homework, because if they don’t support me do homework, I think I will lose many happy things.

I strongly believe that parents should help their child with their homework, they can give them clue or tray to explain in an easier way to go through it, so they can do it themselves. I agree that Parents should not do the homework for their children because they’re not helping them to learn, I believe that kids in young age like six or seven, parents should teach them how to do it, so that can benefit kids in the long run. at the end When they grow, or become adult they will be capable to do any homework in school or college without their parents do it for them.

I think that when parents help their children, everything is going to be ok. Parent’s help all the time is necessary because when parents support their children the children get more motivation. Sometimes is not easy to get parent’s help because usually parents are working. If we want that our children do better in school we have to help them do their homework. Sometime when parents say something good to student we get motivation because we think that we aren’t alone in our run to college. I’m a student and sometimes is very difficult to tell my father that I need some help because sometimes he is very tired. Usually he says that I can do what I want, when he says that I feel so comfortable because I think that he is next to me. When parents give advice to their children and support them student do better in schools, colleges, and in different ways of our life.

As a mother, I love to be involved in with my son’s homework, he is kindergarten, so he needs it. I encourage him to it and he does it before he watches his favorite show on TV. Initially he didn’t like to do it, today he has fun doing it, I noticed that he had gained confidence because I usually post some of his work on the door of the refrigerator. I think he likes it. I noticed that he has gained confidence because he talks with the family about it, I hope, he will do it with less supervision. I think it is very important to help children with homework and teach them to love it

When I was in elementary school my father helped me to do my homework. My father helped me to learn English and mathematics. But my mother was always busy with household works because our family was joint family. We lived in a big house with many other cousins and uncles family. That’s why my father always helped me in my study. He gave me a homework routine. He also gave vocabulary list. He always gave warning to finish homework. What I progress in my life because of my father. He always wants that I and my siblings become a successful person. Without his inspiration I did not come here. My father is an angry person that’s why I finished my homework every day. When I was in high school he didn’t support the way he liked to do in my elementary school. I handled my homework alone. In my family home work does not create conflict. Yes, I am happy with my parents support.

I am mother, I have 3 kids, they are 17, 4, and 7 years old. I think that the parents have a lot of responsibility with the children. we need to help to kids when they don’t understand or when they need our collaboration because they feel better when we help to them. Is different to do than to help. They need more responsibilities in their homework, but when are kids, sometimes they don’t concentrate in homework. When they have any homework but they need my help of course, I help and give them necessary resource for develop their homework . I am very happy with my children because we are a set, we are united. For this reason we can help betwen ourselves. We have good supporting in our home because my oldest daughter help his brother with homework. In my home we try to buy different books or we have a web page with instruments necessaries for to do exercise in topics when they need help.

How much do your parents help with your homework? What kind of help do they provide? My parents helped me a lot, when I was child. Sometime when I couldn’t do some assignments like math, or other things, they were there to help me. Even now they help me although they do not know English they help me in Spanish. In my opinion when the parents help the children to do their homework everything is going to be better. Sometime the parents do not pay attention about their children, sometime when children need some help and their parents do not help them, the children will have some problems

How much do your parents help with your homework? What kind of help do they provide? My parents helped me a lot, when I was child. Sometime when I couldn’t do some assignments like math, or other things, they were there to help me. Even now they help me although they do not know English they help me in Spanish. In my opinion when the parents help the children to do their homework everything is going to be better. Sometime the parents do not pay attention about their children, sometime when children need some help and their parents do not help them, the children will have some problems.

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Simple Past or Present Perfect Simple

Put the verbs into the correct tense (simple past or present perfect simple).

• I (just / finish) my homework.
• Mary (already / write) five letters.
• Tom (move) to this town in 1994.
• My friend (be) in Canada two years ago.
• I (not / be) to Canada so far.
• But I (already / travel) to London a couple of times.
• Last week, Mary and Paul (go) to the cinema.
• I can't take any pictures because I (not / buy) a new film yet.
• (they / spend) their holiday in New Zealand last summer?
• (you / ever / see) a whale?

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DÀNH CHO MỌI LỚP 6 ĐẾN 12

My mother was tired She helped me with my homework          

My mother was tired. She helped me with my homework.                                  ( ALTHOUGH )

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Lời giải của tự học 365.

Giải chi tiết:

Đáp án: Although my mother was tired, she helped me with my homework.

Câu gốc: mẹ tôi rất mệt; bà ấy giúp tôi làm bài về nhà. Đây là 2 mệnh đề có tính trái ngược. Ta dùng liên từ Although (=mặc dù) để nối 2 mệnh đề

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I love going to the mountains _______ the winter.

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1. Although my sister  (A) was tired  (B), but   (C) she helped me with  (D) my homework

2. If he would speak  (A) more slowly (B), I could understand  (C) him  (D)

3. Linh wishes (A) that she is given  (B) a teddy  (C) bear at (D) Christmas

4. Mrs. Brown told us  (A) that she would come  (B) and see  (C) us tomorrow  (D)

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1 C => bỏ

2 A => spoke

3 B => would be given

4 D => they day after

1. He ordered that she .......here on time for their essential conference on global warming.

a. is b. was c. be d. would be

2. The UN urged that both sides ........shooting.

a. to stop b. stop c. stopped d. stopping

3. The teacher suggested we ......... our final test quietly.

a. completed b. to complete c. completing d. complete

4. She looked as if she ....a ghost.

a. sees b. has seen d. saw d. had seen

5. I'd like you ............. the report before I come back, Sue.

a. perfect complete b. perfectly complete c. complete perfect d. to perfectly complete

6. He is too young ........... this kind of film.

a. see b. to see c. seeing d. sees

7. Her sister is not qualified enough ....... the task.

a. appoint b. to be appointed c. to appoint d. appointed

8. My brother didn't run .............. to break the record of short distance.

a. quickly enough b. enough quickly c. quickly d. quicker

9. I don't believe what she says, I think she...........

a. lies b. is telling lies c. is laying d. is lying

10. "Thank you very much for the party." - .....................

a. Of course, it is. b. I'm glad that you like it.

c. I don't think so. d. Okay, me too.

1. The 2014 World Cup will be held………………. Brazil.

A. at B. on C. of D. in

2. I feel homesick. ______________, I can’t stop working here now.

A. Therefore B. But C. However D. Otherwise

3. I’ll look for another job ______________ my salary is increased.

A. unless B. when C. if D. because

4. ____________ Minh was tired, he helped his sister with her homework.

A. Since B. Because C. In spite of D. Although

5. Do you know the men who ____________ just come in? A. has B. have C. is D. were

6. After an hour walking, everyone felt tired and hungry, so they stopped and had a ______.

A. supper B. breakfast C. snack D. lunch

7. Do you like the book………………….. I gave you last week?

A. whom B. which C. who D. whose

8. We’d better hurry, or the train might _____________ without us.

A. leave B. stop C. arrive D. reach

9. I suggest Nam…………………….. English everyday.

A. practised B. practising C. practices D. should practice

10. Tom and Jerry like wearing glasses, ………………………….…?

A. have they B. haven’t they C. don’t they D. do they

IV . Supply the correct form or Tenses of Verbs in parentheses : (1pt)

1. They met their old friends while they _______________________ in Da Nang. (work)

2. I don’t know why they kept ___________________________ at me. (laugh)

3. Our school garden should ________________________ regularly. (clean)

4. We will have a picnic if it _______________________ tomorrow. (not rain)

I / (1,0p Choose the word in each group that has the underlined part pronounced differently from the rest

1. A. nothing B. cover C. morning D. done

2. A. how B. town C. slow D. power

3. A. change B. chemistry C. choose D. cheese

4. A. match B. catch C. math D. watch

5. A. bread B. great C. break D. steak

II/ (3,0 points) Choose the best word or phrase to complete the following sentences.

1. I like reading books ______ tell about different peoples and their cultures.

A. who B. whom C. which D. where

2. “Buy me a dictionary on your way back,______?”

A. will you B. don’t you C. can’t you D. are you

3. Mary usually walks to school but today she ______ a bike.

A. ride B. rides C. riding D. is riding

4. She worked hard ______she passed the exam.

A. so B. if C. because D. as

5. I’ll give you a lift to the station if you _______ in a hurry.

A. were B. are C. will be D. would be

6. I’m feeling pretty tired. Do you mind ______ me home?

A. taking B. took C. take D. to take

7. Nam looks much _______ today than yesterday.

A. good B. well C. better D. the best

8. Scientists and engineers have invented devices to remove ______ from industrial wastes.

A. polluted B. pollute C. polluting D. pollutants

9. The dress you bought is of very good quality. It ______ very expensive.

A. may be B. must be C. should have been D. must have been

10. The Pikes put ______ their trip because of bad weather.

A. away B. up C. out D. off

11. Neither Linh nor her classmates ______ the National Museum so far.

A. visit B. visited C. have visited D. has visited

12. Nga: “You look nervous! ______” – Hoa: “This thunder scares me to death.”

A. How are you? B. Why’s that? C. Come on! D. What’s wrong?

13. He was homesick and he ______ all his family and friends.

A. missed B. wished C. desired D. hoped

14. I'm very ______ to you for putting in so much hard work.

A. thoughtful B. grateful C. considerate D. careful

15. If you come to the theatre late, you have to wait until the ______ to get in.

A. break B. refreshment C. interval D. half-time

III. Choose the underlined part (marked A, B, C or D) that needs correction.

21. I look forward to have the resolution to the problem I have mentioned .

22. They have moved nothing in your room while they sent you to the hospital.

23. Aren’t you afraid that they will sack you if you didn’t start coming to work on time?

24. I had to drive to the factory to pick up my brother, who’s car wouldn’t start.

25. It was not easy for us getting tickets for the concert.

IV. Give the correct tense or form of the verbs in brackets.

26. When my mother came home from work, I_________(cook) dinner.

27. Jane_________(go) to school by bicycle every day.

28. The children_________(play) badminton in the stadium now.

29. You_________(go) to London last month?

30. The candidates mustn’t_________(bring) books into the examination room.

V/ (1,5 points) Read the passage and choose the best option A, B, C or D to answer the question.

Along with jogging and swimming, cycling is one of the best all-round forms of exercise. It can help to increase your strength and energy, giving you more efficient muscles and a stronger heart. But increasing your strength is not the only advantage of cycling. Because you’re not carrying the weight of your body on your feet, it’s a good form of exercise for people with painful feet or backs. However, with all forms of exercise it’s important to start slowly and build up gently. Doing too much too quickly can damage muscles that aren’t used to working. If you have any doubts about taking up cycling for health reasons, talk to your doctor and ask for his/her advice.

Ideally you should be cycling at least two or three times a week. For the exercise to be doing you good, you should get a little out of breath. Don’t worry that if you begin to lose your breath, it could be dangerous and there must be something wrong with your heart. This is simply not true; shortness of breath shows that the exercise is having the right effect. However, if you find you are in pain then you should stop and take a rest.

1. People with back problems might go cycling because__________.

A. it enables them to carry the weight of their body on their feet

B. it does not make them carry the weight of their body on their feet

C. it helps to make their backs become stronger

D. it helps them to relieve their backache

2. All forms of exercise must be started__________.

A. gradually B. quickly C. strenuously D. violently

3. According to the writer, it is best to go cycling__________.

A. once a week B. at least two or three times a week

C. at least two or three times a day D. every day

4. You should not worry about the shortness of breath because__________.

A. it shows that there is something wrong with your heart

B. it shows that you should stop and take a rest

C. it is a sign of exercise having the right effect

D. it is a sign of your getting rid of your heart problem

5. Which of the following is NOT included in the advantages of cycling?

A. Giving you a stronger heart B. Increasing you strength and energy

C. Giving you better muscles D. Making you look younger

VI/ (1,5 points) Fill in each blank with one suitable word.

Energy is one of the problems that many people are interested in. It is not an unfamiliar word. It is heard, said, discussed day after day. It is close to everyone’s (1)_____ life. You turn on the lamp and it is (2)______ that gives you light. You turn on a TV and it is energy that gives you pictures and sound. You ride a motorcycle and it is energy that gives you movement. You (3)______ your meals and it is energy that gives you heat to boil rice.

The problem is that the demand for energy is rising and that the price of energy is getting (4)______ and higher. The supply of energy on earth is limited. It cannot provide us all forever. The shortage of energy in the future is inevitable. Therefore, (5)______ energy is a must if we want to continue to live in a safe and sound world.

VII/ ( 1,5p) Complete the following sentences, using the words or phrases suggested.

1. I / feel / hopeful / that / we / find / suitable house / very soon.

.....................................................................................................................

2. She / not / play / piano / well / as / her sister.

3. I wish / could / give you / all the expensive things / life.

......................................................................................................................

4. You / hear / Maria / since / you / leave school?

.......................................................................................................................

5. The people / live / next door to us/ keep / have / all night parties.

........................................................................................................................

VIII/ (1,5p) Finish each of the following sentences in such a way that it means exactly the same as the sentence printed before it.

1. People are going to build a new library in the area.

A new library _______________________________________________.

2. “Why don’t you take a day off tomorrow?” she said to me.

She suggested that ____________________________________________.

3. The weather is bad so we can’t go camping.

If the weather ________________________________________________.

4. He was punished because he behaved badly.

Because of __________________________________________________.

5. The keeper had no sooner opened the case door than the lion attacked him.

Hardly ______________________________________________________.

II. Supply the correct tense for the verbs in brackets

1) I suddenly remembered that I (forget) ..............my keys. 2) While Diana (watch) .............her favorite TV program, there (be) ......a power cut. 3) Who (drive) .................... the car at the time of the accident? 4) David (eat) ............. Japanese food before, so he (know) ................. what to order. 5) I (do) ............... some shopping yesterday, when I (see) ....................... your friend. 6) What .............. you (do).......... when I (come) .................. to your office yesterday? 7) Laura (miss) ............ the party because of no one (tell) ......................... her about it. 8) If someone (walk)...................... in here with a gun, I would be very frightened. 9) I’m sure he (understand) ...................... if you explain the situation to her. 10) If she hadn’t walked to the meeting, she (not be).................. late. 11) He always (complain) ........................ if I’m late. 12) If he spoke more clearly, we (understand) ................................... him. 13) If the woman (say) ............ what she wanted, I wouldn’t have put the phone down. 14) If they arrived in time, they (see) ..................... the ceremony. 15) If you (ask)........................ me, I would explain it to you.

I. Choose the word which has the underlined part is pronounced differently from the others (1pt)

II. Choose the best answer A, B, C or D to complete each of the following sentences (2pts)

A. plant B. planted C. to plant D. planting

A. however B. so C. although D. because of

A. haven’t seen B. aren’t seen C. doesn’t see D. don’t see

A. played B. playing C. play D. plays

A. was B. were C. is D. will be

A. If B. And C. Or D. Although

A. in B. on C. a D. to

A. whom B. who C. whose D. which

A. do you B. don’t you C. are you D. doesn’t you

A. can B. will C. must D. would

III. Supply the correct form of the words in brackets to complete the following sentences. (1pt)

III. Choose the best underlined word or phrase in each sentence that needs correcting.(1pt)

V. Put the verbs in the brackets into the correct tense forms. (1pt)

VI. Read the text, then answer the questions below it (2 pts)

Clothes can tell a lot about person. Some people like very colorful clothes because they want everyone to look at them and they want to be the center of things. Others like to wear nice clothes, but their clothes are not colorful or fancy. They do not like people to look at them. Clothes today are very different from the clothes of the 1800s. One difference is the way they look. For example, in 1800s, all women wore dress. The dresses all had long skirts. But today, women do not wear dresses with long skirts. Sometimes they wear short skirts. Sometimes they wear pants. Another difference between 1800s and today is the cloth. In the 1800s, clothes were made only from natural kinds of cloth. They were made from cotton, wool, silk. But today, there are many kinds of man-made cloth. A lot of clothes are now made from nylon, rayon or polyester.

...................................................................................................................................................

2. What kind of clothes do other people like to wear?

3. Were the clothes of the 1800s the same as today ?

4. What do sometimes women wear today?

5. Are there many kinds of man-made cloth now?

VII. Complete the second sentence so that it has the same meaning with the first one. (2pts)

He was busy, …………………………………………………………

2.It’s a pity. We can’t speak English well.

We wish ……………………………………………………………...

3. “Do you like classical music ?” She asked me.

She asked me ……………………………………………...................

4.The man is my new boss. He is talking to the lady over there.

The man ……………………………………………………………..

5. “Why don’t you buy them this picture as a wedding present, Tom ?”

Jane suggested ………………………………………………………

6. What a pity my wife can't speak English.

I wish ...................................................................................................................................................

7.The man called the police. His wallet was stolen.

The man ..............................................................................................................................................

8. English people speak very quickly. That's why I can't understand them.

If ..........................................................................................................................................................

9. The last time we saw Peter was on Sunday.

We haven't.............................................................

10. This city had old buildings, but none can be found nowadays.

There used .........................................................................................................................................

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Viết lại các câu sau sử dụng cách nói gián tiếp. 1. “Open the door,” he said to them. -He told them................................................................... 2. “Where are you going?” he asked her. -He asked her where......................................................... 3. “Which way did they go?” he asked. -He asked... ...................................................................... 4. “Bring it back if it doesn’t fit”, I said to her. -I told... ............................................................................ 5. “Don’t try to open it now,” she said to us. -She told... ........................................................................ 6. “Is it going to be a fine day today?” I asked her. -I asked her... .................................................................... 7. “He’s not at home”, she said. -She said that... ................................................................. 8. “Is the bus station far away?” the girl asked. -The girl wanted to know... .............................................. 9. “Don’t stay out late, Ann” Tom said. -Tom told Ann... ............................................................... 10. “Please let me borrow your car,” he said to her. -He asked... ........................................................................ 11. “Jean, have you seen my gloves?” Thomas asked. -Thomas asked Jean..... 12. Don’t leave the window open, Mary”, I said. -I told Mary.... ................................................................... 13. “I’ll have a cup of tea with you,” she said. She said that... 14. “I’ll pay him if I can” she said. -She said that... ................................................................... 15. “What are you going to do next summer?” she asked. - She asked us.... ................................................................... 16. “I’ll phone you tomorrow,” he told Jack. -He told Jack that.... ............................................................. 17. “Can I sit beside you, Jean?” Tom asked. -Tom asked Jean.... .............................................................. 18. “I want a camera for my birthday,” he said. -He said that.... ................................................................... 19. “Don’t keep the door locked,” he said to us. -He told us.... ................................................................... 20. “How long are you going to stay?” I asked him. -I asked him how long.... 21. “Are you going by train?” she asked me. -She wanted to know.... .................................................. 22. “Don’t use too much hot water,” she said to us. -She asked us.... .............................................................. 23. “Will you come to my party?” she said to me. -She invited me.... ............................................................ 24. “Don’t do it again,” she said to them. She told them.................................................................. 25. “ Did Mr Brown send the potatoes to you?” she asked. -She asked....................................................................... 26. “Don’t get your shoes dirty, boys,” she said. -She told.......................................................................... 27. “What do you want for lunch today, Peter?” Mary asked. -Mary asked....................................................................... 28. “Can I borrow your typewriter, Janet?” asked Peter. - Peter asked if ....................................................................... 29. “Why didn’t I get a computer before?” thought the office manager. -The office manager wondered............................................................ 30. “You had better not lend him any more money, Elizabeth,’’ said John. -John advised Elizabeth........................................................................ 31. “You stole my best cassette, Amanda!” said John. -John accused....................................................................................... 32. “ You damaged my bicycle, John!” said Mary. -Mary accused...................................................................................... 33. “When was your little boy born?” said the nurse to Mrs. Bingley. -The nurse asked Mrs. Bingley............................................................... 34. “You should take more exercise, Mr. Robert,” the doctor said. -The doctor advised................................................................................ 35. “Will I find a job?”, Tim said to himself. -Tim wondered....................................................................................... 36. “I’m sorry I gave you the wrong number,” said Paul to Susan. -Paul apologized..................................................................................... 37. “When is the first day of your holiday, Peter?” Martha asked. - Martha asked Peter when..................................................................... 38. “Can I have a new bicycle?” said Anna to her mother. -Anna asked............................................................................................ 39.. “Don’t leave the house until I get back, William”, his mother said. - William’s mother told.......................................................................... 40. “Don’t bite your nails,” said Mrs. Rogers to her son. -Mrs. Rogers told....... ............................................................................. 41. “I’ve seen the film three times, Mary” said George. -George said............................................................................................ 42. “I’m sorry, Angela,” said Martin, “I’m afraid I’ve damaged your car. -Martin apologized.................................................................................. 43. “Have you had enough for lunch?” the landlady asked us. -The landlady asked................................................................................ 44. “ John, please don’t tell anyone my new address,” said Mary. -Mary asked............................................................................................ 45. “Breakfast will not be served after 9. 30” said the notice. -The notice said that.............................................................................. 46. “Where is the best place to buy souvenirs?” -I asked.................................................................................................. 47. “Don’t forget to bring your passport with you tomorrow” - She reminded me ................................................................................ 48. “Do not write on the wall,” said the teacher to the boys. -The teacher told the boys……………………………………….......... 49. “How many jobs have you had since 2000?” the interviewer asked Mr. Simpson. - The interviewer asked ........................................................................... 50. “Why didn’t you report the incident to the police?” the officer asked the frightened witness. - The officer wanted to know...................................................................

B. BÀI TẬP CÂU ĐIỀU KIỆN

Bài 1: : Use “ if” in place of “ unless”

1/ We won’t go out unless it stops raining. -______________________________________________

2/ I will call the police unless you give back my bicycle. -_______________________________________

3/ You wouldn’t be able to do this exercise unless your English were good. -_________________________

4/ Unless we had enough rain, we couldn’t grow rice. -_______________________________________

5/ The fishermen couldn’t have caught a lot of fish unless they had had good nets. -_____________________

6/ I wouldn’t buy it unless I could afford it. -___________________________________________

7/ I would refuse to go unless they paid my expenses. -_______________________________________

8/ I don’t agree with his economic policy. I wouldn’t vote for him unless he changed it. -________________

9/ He wouldn’t have written unless he had heard news. -_______________________________________

10/ You might not have a terrible toothache unless you went to the dentist regularly. -____________________

Bài 2: Rewrite these sentences by using the condition sentence:

1/ She can’t be employed because she doesn’t have a college degree.-> If ____________________

2/ I don’t have enough money. I can’t go on a long holiday this year.- If -____________________________

3/ He is very slow, so we won’t give his such an important task.-If _______________________________________

4/ I’ll have to work this Sunday, so I shan’t join your picnic. - If _______________________

5/ He works overtime to get more money because he has to pay father’s debt. If _________________________

6/ City life isn’t enjoyable because everything is very expensive. If _____________________

7/ She got bad mark because she didn’t learn hard. If ______________________________________________

8/ Be careful or you will make accidents. If ______________________________________________

9/ I got lost because I forgot the map. If ______________________________________________

10/ If anyone didn’t come, we would phone you at once. =>Unless _______________________

11/ They were very angry because their friends didn’t come on time. If __________________________________

C. CÂU ƯỚC VÀ CÂU ĐIỀU KIỆN

Viết lại các câu sau sử dụng câu ước với “wish”.

1. I have to study hard. -> I wish ……………………………………….……………

2. We had a lot of homework yesterday. -> I wish ……………………………………

3. It is raining heavily.-> I wish ……………………………………….…

4. It was cold last night. .-> I wish ……………………………………….……..

5. They work slowly. > I wish ……………………………………….…..…………

5. She doesn’t join in the trip. -> I wish ……………………………………….……

6. I am not good at English.-> I wish ……………………………………….………

7. He studies badly. -> I wish ……………………………………….………………..

8. He doesn’t like playing sports.-> I wish ……………………………………….…

9. I don’t have a computer. -> I wish ……………………………..………….………

10. Today isn’t a holiday. -> I wish ……………………………………….…………

11. I can’t sing this song.-> I wish ………………………………………….…………

12. He was punished by his mother. -> I wish ………………………………………….…………

13.If have time, I will visit my grandmother=> Unless……………………………………………………………… 14. It rains all day so he does not enjoy his visit=> If ……………………………………. 15. I wasn't hungry so I didn't eat anything => If I …………………………………………………. 16. We don't go by air because we do not have enough money=> If we …………………………………………. 17. If he studied harder, he would pass the examination=> Unless………………………… 18. The examiner read the passage very quickly so the candidates didn't understand=> If………… Bài tập 1: Cho dạng đúng của động từ trong ngoặc. 1. If we meet at 9:30, we (have) _________________plenty of time.

2. If you (find) _________________ a skeleton in the cellar, don't mention it to anyone.

3. The zookeeper would have punished her with a fine if she ( feed) _________________ the animals..

4. If you pass your examination, we (have) _________________a celebration.

5. Lisa would find the milk if she (look) _________________ for it in the fridge.

6. What (happen) _________________if I press this button?

7. The door will be unlocked if you (press)_________________ the green button.

8. I should have voted for her if I (have) _________________ a vote then.

9. If you go to Paris, where you (stay) _________________?

10. If you (swim) _________________ in this lake, you'll shiver from cold.

11. If someone offered to buy you one of those rings, which you (choose) _________________?

12. The flight may be cancelled if the fog (get) _________________thick.

13. If the milkman (come) _________________, tell him to leave two pints.

14. I (call) _________________ the office if I were you.

15. Someone (sit) _________________on your glasses if you leave them there.

16. You would hear my explanation if you (not talk) _________________so much.

17. What I (do) _________________if I hear the burglar alarm?

18. If you (read) _________________the instructions carefully, you wouldn't have answered the wrong question.

19. If Mel (ask) _________________ her teacher, he'd have answered her questions.

20. I would repair the roof myself if I (have) _________________a long ladder.

21. Unless they turn that radio off, I (go) _________________mad.

22. If you were made redundant, what you (do) _________________?

23. We'll have a long way to walk if we (run) _________________out of petrol here.

24. If you shake that bottle of port, it (not be) _________________ fit to drink.

25. If you spoke louder, your classmates (understand) _________________ you.

26. I'll probably get lost unless he (come) _________________with me.

I. Choose the correct answer.

1. She _________ a hat last week.

A. buy B. bought C. have bought D. Buying

2. Mary____________ ­ice-cream.

A. love B. loves C. loving D. is loving

3. It ____________ much in the summer. It ____________ (rain) now.

A. rain/is raining B. rain/ raining C. rains/ is raining D. rains/ rains

4. She _______ German for two years.

A. has learned B. is learning C. learn D. learns

5. ____ you sometimes ____ out with friends?

A. Are/going B. do/ go C. Have/gone D. Did/go

6. I ____ a lot of badminton recently.

A. play B. have played C. am playing D. was playing

7. When I ____ home, everyone ____ TV.

A. got/watch B. got/watching

C. get/was watch D. got/ was watching

8. London ____ a lot since we first ____ to live here.

A. changed/came B. has changed/ came

C. had changed/ came D. has changed/ come

9. When I was a child, I ____________ the violin.

A. was playing B. am playing C. played D. play

10. He ____________ for the national team in 65 matches so far.

A. has played B. has been played C. played D. is playing

11. I’m busy at the moment. I ____________ on the computer.

A. work B. worked C. am working D. working

12. After Jessica_____ her agree, she intends to work in her father's company.

A. will finish B. will have finished C. finishes D. is finishing

13. When my parents_____ for a visit tomorrow, they will see our new baby of the first time.

A. will arrive B. arrives C. will have arrived D. arrived

14. Fatemah looked down to discover a snake at her feet. When she saw it, she_____

A. was screaming B. had screamed C. screamed D. screams

15. By the time Alfonso finally graduated from high school, he_____ seven different schools because his parents moved frequently.

A. attended B. was attending

C. had attended D.had been attending

16. Robert ____________ill for three weeks. He is still in the hospital.

A. had been B. has been C. is D. was

17. I’m very tired. I ..................... over four hundred miles today.

A. drive B. am driving C. have driven D. have driven

18. The boy _________ a letter yesterday.

A. wrote B. has written C. written D. Writes

19. I'll return Bod's pen to him next time I _____ him.

A. see B. will see C. will have seen D. have seen

20.I____________ all of the questions correctly since I began this grammar exercise on verb tenses.

A. am answering B. answer C. have answered D. answered

21. A small stone struck the windshield while we _____ down the gravel road.

A. drive B. was driving C. had driven D. had been driving

22. As soon as Martina saw the fire, she_____ the fire department.

A. was telephoning B. telephoned C. had telephoned D. telephones.

23. Before Jennifer won the lottery, she_____ any kind of contest.

A. hasn't entered B. didn't enter C. wasn't entering D. hadn't entered

24. They _________ in the sea for an hour.

A. swim B. swam C. have swum D. Swum

25. Everything is going well. We ____________any problems so far.

A. didn’t have B. don’t have C. haven’t had D. hadn’t had

26. I think the weather ____________ be nice later.

A. shall B. will C. is going to D. can

27. Jane ____________ just a few minutes ago.

A. left B. has left C. leaves D. had left

28. Timson ____________. 13 films and I think her latest is the best.

A. made B. had made C. has made D. was making

29. They _________ a lot of Coke last night.

A. drank B. drink C. have drunk D. drunk

30. She _________ her arm last week.

A. hurt B. hurting C. hurts D. to hurt

31. He _________ all his money last week.

A. spends B. spending C. spent D. has spent

32. She _________ a bath two minutes ago.

A. have B. has C. having D. had

33. I____________n the room now.

A-am being B-was being C-have been being D-am

34. I____________to New York three times this year.

A-have been B-was C-were D-had been

35. I will come and see you before I____________for America.

A-leave B-will leave C-have left D-shall leave

36. I promise I _________ help you with your homework.

A. will B. would C. should D. may

37. John ____________a book when I saw him.

A.is reading B.read C.was reading D.reading

38. He said he____________return later.

A.will B.would C.can D.would be

39. How long_________ Mr. Smith_________ in this school?

A. did/teach B. has/taught C. does/teach D. have/taught

40. Please be quiet! I_________.

A. is working B. am working C. are working D. is...used to want

41. Sometimes I_________ up before the sun rises

A. get B. got C. gets D. am getting

42. Liz_________here since last year.

A. have lived B. was C. has been D. lived

43. I_________ Jerry 3 days ago.

A. won’t meet B. haven’t met C. hasn’t met D. didn’t meet

44. What time ____________ to work this morning ?

A. did you get B. are you getting C. have you got D. do you get

45. When I ____________ him, the man was running away.

A. see B. was seeing C. saw D. had seen

46. I haven’t seen Kate ____________ Christmas.

A. for B. never C. ever D. since

47. He’s worked for this company ____________ many years.

A. since B. for C. in D. at

48. As soon as Martina saw the fire, she _______ the fire department

A. was telephoning B. telephoned

C. had telephoned D. has telephoned

49. Every time Parkas sees a movie made in India, he _______homesick

A. will have left B. felt C. feels D. is feeling

50. After the race _______, the celebration began

A. had been won B. is won C. will be won D. has been won

51. While he was washing his car, Mr. Brown _______a small dint in the rear fender.

A. has discovered B. was discovering

C. is discovering D. discovered

52. _________ your father_________ a manager in this bank since last year?

A. has/been B. did/work C. was/being D. have /been

53. What will happen if the air____________ ?

A. was polluted B. be polluted C. is polluted D. has polluted

54. Look! Thomas _______his little sister to class.

A. is bringing B. brought C. to bring D. bring

55. My older sister _______to pop music.

A. is often listeningB. often listens C. often listen D. often listening

56. We ________an exercise now.

A. writes B. writing C. write D. are writing

57. Mmm! Mum __________a cake.

A. makes B. make C. is making D. makes

58. Our teacher ________ us a test every month.

A. gives B. is giving C. giving D. gives

59. I ____________ coffee for breakfast every day.

A. have B. has C. having D. am having

60. My brother____________ in a shoe store now

A. work B. working C. is working D. are working

61. She____________ to school every day.

A. go B. goes C. to go D. going

62. My brother____________ in a shoe store now

63. We have been living here____________1990

A. for B. from C. since D. during

64. Pasteur _____ in the 19th century.

A. was living B. lived C. had lived D. has lived

65. Now my sister _____ a bicycle of her own.

A. is having B. are having C. has D. had

66 .How ____________since we ____________school?

A. are you / left B. will you be / had left

C. have you been / left D. had you been/ had left

67. When he came____________

A. I was watching TV B. I watched TV

C. I am watching TV D. I have watched TV

68. The piano _____ at the moment.

A. repairs B. repaired

C. is repaired D. is being repaired

69 I saw Jack yesterday morning while I ________ home from work.

A. walked B. was walking

C. am walking D. had been walking

70. Miss Helen ____________ ­­­­a newspaper now.

A. are reading B. am reading

C. is reading D. reading

71. After Jessica_____ her agree, she intends to work in her father's company.

A. will finish B. will have finished

C. finishes D. is finishing

72. By the time I go to bed tonight, I _____ my work for the day.

A. will finish B. have finished

C. will have finished D. finish

73. Until you learn to relax more, you_____ your ability to speak English.

A. haven't improved B. aren't improving

C. don't improve D. won't improve

74. Before I stated the car, all of the passengers_____ their seat belts.

A. will buckle B. had buckled

C. buckle D. have buckled

75. It seems that whenever I travel abroad I _____ to take something need.

A. forgot B. am forgetting

C. forgets D. had forgotten

16. Robert ____________ill for three weeks. He is still in hospital.

A. drive B. am driving C. have drived D. have driven

A. wrote B. have written C. written D. Writes

A. drive B. were driving C. had driven D. had been driving

34. I____________to New york three times this year.

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1. Her father ordered  (A) her don’t go  (B) out with him  (C) the day before  (D)

2. My new neighbour   (A) whose  (B) is living next to my door is  (C) very graceful  (D)

3. My most forget  (A) experience was (B) my trip to  (C) Hoi An in  (D) the summer of 2019

4. Myneighbour decided  (A) let (B) me know everything as soon as  (C) she heard  (D) from him

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The boy can’t reach the shelf ____ he’s not tall enough.

A . because

B . although

C . even though

Nam was absent from class yesterday ____ he felt sick.

B . because

C . although

Tom has a computer, _____ he doesn’t use it.

C . because

It’s raining hard, _____ we can’t go to the beach.

The film was boring, ____ we went home., although her good salary, she gave up her job..

A . Correct

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I'm a working mom who enjoys solo travel. I've learned how to keep myself from spiraling into mom guilt while I'm away.

• I'm  a working mom who incorporates solo trips into my business travel.
• I love traveling as a family, but, at times, I miss the spontaneity and flexibility of solo travel.
• To minimize mom guilt, I speak with my son about trips before leaving and ensure his schedule stays the same.

My 6-year-old looked at me as I stood by the door, suitcase in hand, before leaving home for a weeklong business trip to the other side of the world. He walked over, held my hand, and said, "Why are you going away for so long? I'm going to miss you a billion trillion times."

My heart skipped a beat, and my not-so-new best friend, "mom guilt," walked through the door. I felt like it would stay with me for the entire trip. Still, I gave my son a big hug and walked out the door.

I have always enjoyed exploring new places. The thought of boarding a flight brings a big smile to my face. Unlike many people who hate the idea of work travel, I enjoy it. I love checking into a hotel, going to the gym or taking a dip in the pool, grabbing a local coffee on my way to work, going for walking meetings , and exploring the city.

My husband is also an enthusiastic traveler, and together, we have explored the world far and wide. Since my son was born, we've focused on getting him used to traveling. We took him on a 10-hour flight when he was 4 months old, took 30 flights before he turned 2 , and have taken him to nearly 20 countries. It's already clear that the travel bug has bitten him too.

But while traveling with children is fun, I missed the spontaneity and the flexibility of solo travel . You can stay wherever you want, eat what you like, and explore the city without worrying about pushing a stroller, managing bedtimes, or keeping a close watch on your child in an overcrowded area. I also loved how I could sleep past 6 a.m.

A packed working-parent schedule doesn't allow for many solo travel opportunities, but work trips are my way of relishing in something I enjoy.

Moms need to stop feeling guilty

Working moms have long suffered the guilt of not being able to spend enough time with their children. A study conducted by the British Psychological Society in 2022 found that gender stereotypes can predict the levels of guilt that working parents feel, with working mothers feeling higher levels of guilt compared to working fathers.

Another study, conducted by Pew Research in 2015 , showed that children's academic and emotional well-being is not contingent on the time they spend with their mothers.

As a working parent who loves to travel, the feeling is all too familiar. The guilt gets exacerbated when friends and family often look at me with surprise and ask how my child is managing without me. No one asks me that question when my husband is away on business — but that's another conversation for another essay.

I decided to give my guilt structure

After adding more extra days on business trips, I realized how liberating it was to travel alone.

I first tried solo travel while planning a business trip a few years ago. After a week of meetings in New York, I stayed for an extra night and treated myself to a glass of wine at the One World Observatory in downtown Manhattan. I just sat there, swirling my glass and watching the world go by. The sense of calmness was a feeling I rarely find as a working mom, and I loved it.

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Over the years, I've stopped by the Great Wall on a trip to China, popped into the Metropolitan Museum of Art in New York, and spent a weekend exploring Angkor Wat, a temple in Cambodia, after a week of meetings in Singapore.

I have learned to handle and even bounce back from my mom guilt spirals.

Here are some steps that helped me deal with the guilt.

1. Lean on your partner or family for support

I can't help but think of the phrase, "It takes a village to raise a child." It does.

Lean on your partner — or friends and family — for support while you are away. They can help you stay connected with your children, reason if your child is upset, and help you be an important part of your child's schedule even when you are in a different time zone.

2. Talk about your travel with your child

Let your child know how excited you are about an adventure. Before you hop on the plane, show them pictures or YouTube videos of where you are traveling.

My son knows how much my husband and I love traveling and is very engaged when I talk to him ahead of a solo trip. We talk about the city, the stories behind it, the food, and the people — and he even requests what souvenirs to bring back.

For example, before my trip to China last year, my son and I discussed the Great Wall and how it was built. He was fascinated and asked me to send him pictures throughout the trip, which helped ease my guilt.

3. Follow your child's schedule

I've found that my son feels more confident and comfortable when his day is predictable and familiar. Ensure that whoever is looking after your child follows their set routine; children thrive in a routine .

Identify the times during the day when they need you the most and plug into their daily routine with Facetime and video calls. It may not be the same as being there in person, but it likely makes them feel comfortable knowing you're just a phone call away.

Time zones can make coordinating schedules tricky — bedtime can come when I'm in the middle of a meeting — so I schedule voice notes, pictures, and videos. I'll even send my husband detailed voice notes to play to our son before he goes to sleep. The bonus is I wake up to some adorable voice notes that are a great start to the day.

4. Walk the guilt away

Despite doing all of the above, the guilt still sneaks in occasionally. So I immediately go out for a quick walk to clear my head .

I remind myself this may feel tough, but I am teaching my son the importance of leaning into your interests and passions. I am also teaching him that his parents may travel for work, but he'll always have a support system back at home.

It's not easy, and sometimes it feels like moving mountains, but the thrill of exploring a new place and the tiny cuddles at the end of the trip make the journey worthwhile.

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