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Maybe you’re someone who does a lot of writing. Or maybe you’re someone who doesn’t. Either way, no matter whether you’re a seasoned writer & speaker, nothing quite prepares you for the task of writing a memorial speech. 

Most often, when people are writing memorials and eulogies, they are in the middle of a personal tragedy. If you’re writing a eulogy for someone, they were probably someone who was very dear to you and likewise. Even if the loss was expected, it doesn’t make things any easier. 

All of this makes collecting your thoughts & organizing them into a coherent speech all the more difficult. It even sounds absurd at times. 

And yet, it is your task to write a memorial speech for your loved one, no matter how difficult or absurd it might feel. And so we are here to help you out & make things a bit more easy for you. 

You can write a memorable memorial or tribute speech by keeping in mind a few things. This includes speaking to family members, including personal anecdotes, making sure its not cliched, including visual aids and ending on a heartfelt note.

Now, let’s get into the nitty-gritty of it. 

Tips For Writing A Memorial or Tribute Speech  at a Funeral

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1. Speak To Family Members 

While a memorial speech is also a speech, the setting makes it different than any other speech you’ll ever have to give in life. This can cause a lot of confusion about what’s appropriate to include in your speech & what isn’t–especially if you’re not a family member. 

Even if you’re a family member, you might feel overburdened by the prospect of summarizing a person’s entire life after their death into a couple of paragraphs. 

So, it’s wise to seek the counsel of family members of the person you’ve passed away. Their insights will also allow you to enrich your speech. 

2. Write A Short, Personal Biography 

What were the person’s greatest achievements? What did they love and what did they hate? 

Before you begin writing your speech, jot down the most essential features of the person’s life. This can act as a starting point for the rest of your speech & you can then include all of these points while writing them down so that you don’t miss out on anything important. 

For more guidance on why writing down a speech is important, check out our article on 9 Reasons Why Writing A Speech Is Important.

3. Make It Personal, Not Cliched 

Cliche is definitely not something you want to aim for while writing your speech. Remember that death is a very personal experience. For all the people grieving in the room–including you–the loss is personal & incomparable. 

That’s why it’s important to make the speech personal to the deceased. Instead of making universal statements, you need to focus instead on the personal aspects of the deceased. 

For example, maybe the deceased was an excellent Jazz Musician when they were young. Or maybe they loved ballet even though they were terrible with it & couldn’t dance for one million dollars. 

Now would be the time to include things like this. 

4. Include Poems & Quotes 

Poetry and quotes are things that can touch us in ways other things might not– and that’s the case with most words. 

That’s why you’re delivering a memorial speech, after all. So, it’s a good idea to include poems & quotes in your speech, as it will make a more lasting impact on the minds of the people who’re attending, and make it more likely that they will remember your speech. 

5. Include Visual Aids 

This might sound odd at first, but it’s actually something that might have the most impact on the minds of the people attending. 

Was there something the person just loved wearing–maybe a t-shirt that’s on the verge of falling apart? Or is there something they gave you as a keepsake? Maybe there’s an object that you commonly associate with that person. 

Now would be a good time to bring them in. This would be a truly heartful thing to include in your speech. 

6. Include Special Anecdotes 

Was there any memorable moment that you shared with the person? Maybe an incident that other people haven’t heard about before. Or maybe it’s an incident that everyone has heard about before. 

Including personal anecdotes will make your speech more special & memorable for everyone attending. They can also act as an outlet for emotions–for both, you and the others. 

After all, it is a tribute.

7. End On A Heartfelt Note 

The ending of any speech is something that people tend to remember for longer than any other part of it. This goes for eulogies too. 

Instead of ending on a negative note, you want to conclude your eulogy on a note that’s comforting. You want to acknowledge the loss, yes. However, in the end, the entire point of the memorial is to give people closure. And how will they get that without comfort? 

Tips To Keep In Mind While Delivering The Memorial Speech

1. speak conversationally.

Remember that you’re not here to give a professional speech. You’re here to commemorate the life of a person who touched the lives of the people in the room, probably yours as well. You don’t want to go for a formal tone when you’re speaking.

Instead, talk naturally, and as you would if you were having a conversation with other people.

2. Don’t Worry If Emotions Overcome You

It’s alright to feel a surge of emotions when you’re giving your speech. In fact, it’s quite natural. Even if you get overwhelmed with emotions and feel yourself start to choke up, don’t worry. It’s okay to be vulnerable.

Pause. Take a deep breath. Collect yourself. And then go on with your speech.

It’s an emotional day for everybody.

3. Take A Moment To Collect Your Thoughts

When you’re called up to deliver your eulogy, take a moment to collect your thoughts. Take a few deep breaths. Drink a couple of mouthfuls of water. Maybe hug another person who’s close to you.

This will allow you to get your emotions in check, and to organize your thoughts. It will also help you brace yourself for the big task ahead: delivering the eulogy.

4. Have A Standby With You

Another thing that you can do in case you’re overwhelmed with emotion is to have a standby with you. This can be anybody, from your sibling to your parent to a close friend. You can give them a copy of your speech so that they can help you out by finishing it in case you’re too overwhelmed to continue.

Make sure to give the person the copy well in advance so that they can be prepared. Alternatively, you could simply give them an overview of your speech & they can pick it off from there.

5. Look Your Loved Ones In The Eye

Another tip would be to look your loved ones in the eye when you’re delivering your speech. You don’t have to necessarily continue maintaining eye contact with them throughout your speech. Instead, look at them intermittently throughout the speech.

This will not only help them make a better connection with you, but it will also help you get emotional support and get through your speech.

How To Begin Your Memorial Speech 

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1. Start With A Quote 

This is an age-old way to start off a eulogy and for good reasons. There are many types of quotes that you can go with. 

Maybe you could speak a quote that the person loved. Maybe it’s something from a book or movie. Alternatively, you could also start off with a quote from the Bible or Koran, if the person was religious. 

For Example: 

2. Start With A Lighthearted Story 

Often, the mood in a memorial service is heavy & sad. This can make it difficult for people to care about your speech, and to use it as inspiration to talk about the person’s themselves. 

One way to lighten up the mood is by reciting a lighthearted story. Maybe a funny incident from the person’s life, or something the two of you witnessed together. 

For example: If there’s one thing that Joe loved more than food, it was jokes–and bad ones at that. Let me tell you my favorite.

3. Start With A Song Or Poem 

Another way to start a eulogy would be with a song. This can be something personal to you and the deceased. Maybe a song that had a special place in their lives. 

Similarly, you could also start off with a poem. This can be something you’ve written yourself–or even a poem which you read. 

You don’t want your song or poem too to on for too long. Remember that you’ve to include words, too. 

4. Start By Saying Something Not Commonly Known 

Was there something the deceased frequently did that other people didn’t know about? Maybe even though they were a strict army parent at first glance, they were actually perpetually late to things. 

What are some things about the deceased that are at contrast to what other people know about them? You might want to start off with an unknown fact about them.

If you’re not sure what to include, you can ask their family members to help you out. 

For Example: For someone who worked in the Law Department for so long, Amy sure did love breaking rules when she was younger. 

5. Start With A Personal Prop 

Remember how we mentioned bringing an item you associate with the deceased to the memorial? Now would be a good time to bring it out. 

This will help you make a unique impression on people’s minds right off the start. It will also immediately connect with other people & make them remember the deceased themselves, encouraging them to speak out too. 

For example: Bring out the deceased’s favorite baseball cap & tell a story you associate with it. 

Sample Memorial Speech

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Sample Memorial Speech from a Son to a Mother

“For someone who worked over three decades rescuing dogs, my mother was quite terrified of puppies when she was younger. In fact, she was so terrified of dogs that as a sixteen-year-old she once climbed a tree when a little puppy barked at her. Imagine that… A twelve-year-old five-foot girl climbed to the top of a tree thrice her height because a little puppy was barking at her! And the story doesn’t end here. Not only did she scale the tree–which, by the way, she had never done in her life before–but she also refused to get down . My grandfather had the entire neighborhood out of their homes attempting to convince her to get down from that tree. Because, of course, while adrenaline had managed to boost her up the tree, she had no clue how to get down from it. In the end, it was only four hours later when the fire department came along that they were able to get her down. For almost a week after my grandfather told me this story–despite my mother’s vehement protests, by the way–I couldn’t get the picture of my twelve-year-old mother clinging for dear life the branch of a tree out of my head. And it’s this picture that stuck with me as I sat down to write this speech. Because you see, there’s no other picture or story that better sums up my mother. She always did things without thinking them through, as most of the people in this room might already know. She was the most intuitive, the most instinctive, and spontaneous person that I’ve ever met in my entire life. And yet things always seemed to work out for her, in the end. My mother lived a long, happy, and fulfilled life. Two decades of this life she spent working with animals–the very same thing that awakened her inner Tarzan in our tree-climbing story. And she loved them–or, at least, grew to love them. You see, after this incident, my grandfather had her volunteer at a local animal shelter. It was over there that she learned how to overcome her fear of animals–little puppies, too. And slowly, that fear turned into love. Many of you in this room know her from this time in her life. My mother was a vibrant soul. My father used to say that she could light up an entire room when she stepped into it–although, of course, that’s probably because he was hopelessly in love with her. Even though raising four boys was most certainly not the easiest thing in the world, she never backed down. She raised us with love–and respect. She never forced us to be anything that we’re not, and she never let anyone else pull any of us down for being a little different sometimes, either. But the fact that so many of you are here today to pay respects to her shows her immediate family wasn’t the only ones whose lives she touched. She would never turn anyone away, didn’t matter whether she herself was going through problems or not. She would be beyond happy to see all of you here–and she would let you know that, too. Never ran out of words, my mother. When I moved away for University, she would make the eight-hour drive from my little hometown to my apartment every month so that she could chatter my ear off for an entire weekend–not counting the hour-long talks that we had every single day. She could keep a dead conversation alive for hours–I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. And this is how I remember my mother: as a spontaneous, hard-working, happy soul who is probably chattering with all the other souls up in heaven about her own memorial. And if she’s watching–which I know she is–then I simply want to thank her for everything that she’s done for all of us, and to let her know that she’s still loved and remembered and will always be. To repeat the words she said at my dad’s funeral: To live in the hearts of those we love is not to die.”

To sum up, writing a memorial speech is something that nobody really prepares you for. And yet, if you keep a few things in mind, you can outline a memorial speech that will connect with the people who’re there with you. This includes speaking to family members, including personal anecdotes, making sure its not cliched, including visual aids and ending on a heartfelt note.

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Losing a loved one is truly one of life’s most challenging experiences. During such times, delivering a memorial speech can offer solace and comfort to both the speaker and the audience. Whether you are tasked with providing a eulogy or a tribute, crafting a heartfelt and meaningful memorial speech requires careful thought and consideration. Here are some tips to guide you through the process and a sample speech to illustrate these points.

1. Reflect on Memories and Stories

As you begin to write your eulogy, take some time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased. Think back to the memories you shared, your experiences, and the stories that highlight your unique personality, values, and impact on others. 

You can use ready-made templates to visualize your cordial bond with the deceased, showcasing the photos of moments spent together. By incorporating these personal touches into your speech, you can bring a sense of warmth and authenticity that will help to honor their memory and convey the depth of your relationship. 

2. Consider the Audience

When delivering a speech at a funeral or memorial service, it is essential to remember the audience’s connection to the departed. Whether they are family members, friends, or colleagues, each individual in the audience has a unique relationship with the deceased. 

As a speaker, you are responsible for tailoring your speech to resonate with their emotions and experiences. 

3. Structure Your Speech

You must organize your thoughts into distinct sections to ensure your message is clear

and coherent. One effective way to structure your speech is to divide it into four main

parts: an introduction, personal anecdotes, reflections, and closing remarks.

For instance, in the introduction, you can call for the audience’s attention and then move on to personal anecdotes. After sharing personal anecdotes, reflect on the deceased’s life. It is a chance to talk about their achievements, contributions to their community, and impact on the world around them. Finally, you can close your speech with some final remarks, including words of comfort. 

4. Focus on Positive Qualities

Knowing how to honor someone’s memory can be a task. However, one way to celebrate their life and legacy is to focus on their positive qualities, achievements, and contributions. 

You can keep their spirit alive and remember them fondly by sharing stories showcasing their kindness, humor, resilience, or other admirable traits. Whether it is a small gesture or a grand tribute, honoring them in this way can bring solace to those left behind.

5. Be Sincere and Authentic

When communicating your emotions, speaking from the heart and being genuine is essential. Avoiding clichés is crucial as they may come across as insincere and diminish the authenticity of your message. 

Instead, allow yourself to express your feelings openly and authentically without any filters or masks. It will make your message more impactful and powerful and help you connect with others more deeply. 

6. Practice Empathy and Sensitivity

The loss of a loved one is a difficult and painful time for the bereaved family and friends. As someone who wants to offer support and comfort, it is essential to be mindful of their sensitivities. 

It means exercising empathy and sensitivity in your choice of words and actions and avoiding anything that could inadvertently cause further distress or discomfort. Remember to be there for them, listen to them, and offer solace in any way you can.

7. Include Quotes or Poems

One way to add depth and emotional resonance to your words is to incorporate meaningful quotes, poems, or passages that resonate with the theme of your speech or capture the essence of the departed’s life. These literary elements can help you convey your message with more impact. 

8. End with a Meaningful Closure

Conclude your speech with a proper closure. This final message can be a fitting farewell, providing words of consolation, hope, or remembrance that will stay with the audience long after the speech. By choosing your words carefully and speaking from the heart, you can make a powerful impact on your listeners and offer them a sense of closure and comfort.

Sample Memorial Speech

While crafting a memorial speech, remember that your words have the power to honor the departed, console the bereaved, and preserve cherished memories for years to come. Approach this task with reverence, sincerity, and compassion, knowing that your efforts will serve as a meaningful tribute to your loved one’s life and legacy. Using these tips, you can jot down a speech that will be remembered forever.

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Losing a loved one is a heartbreaking and emotional experience. One of the most important and difficult tasks family members and close friends often must undertake is to deliver a heartfelt eulogy at the memorial service. A eulogy is a speech that pays tribute to the deceased, sharing their most cherished memories while celebrating their life. For many, delivering a eulogy can be an overwhelming task, especially during such a difficult time. To help you with this daunting process, we have put together some memorial service speech examples that will provide an engaging format for your eulogy.

Begin your eulogy with an engaging introduction that captures the essence of your loved one's life. This should provide a brief overview of who they were, how they lived their life, and what made them special. You want to make sure you pay tribute to their unique qualities, while also setting the tone for the rest of the speech.

Example: "Today, we gather not to mourn the loss of our dear friend Michael, but to celebrate his life – the loving husband, father, and friend he was to us all. Michael lived his life to the fullest and was always ready with a helping hand or a warm embrace. We will remember him for his contagious laughter and his ability to light up any room with his presence."

Delve into the specific details that made your loved one so exceptional. Share some fond memories, personal anecdotes, accomplishments, and the impact they had on the lives of those around them. This is an opportunity to portray their character and to explain why they meant so much to so many people.

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Example: "Michael was always up for adventure, whether it was climbing Mount Kilimanjaro or trying out the latest food trend, he was never afraid to take on a challenge. His adventures were never just about thrill-seeking; they were also an opportunity to bond with friends and create unforgettable memories. We can all recall the time he convinced us to embark on that impromptu road trip, one that led to hours of laughter and cherished memories."

Throughout your speech, try to keep your examples realistic and relatable. Choosing an anecdote that can resonate with many attendees will help to bring the memory of your loved one to life, allowing everyone present to cherish their time spent with them.

Example: "Michael had a passion for helping others; it was evident in every aspect of his life – from assisting his elderly neighbours with daily tasks to volunteering his time at the local food bank. His selflessness knew no bounds; he even rescued that stray dog we all grew to love, proving to us that Michael's heart extended beyond his friends and family."

Conclude your speech by summarizing the essence of your loved one's life and acknowledging the impact they had on everyone around them. Offer words of comfort and inspiration that will leave the attendees with a sense of gratitude for the time spent with the deceased, while also inviting them to reflect further on the memories shared during the speech.

Example: "As we bid farewell to Michael today, let us all remember the love, laughter, and warmth he brought into our lives. Though his journey on this earth has come to an end, his spirit continues to live on in our hearts, helping us to appreciate the precious moments life has to offer. Let us honour Michael's memory by emulating the kindness and the love that he shared so freely with everyone he met."

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Death is a part of life, and so are the funerals and memorial services held to mark an individual’s passing. But when we’re called upon to speak at these occasions, many of us are at a loss for words. Here are some basic guidelines for writing a eulogy, from palliative specialist BJ Miller and writer Shoshana Berger.

When you leave a memorial or funeral having imagined the fullness of the person being memorialized, you know the speakers got it right. The first rule for eulogists is that this is not about them. It is about paying close attention to the way a person lived and drawing out the most meaningful, memorable bits.

Summing up a life in writing isn’t easy, but it’s an important exercise that serves a dual purpose. It obliges the writer to call up memories — which is a way to honor the person and process one’s loss — and it creates an atmosphere of deep community with other grievers. Do your best to be honest in your eulogy, instead of presenting some idealized portrait that others won’t recognize. Steve Schafer, a pastor who helps people write eulogies, offers the following guidelines.

• Aim for 1,000 words, or about six to seven minutes’ speaking time.

• Always write down what you’re going to say, even if you plan to abandon your notes. It’s a good way to gather your thoughts and make sure you’re not missing any important details.

• Be personal and conversational. This isn’t a formal speech; it’s an appreciation.

• If you aren’t introduced by the emcee or by another speaker, do so yourself and say what your relationship to the person was.

• Start with a story about the person. People come alive through specific anecdotes.

• Be humorous. The best eulogies are respectful and solemn, but they also give mourners some comic relief. A bit of roasting is fine if it suits who the person was and the family has a sense of humor.

• Close your eulogy by directly addressing the person who died, something like “Joe, thank you for teaching me how to be a good father.”

Here’s an example of a great eulogy, written by a woman for her grandmother. Before each section, we’ve explained what she’s done.

[Start with an introduction that paints a portrait of the person’s character. Beginning with your memories of the person is a great way to go. Try for descriptive details — the Almond Joy moment below — rather than broad, abstract statements such as “She was kind” or “She was a loving caretaker.”]

From my earliest memories, she is right by my side, taking me on walks through the miniature golf course near our house, dutifully preparing my odd lunch requests for cheddar and mayo sandwiches and sneaking me Almond Joy candy bars away from the gaze of my mom.

[Draw out important moments that signify lifelong connection.]

I was so close to my grandma that around the age of 23 I grew increasingly anxious that she might not live to attend my wedding unless I hurried up. Well … she did live to attend that wedding, and also to witness my first divorce, my second marriage, and to know and love my two children. She liked Jeff from the beginning and one day before we were engaged, she boldly told him, “Well, you better put a ring on it!” quoting Beyoncé without knowing the reference.

[Talk about advice passed down — values, sayings and anecdotes that capture the person.]

The most remarkable qualities about my grandma as she aged were her gratitude and her humility. She often told me to live for myself and not worry about her — to work, focus on my family, and come visit when I had time. She loved every minute of our visits but never pushed for more.

I once asked her if I should have a third child and she replied, “Why, honey? You already have the perfect family.” The most important things to my grandma were family and faith; she didn’t care for material possessions. In fact, she was known for giving items away because “there was someone who was more in need.” This selflessness and service for others leave a legacy that I will try to model for my children. Time with her family was the greatest gift and even with that, she was not greedy.

[Thank-yous to other family members who helped with caretaking.]

I am deeply thankful to our family who cared for, loved her, and relished spending time with my grammie as she aged. Knowing she had Adie to take her to church and lunch every Sunday punctuated her week with a joyful event she truly looked forward to. Dave and Aileen always arrived with a box of her favorites See’s Candies, essentially confirming the Pavlovian model as she began to drool as soon as they walked in the door. And to my mom, who cared for my grandma for the last 10 years of her life with compassion and unrivaled duty. I thank her not only for giving back to her mom, but for modeling care and respect for our elders.

[The eulogy goes on a bit longer and then ends with a closing quote, poem, reading, or other good-bye.]

“When my friends began to have babies and I came to comprehend the heroic labor it takes to keep one alive, the constant exhausting tending of a being who can do nothing and demands everything, I realized that my mother had done all of these things for me before I remembered. I was fed; I was washed; I was clothed; I was taught to speak and given a thousand other things, over and over again, hourly, daily, for years. She gave me everything before she gave me nothing.”

— Rebecca Solnit, from her book The Faraway Nearby

Excerpted from the new book A Beginner’s Guide to the End: Practical Advice for Living Life and Facing Death by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Copyright © 2019 by BJ Miller and Shoshana Berger. Reprinted by permission of Simon & Schuster, Inc, NY.

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BJ Miller, MD , practices and teaches palliative medicine in San Francisco. He has been profiled in The New York Times Magazine, interviewed on Super Soul Sunday, and speaks around the world.

Shoshana Berger is the editorial director of the global design firm IDEO. She was a senior editor at Wired magazine and the cofounder of ReadyMade magazine.

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Are you tasked with the daunting challenge of delivering a eulogy for a loved one and not sure where to start? A eulogy is an important tribute that honors the life and memory of someone dear who has passed away.

In this blog post, we’ll offer expert guidance on how to craft heartfelt remembrance speeches that truly celebrate your loved one’s life. Ready to navigate through this difficult time with grace? Keep reading.

Key Takeaways

  • Crafting a heartfelt eulogy involves gathering memories, highlighting unique characteristics, incorporating anecdotes, and keeping the speech concise and engaging.
  • Personalizing a eulogy is essential for honoring a loved one’s memory by capturing their spirit through vivid verbal imagery, incorporating humor if appropriate, and respecting cultural or religious traditions.
  • Overcoming nervousness when delivering a eulogy can be achieved through practice, embracing emotions during the speech, and using expressive body language. Choosing the right words involves reflecting on the deceased person’s life and qualities, avoiding clichés, and striking a balance between sincerity and levity if appropriate.
  • Incorporating humor in eulogies provides comic relief while sharing cherished memories helps celebrate the life of the deceased. Humor creates a lighthearted atmosphere that engages the audience while sharing memories evokes emotions and creates meaningful connections.
  • Dos of delivering a eulogy: personalize your speech with heartfelt memories, practice beforehand to overcome nervousness, choose words carefully to convey love and admiration without speaking negatively about the person being honored.

How to Deliver a Heartfelt Eulogy

In order to deliver a heartfelt eulogy, it is essential to focus on writing a memorial speech that is personal and meaningful to both the deceased individual and the mourners in attendance.

Tips for writing a memorial speech

Crafting a heartfelt eulogy or memorial speech requires genuine emotional investment. Begin the process by gathering memories from various sources, helping to paint a more comprehensive picture of your deceased loved one’s life.

Highlight their unique characteristics and the impact they had on those around them in your personal remembrance narrative. Incorporate anecdotes for authenticity, making sure to prioritize stories that spread positivity and reflect happiness.

It’s crucial not to let this bereavement speech get overly lengthy; keep it concise and engaging instead. An effective technique is opening with an impactful quote relevant to the departed soul or a light-hearted story about them – it aids in capturing attention right off the bat.

Moreover, consider having someone you trust review your commemorative tribute before delivery; their feedback can prove invaluable for fine-tuning content and ensuring emotional resonance within listeners during the actual memorial service.

The importance of personalizing a eulogy

Crafting a personalized eulogy is an essential part of paying tribute to a loved one. It goes beyond just recounting the deceased’s accomplishments and interests; it captures the person’s spirit in a way no generic words can.

A highly personalized speech provides comfort to those mourning as they feel their beloved individual truly acknowledged and remembered for who they really were, not simply what they achieved or did.

Honor your loved one by painting vivid verbal imagery of their personality, traits, anecdotes, passions – everything that made them unique. Incorporating humorous elements can also be impactful if it aligns well with the character of the departed soul.

The best form of flattery isn’t imitation; let their quirks shine through your narration! After all, laughter at a funeral doesn’t mean loss is taken lightly—it is rather celebrating life lived fully and joyously.

Incorporating religious or cultural traditions

Crafting a heartfelt eulogy often involves reflecting the life, values, and personality of the deceased. One powerful way to add depth and context is by incorporating  religious or cultural traditions  in your tribute.

Every culture has unique rites and customs associated with grief, mourning, death perception – weaving these elements into your speech aligns it not only with the character of the departed but also provides a comforting familiarity for those who share them.

If you’re writing about someone whose faith played an integral role in their life story, consider focusing on traditional mourning customs specific to that religion as part of your eulogy delivery.

Similarly, cultural rituals for death can be seamlessly integrated into funeral speeches making them more authentic and poignant. Not only will this show respect for cherished beliefs they held but it also underscores how these traditions shaped them as individuals.

As you pen down personal stories in eulogies or delve deeper into learning about funeral traditions relevant to your loved one’s background, remember that capturing their essence truthfully demands empathy – just like tailoring inspirational eulogy examples based on diverse cultures or faiths does.

Overcoming Nervousness and Choosing the Right Words

Overcoming nervousness when delivering a eulogy can be achieved by practicing beforehand and taking deep breaths to calm the nerves. Choosing the right words for a eulogy involves reflecting on the deceased person’s life, their qualities, and the impact they had on others.

Tips for overcoming nervousness when delivering a eulogy

Speaking at a funeral can be both rewarding and scary, as many people feel nervousness when delivering a eulogy. The good news is that there are tips and tricks available to help individuals overcome this anxiety.

One important tip is to remember that it’s okay to feel emotional during the speech – crying at a funeral is normal and even expected. Another helpful technique is to practice the eulogy several times beforehand, familiarizing yourself with the content and allowing for easier delivery on the day of the service.

Additionally, incorporating expressive body language can make your words more authentic and heartfelt. By following these techniques, you can confidently deliver a touching tribute that honors your loved one’s memory.

How to choose the right words for a eulogy

Choosing the right words for a eulogy is crucial to capturing the essence of your loved one and delivering a heartfelt speech. Start by reflecting on their unique qualities, accomplishments, and cherished memories you shared together.

Use descriptive language that paints a vivid picture of their life, emphasizing their positive attributes and impact on others. Incorporate meaningful quotes, poems, or religious passages that resonate with their beliefs or values.

When selecting words for a eulogy, it’s important to strike a balance between honoring the person’s memory while also providing comfort to those in mourning. Avoid clichés or generic phrases; instead, opt for authentic anecdotes and personal stories that showcase their character and leave lasting impressions on the audience.

Additionally, consider the preferences of family members and respect any cultural or religious traditions when choosing your words. Pay attention to tone: strike a chord between sincerity and levity if appropriate – incorporating humor can provide moments of respite amidst grief.

Remember that every word spoken has an impact; take time to craft each sentence carefully so it carries emotional weight. Keep sentences concise yet powerful to maintain clarity as you deliver your eulogy.

The Role of Humor and Sharing Memories

4. Incorporate humor to provide some comic relief for mourners and share cherished memories to celebrate the life of the deceased.

The benefits of incorporating humor in eulogies

Incorporating humor into eulogies can provide numerous benefits for both the speaker and the audience. Humor has a unique ability to shift the focus from sadness or loss to funny memories, stories, or anecdotes.

By injecting laughter into a memorial speech, public speakers can create a more lighthearted atmosphere that helps initiate communication and build rapport with the listeners. Research shows that humor is associated with improved memory, increased interest, higher energy levels, and reduced negative emotions.

When used thoughtfully and respectfully, humor in eulogies can balance out the heaviness of grief while honoring the deceased in a positive and memorable way. It allows people to cope with their sorrow by bringing back fond memories and celebrating the life of their loved one through laughter.

The importance of sharing memories in a eulogy

A eulogy is not just about saying goodbye, it’s about preserving the memories and celebrating the life of a loved one who has passed away. When  delivering a heartfelt eulogy , sharing memories becomes crucial as it helps paint a vivid picture of who the person was and what made them special.

By sharing stories and experiences, we give others an opportunity to remember and honor their legacy. A well-written eulogy should capture the essence of the person, evoking emotions and creating meaningful connections with the audience .

So whether it’s recounting funny anecdotes or heartwarming moments, remember that sharing memories is an essential part of crafting a memorable tribute.

Dos and Don’ts of Delivering a Eulogy

In delivering a eulogy, it is important to remember the dos and don’ts. Do personalize your speech and share heartfelt memories that reflect the unique qualities of the deceased. Don’t use this opportunity to air grievances or speak negatively about the person.

Keep in mind that humor can be appropriate, but make sure it is respectful and relevant to their life. Also, do practice beforehand to overcome nervousness and choose your words carefully to convey love and admiration for the person being honored.

Key dos and don’ts to keep in mind when delivering a eulogy

When delivering a eulogy, there are important dos and don’ts to keep in mind. Firstly, do take the time to prepare and practice your speech beforehand. This will help you feel more confident and ensure that your words flow smoothly during the delivery.

Secondly, do personalize your eulogy by including specific anecdotes and memories of the deceased. Sharing personal stories not only adds depth and authenticity but also helps bring the person being eulogized to life in the minds of those listening.

Additionally, do express genuine emotions and feelings in your speech. It is okay to let yourself feel sadness or grief as it shows your connection with the departed soul. On the other hand, when delivering a eulogy, it’s crucial not to make it about yourself; instead, focus on honoring and remembering the deceased individual.

In conclusion, delivering a heartfelt eulogy is an important and meaningful way to honor the life of a loved one. By personalizing your speech, overcoming nervousness, incorporating humor and sharing memories, you can create a memorable tribute that celebrates their unique life.

Remember the dos and don’ts of delivering a eulogy and always aim to create a meaningful and uplifting experience for those in attendance. Through your words, you can provide comfort and healing during this difficult time while creating lasting memories of the person who has passed away.

1. What is a eulogy and when is it typically delivered?

A eulogy is a speech or tribute given to honor and remember the life of someone who has passed away. It’s typically delivered during a funeral service, memorial service, or celebration of life ceremony.

2. How long should a eulogy be?

The length of a eulogy can vary depending on personal preference and the nature of the service. Generally, it’s recommended to keep it between 5 to 10 minutes in order to maintain audience engagement and respect for other speakers or activities during the event.

3. Can I include humor in a eulogy?

Including humor in a eulogy can be appropriate if it reflects the personality and spirit of the deceased. However, it’s important to exercise sensitivity and judgement while considering the emotional state of grieving family members and friends.

4. How do I start writing a eulogy?

To start writing a eulogy, take some time to reflect on your relationship with the deceased person and gather memories that showcase their character traits, accomplishments, memorable moments, and impacts on others’ lives. You can also consider incorporating stories shared by loved ones. Organize these thoughts into an outline before putting them into written form for easier structuring later on.

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Writing a memorable memorial speech that captures the life and legacy of your loved one can be an incredibly daunting task.

From finding the right words to sharing personal memories, it is often difficult to know where to begin. That’s why understanding how to write a great memorial speech is essential for any eulogy or remembrance ceremony.

With careful consideration and adequate preparation, you can write a powerful memorial speech that truly pays tribute to the dearly departed. This article provides practical tips for crafting an effective and heartfelt speech about your beloved family member or friend.

What Is a Funeral/Memorial Speech?

A memorial speech, also known as a eulogy, is an emotive and deeply personal address. In this speech, a speaker pays tribute to the life of their departed loved one . It can often be a difficult task. Speakers must find ways to effectively communicate the essence of a person’s being while simultaneously conveying heartfelt emotions.

Some draw on factual examples to capture how the deceased positively impacted those around them. Others focus on poetic passages to emphasize the beauty of life.

The aim is not just to commemorate but also to comfort. Such speeches strive to bring solace by reminding listeners of the fond memories shared and the love lost.

Tips on How to Write a Great Memorial Speech

Keep the following tips in mind to write a heartfelt memorial speech that touches the audience and makes it more meaningful.

Start With a Strong Opening Line

Begin with an inspiring quote or message to set the tone of the speech. Consider using a phrase relevant to the deceased, such as a favorite saying or advice.

Connect Your Story to the Audience

Connect your story to the audience and share how you are all connected through grief and loss. Tell stories about the deceased that showcase their unique characteristics, humor, and positive outlooks on life.

Be Vulnerable and Honest

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and honest when writing the memorial speech. Speak from the heart so that those in attendance can relate to the emotion behind each word.

Incorporate Vivid Descriptions in Your Words

Use vivid descriptions and metaphors to illustrate moments with the deceased. Paint a picture with words to bring back fond memories for all who knew them.

Make Sure to Thank Everyone

Don’t forget to thank everyone who attended, sharing what their presence means to you during this difficult time. This helps create a sense of community for all present.

Choose Strong and Powerful Words

Choose strong words that evoke powerful imagery and emotions to honor the memory of the deceased. These words will also effectively convey how much they will be missed by all who love them.

End on a Positive Note

Always end the speech on an uplifting note, like telling a happy anecdote about the deceased or offering encouraging words for those grieving.

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List of Great Memorial Speech Examples

If you know someone who has recently passed away, it may be difficult to know where to start when writing a funeral speech. If you are looking for a possible template, take ideas and inspiration from the speeches below to write one on your own.

Example 1: Eulogy for a Parent

I stand here today at my mother’s funeral, surrounded by family and friends, to pay tribute to her with this eulogy. It is such a heartbreaking time for us all as we try to come to terms with the loss of someone so precious. Yet, I know that our fond memories of her will never fade away.

My mother was always one for doing whatever she felt was needed for those around her. From volunteering in the community to helping out family and friends when they were in need, she did it all with unwavering enthusiasm. She had an innate ability to make people feel special and loved, regardless of their situation or background. Her generosity of spirit was truly remarkable and something many of us could aspire to have.

As a parent, she provided me with everything I could ever need. From physical protection to emotional guidance – I could not be more thankful for how much she cared about me. Even in moments of struggle, her kind words were enough to remind me that everything would work out in the end. I shared countless laughs, tears, and hugs with her over the years, and I’m sure many others present can say the same.

Losing a beloved mother is never easy. If there is any solace to take, it is knowing somewhere out there is a world full of happy memories we can cherish forever.

I will miss you, mum, but your memory will live on in each and every one of us.

Example 2: Eulogy for a Partner

I want to take a moment and talk about my wife, who has been the best partner I could have ever asked for. I remember when we first met, it was love at first sight. From then on, our relationship blossomed into something so beautiful and amazing that words cannot do it justice. She helped me in more ways than I can count, from keeping me organized to helping me think through difficult situations.

When she passed away, it felt like all the light had gone out of the world. But if there is one thing I know for sure, it’s that her memory will never be forgotten. Her legacy will live on forever in everyone’s hearts that knew and loved her dearly.

I read stories about how many people are inspired by her life and work. And it fills my heart with immense joy knowing that her impact lives on. One of the most important things she taught me was always to put family first and give back to those less fortunate than us.

It’s hard to say goodbye, but I know she’s watching over us, guiding us each day. Goodbye, sweetheart; you will always remain in our thoughts and prayers.

Example 3: Eulogy for a Sibling

Today we are gathered here to honor and celebrate my brother’s life. He was an incredible person with a unique personality that touched the hearts of many. My brother had a special way of comforting people in any situation, no matter how hard times were or how dire they seemed. His time on this earth was filled with laughter and support for those he loved most: his family and friends.

My brother always put others before himself. No matter what experience came his way, he always found a way to help out. From being there for me when I needed someone beside me to providing support for our parents, his presence will be sorely missed by all.

I am blessed to have spent so much time with him throughout my life, as it has enriched me immeasurably. His unwavering spirit, kind heart, and infectious laugh will forever live on in my memory like waves reflecting off an ocean of contentment. As we bid farewell to my brother, may we never forget the joy he brought into the lives of everyone who knew him. May today’s funeral bring peace and solace to all those his spirit touched.

Overall, writing a memorial speech can be an emotionally fraught task. However, with the right approach and examples, you can craft an appropriate tribute that will capture the essence of the person’s life.

Utilize both personal anecdotes and factual evidence in combination with unique language choices. It will create an effective memorial speech that honors your loved one in a meaningful way .

This article outlines effective tips along with examples to use as inspiration when crafting a memorial speech.

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5 Sample Opening Remarks for a Funeral or Memorial

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Public speaking is a challenge for many people. It can be nerve-racking to stand in front of a group of people and give a speech. You may find it even more challenging in a situation where heightened emotion is involved. One example of this is the opening remarks for a funeral. 

Sitting down to write out what you want to say is the first step, but even that may feel overwhelming. If you’re grieving, your creativity may feel like it has run dry. 

Sometimes the hardest part is just getting started. Here we’ll share some tips on writing opening remarks for a funeral service. We’ll also provide some examples of ways people have opened funeral speeches. 

Virtual funeral tip: If you're speaking at a virtual funeral using a service like GatheringUs , make sure you know how much time you'll have to speak. If you're hosting the funeral, you can work with GatheringUs to create a detailed itinerary that you'll follow on the day.

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Before we look at some examples of opening remarks, let’s break down some tips for writing them.

1. Keep it brief

There are many speaking roles available at funerals. Friends and family members may be asked to give readings of meaningful poems or religious texts. And at many funerals, someone will deliver a eulogy that’s usually between three and five minutes long.

Your opening remarks don’t have to be that long. You should be able to say what you need to say in just a minute or two. 

2. Set the tone

There are many different kinds of funerals. Some are religious, and some are secular. Some have a more somber tone, while others take on a more celebratory bent. There are typically clues to this in the funeral announcement.

For example, generally, people know ahead of time if they’re going to a   celebration of life service as opposed to a more traditional funeral. 

If you’re making opening remarks, make sure they fit in with the overall tone of the service. If the funeral is meant to be a lighthearted celebration, you can infuse your remarks with a little humor. If it’s a serious service honoring a distinguished person, your remarks should be more formal. 

3. Make everyone feel welcome

Funeral opening remarks are almost akin to a   funeral thank you speech . You want to make sure everyone feels as though they have been warmly welcomed.

One way to do that is to express your gratitude to people for coming. Be open and sincere about what their presence means for you. This will make them feel less like an audience and more like they’re part of a meaningful occasion.   

4. Talk about the deceased

If a eulogy is on the schedule for later in the ceremony, you shouldn’t give much biographical background on the deceased, as it might end up being repeated later. But you should speak briefly about the deceased, as they are the person who has brought everyone together. You can refer to them by name, and you can also mention your relationship with them for anyone who doesn’t know.

If you’re including a quote to get started, make sure it’s something you think they would have connected with. That’s an easy way to make your remarks feel more personalized.

5. Get feedback

Since you’re setting the tone for the rest of the service, it’s a good idea to get some feedback on your remarks once you’ve written them .

Work with the person planning the funeral, or with someone who is helping them with logistics. This will ensure that everyone is on the same page.

6. Practice

Public speaking can be anxiety-inducing even for professionals. It can be even more challenging when you’re experiencing profound emotions like grief. Practice your remarks until you feel comfortable delivering them. Repetition like this can help you feel more confident no matter how sad or scared you might feel. 

If you’re speaking at a funeral, chances are you’ve looked up specific resources, like how to write a eulogy . But you may have had a harder time finding a comprehensive guide on writing opening remarks. 

Here are some examples of funeral service opening remarks to help you craft your own.

Sample remarks for a religious funeral

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Thessalonians 4:13 reads, “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope.”

Anyone who knew my mother quickly learned that she was a woman of deep and abiding faith. Though she had been ill for some time she was not sad, nor did she fear death. In the weeks before she passed away, we talked a lot about what was waiting for her after she left the earthly plane. 

She told me that she knew people would be sad, and that was okay. But she hoped that our grief would be tempered by remembering that she has gone to a better place. That was my mother in a nutshell. 

She was always comforting others, even when it probably should have been the other way around. Thank you all for joining our family today to remember such a special and selfless individual.

Sample remarks for a non-religious funeral

Looking around the room today I see many familiar faces, as well as some new ones. This isn’t surprising to me. My sister Marian has always been a gregarious and outgoing person. 

She never met a stranger: everyone was always immediately a potential new friend. It made things interesting. 

Once we were on vacation in a city we’d never been to, and we still managed to run into someone Marian knew. She deeply cared about people, and it warms my heart to see that so many of the people she loved are here. 

Our family looks forward to connecting with you after the service. Thank you all for supporting us through such a difficult loss.

Sample remarks for someone who died suddenly

Maya Angelou once wrote, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” 

My cousin Rebecca was one of those people who always made people feel loved and welcomed. She was always willing to step up and help people in need. She made everyone feel not just good, but also important or valued.

Looking out at everyone here today, I see so many people Rebecca loved. And I realize that even in death, she is looking out for us. The people she has supported are here to support us, and that’s a beautiful feeling.  

Sample remarks for someone who died after a long illness

Greetings, and thank you all for coming today. We are here today to honor a very special person: my dad. As most of you know, my dad has been ill for several years. But no matter how much time we had to prepare for this day, we still don’t feel ready to say goodbye.

We appreciate how many of you have come to support us during this difficult time. As per Dad’s request, today will not be a traditional funeral. Instead, we will have a celebration of life in honor of the joy he brought to so many people.

Sample remarks for a child

A.A. Milne wrote, “If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.” 

In just his few short years on this planet, Remy had such a major impact on everyone whose paths he crossed. We appreciate more than we can say that you’ve come to help his family through this difficult time. 

Today, we gather together to remember Remy and the light he brought into our lives. Like me, I know you all will continue keeping him in your hearts today and always.

Set the Tone for a Funeral with Your Opening Remarks

For some people, speaking in public will never be easy. And delivering even a brief speech when you’re in mourning can be extremely challenging. But even if you aren’t comfortable speaking in public, it’s important to honor our loved ones. Speaking about what they meant to their surviving friends and family is a powerful gesture.

The right words can even help bring closure or comfort to grieving loved ones. If you’ve been asked to speak at a funeral, remember that everyone is in the same boat as you are. They’re also in mourning. Even if your speech doesn’t go perfectly, people won’t mind. As long as you speak from the heart, they’ll connect with you. 

If you need more help with planning a funeral or memorial service, read our guides on funeral flowers for grandchildren and what shoes to wear to a funeral . 

Post-planning tip: If you are the executor for a deceased loved one, the funeral isn't the only thing you have to handle. We have a post-loss checklist  that will help you ensure that your loved one's family, estate , and other affairs are taken care of.

  • "Funerals and Memorial Practices." Baylor University Medical Humanities Program . https://medicalhumanities.artsandsciences.baylor.edu/sites/g/files/ecbvkj751/files/2022-07/Hoy2020_ReferenceWorkEntry_FuneralsAndMemorialPractices.pdf

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How to write a eulogy - step by step

Guidelines to help prepare a loving funeral speech 

By:  Susan Dugdale  

Having a eulogy or funeral speech to write is a gift, and a privilege. Despite the circumstances. 

And perfectly understandable and reasonable questions like the two below can make the task seem extraordinarily difficult.

  • Just how do you squeeze a lifetime's worth of memories into one six-minute speech?
  • And make it a special, memorable, unique speech to capture the essence of a person?

However, there is a way through. If you follow the step-by-step guidelines below  you  can and will give a sincere and fitting funeral speech or tribute.

I understand about being caught in the maelstrom of feelings triggered by the death of someone you love. I know finding the clarity to make decisions about what to write in a eulogy can feel overwhelmingly impossible.

There is so much we want to say . Trying to compress a whole life into a few minutes seems ridiculous, almost an insult.

But you can do it, and do it well. Let me show you how to write a eulogy, step by step.

Image: Lily of the valley flowers Text: How to write a eulogy step by step

What's on this long page

You'll find:

  • help to understand the importance of spending time carefully crafting a eulogy
  • help to understand the purpose and value of a eulogy
  • the background information you need before you begin to write
  • what to include in a eulogy  (and what to leave out)
  • how to collect the material you need to write it
  • the step-by-step process of writing the eulogy
  • a free printable fill-in-the-blanks eulogy planning template with examples. (It will guide you through the whole process of collecting material, structuring and writing: making it easier.)
  • links to a diverse collection of 70+ sample eulogies to read to help inspire you and give you courage to begin
  • how to rehearse and prepare yourself for delivering the eulogy as best you can
  • People also ask | 13 FAQs about eulogies with answers (and examples) to set your mind at ease: e.g.,  how to start a eulogy , how to end a eulogy , what makes a powerful, heartfelt eulogy , do you read a eulogy , how to stop yourself from crying while giving the eulogy ...

Please don't rush. Take your time and, go gently. 

Why go through the process of writing a eulogy?

Some people question the need to go through the step-by-step process of writing a eulogy: organizing their thoughts and putting them down on paper or into a document.

They say they would prefer to stand up and speak spontaneously, from the heart, letting inspiration and love for the person they're talking about carry them through.

While that sounds fine, there is a very good reason to sidestep that temptation.

It's because, for many people, giving any type of speech without conscious careful preparation is a challenge. They tend to drift off topic or lose the thread connecting their ideas.

Now, add to that the pressure of the occasion and, understandably, feeling upset. Do you see what might happen?

Preparation will give your eulogy structure - a definite pattern, a beginning, middle and end. That structure will help you contain and express your feelings as you choose to, lessening the likelihood of being overwhelmed by them.

Without the safety of form your funeral speech may become a tearful ramble with no obvious purpose or direction. That is distressing for everybody: yourself as well as those listening.

Taking the time to fully prepare the speech is the best way to express all you want to, the way you want to.

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What is the value and purpose of a eulogy?

When you understand what a prepared eulogy can do you'll realize it's a gift to the living. Your words will help everyone, (yourself included), on their journey through the grief of loss.

A eulogy is a reflection

In many ways a good eulogy is like a mirror or a reflection. We listen to the stories told to hear and see in our imagination what the life of our loved one was all about. We want to understand, to have it make sense to us.

A eulogy may not provide answers to difficult questions, but it allows us to focus more clearly.

A memorable speech prepared with loving care celebrates the  whole person : their strengths, their joys, challenges and achievements.

At a time when many are emotionally fragile your courage to stand in front of friends and family and speak will be truly appreciated.

Take a deep breath and follow the steps.

How to write a eulogy: preparation

Before you actually begin writing anything down there are number things to think about and do. Considering each of them prior to starting will make the process easier and your eulogy more effective. 

1. Who are you writing for?

When you stand to give your eulogy, does what you say represent other people beside yourself?

For instance:

  • Are you writing on behalf of the immediate family?
  • Have you been asked to be the principal spokesperson, or will others be talking too?
  • Are you writing as a work colleague, a close friend...?

The answers to those questions put you, the eulogy giver, in context which is important to those listening. If they don't know, they'll want to know how you fitted into the life of the person you are celebrating. It provides them with the background to what you share.

The answers also help you, the eulogy writer, because it defines the scope of what you talk about.

For example, if your relationship with the deceased was primarily work based, you'll reflect on achievements and events drawn from your time working together. You'll leave talking about close family relationships alone because they're not within your sphere. 

If you are the principal or only spokesperson your scope is much broader. You'll want to cover important relationships: family and significant friends, as well as major achievements, and life changing events, leavened with a few well-chosen stories.  

When doing the writing yourself is too difficult

We know life stories can be complicated. And grief can make them harder to tell. If you'd like help, talk to professional eulogy writer, Theresa Sjoquist .

Eulogy writer - Theresa Sjoquist

2. How long is a eulogy expected to be?

The general rule is somewhere between 3 to 7 minutes. If you're unsure ask for guidance from the person conducting or organizing the service. It can change depending on the number speakers.

The time allowance governs how much material you can fit into your eulogy.

3. What to include in your eulogy

  • A brief introduction of yourself and where you fitted in the person's life.
  • Personal stories: anecdotes, songs, poetry, reflections ... Anything at all that speaks true.

4. Subjects to bypass

Be honest without dwelling on or re-living negativity.

The eulogy is not an occasion to 'get even', air unresolved conflicts  or expose private family secrets.

If the person was bowed down with unresolved challenges, talk about them compassionately, if you must. 

Remember a funeral speech is an opportunity to honor and even the most difficult personality or life will have aspects worthy of celebration.

(And while we're discussing what subject matter it's best or diplomatic to avoid: political opinions or religious differences don't belong in a eulogy either.  Neither do cliches: "Time will heal all wounds", "It was for the best", "Their suffering is over now" and so on.)

5. Make a special folder 

Set up a special folder on your computer to store all the material you need to write your eulogy. This is where you'll put your notes for stories you think you might use, scraps of poetry, and so on. Labelling everything clearly and putting it in one place will help when it comes time to write.

6. Ask for contributions

If you're speaking on behalf of others ask friends, family or work colleagues for their recollections and stories to add to your own.

Get them to write their ideas down in a document and send it to you which you can then file in your eulogy folder. If they can't do that, talk with them, and note their thoughts yourself.  

There is no need for you to carry the responsibility of putting together the eulogy alone. Let others share in the privilege of shaping the speech to honor your loved one's life.

7. Do you want to include a poem or a quotation?

Many people want a piece of poetry or a quotation to help them express what they wish to say.

Here are three possible sources to explore:

1. Browse through my collection of funeral poems and a large selection of widely diverse inspirational quotations . I've made recordings of a number of the most frequently read. Here's the link that will take you to them, including Funeral Blues by WH Auden: 8 readings of best-loved funeral poems .

2. In your quest for a quotation don't overlook the person whose life you're celebrating. Perhaps there are memorable phrases that were uniquely their own. May be it was a line from a song or a poem.

For example, my mother had a signature saying. "Let there be peace and let it begin with me"  inspired her throughout many years of a sometimes very difficult life.

Let there be peace and let it begin with me.

3. What about writing your own poem? It's not as difficult as you may think and you'll have something very special and original to offer. You can find out here how to write a poem in free verse.

8. Writing the eulogy: tone

What tone do you want to use? Do you want it to be solemn? Do you want it to be lighter, perhaps even humorous? Or do you want a balance of both?

To help decide, ask yourself: what would your loved one have wanted? Be guided by your answer.

There are no "right" or "wrong" ways. This a decision for yourself, the family and friends.  A life contains joy as well as sorrow and laughing through tears can be a real reflection of that.

9. Please tell the stories!

Do resist the urge to list in chronological order achievements or milestones. These can be dry, dull facts.

Instead tell the stories about the achievements or milestones. They may have been heard many times but in their retelling the essence or life force of your loved one lives on. This is the real person who people want to hear about and remember. Lists don't give that.

10. Ordering the content you've collected

Once you've got everything together you think you need, go through the collection of reflections, stories, quotations and poem fragments etc., selecting what gives an accurate and balanced portrayal. You won't be able to include everything but what you do choose, you'll want to resonate with the 'truth' of the person.

Put your choices of material in the order you want them to come in when you write the eulogy.

(If it helps either print out all the documents in your folder or put the headings of each one on post-it notes and move them around until you are happy with how they are sequenced.)

The order might look this:

Introduction:

Statement of who I am and relationship to loved-one Verse or quotation

  • Story one, or reflection, or poem or song or reading
  • Story two, or reflection, or poem or song or reading
  • Story three, or reflection, or poem or song or reading

Conclusion:

Restatement of main message or theme from body of eulogy Closing snippet of poetry or quotation

Where to start writing the eulogy

Begin with the body of the funeral speech.

This is where you will be sharing the stories you've selected and ordered making this person unique, special and loved.

If you have notes but can't get straight into writing, telling your story to yourself or to another person while recording it may help kick start the process.

Remember to go straight to the core of each story. Long preambles are not needed. Include enough to make sense and no more.

For example:

(This is a true story. I didn't use it for my Mother's eulogy but telling it here is a little like giving her another small one years later.)

Leaving home and the yellow blouse

Girl resting her arm on an old-fashioned suitcase

"I'm going to tell you the story of the yellow blouse.

I was 18 and leaving home. We had very little money and certainly none for luxuries and that's what new clothes were. Ours were hand-me-downs from cousins. 

What money Mum got from her government paid widow's benefit each week was carefully placed in a series of jars in a cupboard above the sink in the kitchen. Each had a label. This was for 'Food', that for 'Electricity' etc. The jars were often empty but miraculously, our stomachs never were.

The day came for going. I had made 'new clothes' from old ones. They were folded, ready for packing. As I closed the lid on my suitcase, my mother gave me a parcel. Inside was a new store-bought yellow blouse, beautifully sewn and made of fine cloth. 'A girl must have at least one quality garment.' she said. It was extraordinary. I knew the path to that blouse had been 5 cents by 5 cents by 5 cents over months. I also knew this was love."

Link your stories/poems/songs/readings/quotes together so one leads into another. Think of them as beads you are threading to form a necklace. Each is part of the whole.

Write the conclusion

What enduring message do you want your listeners to carry away with them?

It may be a simple thank you for the life you've shared with your loved one or it could be a special quote expressing an idea or feeling you know is appropriate. As this is the last opportunity to pay tribute think carefully. You'll want to get it as "right" as you can.

Write the opening

Now you have the rest of your eulogy it will be easier to write the opening.

Unless you're being introduced by someone else be sure to include who you are at the very beginning.

Once that is done think about the major events, relationships  and general characteristics making up this life special.

"Sophie was my Mother but she was also Mother to four more: Fred, Isobel, Warren and Gwen. Many of you know her as aunt, cousin, friend and colleague but whatever the relationship, we all know her as the woman who played many roles.

She was the bright and beautiful young women who married my father after a war-time whirl wind romance. She was the determined young bride who taught herself to cook and sew.'  (And so on ...)

'We all have memories of Sophie. I want to share some of my most precious with you now ...":

This leads into the body of the speech comprised of the specific stories you plan to tell.

Would you like to read a few eulogy examples before you begin?

They may help you decide what you want to do, and give you the courage to start. Reading what others have done is a good thing to do. 

Here are two eulogy examples written by me and we also have a growing and wonderfully diverse collection of 70+ funeral speeches contributed by site visitors from all around the world.

Image: blue forget-me-nots. Text: 70+ eulogy examples

Would a printable eulogy planning template help?

I've taken all the information on this page about the step by step process of writing a eulogy, and put it into a free 15 page printable.  You'll find instructions and examples alongside fill-in-the-blank slots for you to enter what you want to say. 

Complete it and you'll have a well structured first draft. Of course, you'll still need to edit, polish and rehearse it, but you'll be well on your way.

Make your task easier: get the eulogy planning template .

Image: background blue forget-me-not flowers. Text: Click to download a eulogy planning template. Step by step guidelines with examples.

Writing a eulogy: practice & rehearsal

Use the record function on your phone and read your first draft out loud as if you were delivering it. This will help you make sure that what you've written makes sense. 

(It also helps if you have someone listen to you to give you feedback. A pair of independent ears will pick up things you might otherwise miss.)

Play back your recording and listen carefully.

  • Does your material flow smoothly from one idea to the next?
  • Are the opening and closing remarks fitting?
  • Have you varied your language and sentence length to keep it interesting to listen to?
  • If you hear yourself repeating the same phrases over and over again, either cut them out or find other language to express the idea.
  • Listen to hear if you are rambling without real point or direction  or  you've repeated the same or a similar story without realizing it.
  • Does your speech fit the time allowance? (If you've not been given a time allowance, approximately 3-7 minutes is about average. Although this may seem very brief, it does have advantages. Firstly, it gives other people who may be speaking time to do so. Secondly, it focuses your speech and helps you to decide what is important to say.)  

Now make any adjustments needed and write your second draft.

Go through the same recording/timing process again and if possible, get someone whose opinion you trust to listen and give you feedback. 

When you're satisfied, prepare your final copy.

You'll find comfort and support in this free series of inspirational messages. They're my gift to you.

Suggestions for delivering your eulogy

These will help ensure you give your eulogy the way you want to.

Prepare your notes for printing

If you've written your eulogy in a word document on your computer, BEFORE YOU PRINT IT OUT:

  • Make sure the font is large enough to be easily read at a glance.
  • Double space each line for easy reading.
  • Number your pages clearly.
  • Select single-side printing.
  • If you're using a poem or reading include the text in the body of your notes.   It's simpler to deal with one item (your notes) rather than try to manage several under pressure.  But if you must use the original text, make sure you bookmark your place clearly, so you do not have the added pressure of trying to find the right page while everybody waits.

At the venue

  • If it's available, use a lectern or stand for your notes rather than hold them. You can either stand to one side or behind it. When you hand-hold notes the temptation to rattle, or mask your face with them, might be too much to withstand.
  • Practice breathing deeply before you stand to talk to calm yourself. You'll find more information on how to breathe to release tension here.
  • Have a glass of water available.
  • Do not worry if you "wobble" or falter. Tears and being unable to speak for a moment or two are natural. Do not fight them. Have a tissue handy. Blow your nose, wipe your eyes, have a sip of water and carry on. People will not judge you. Instead, they will admire your courage and a few tears are not a loss of dignity. 
  • If you do have to stop, do not apologize. Nobody is expecting a flawless performance.   The British have a saying: " stiff upper lip" . It means concealing or keeping feelings under control. In the midst of great emotional or physical pain a " stiff upper lip"  hides the inner turmoil. This is not being asked of you and is expected less and less of the British too! Being able to acknowledge and show feeling openly is healthy and honest. The ideal is to  ride the wave  and continue.
  • If you want to, take a support person to stand beside you. Their presence will be a steadying influence, and if you have to take a moment or two out, they'll give you the strength to carry on.
  • If you have time, practice in the venue. There are fuller guidelines on  how to rehearse a speech  here.

People also ask: 13 FAQs about eulogies with answers

Below are some of people's most frequently asked questions about eulogies. I've answered each of them with examples and ongoing links to either pages of my own or others I found offering good useful information.

(N.B. Some of the questions have already been answered above.) 

How do you start a eulogy? Give me an example introduction.

There is more than one way to begin a eulogy. Have a look through these four example openings to see if can find one you’d like to adapt to fit the eulogy you are writing.

1. Use a habitual phrase or saying

Use a habitual phrase or saying that everyone who knows the person will immediately recognize.

As an example, my mother had, ‘Let there be peace and let it begin with me’ written out on numerous note cards. She placed them in prominent positions everywhere: on the dashboard of her car, the fridge door, on the kitchen windowsill, in her bag... That saying could easily be used as an opening. E.g.

‘Let there be peace, and let it begin with me’. That was Pauline’s signature saying. Those cards were everywhere: in any of her cavernous handbags, in the pockets of her coat, on the back of the toilet door...

I’m Susan, her eldest daughter. Thank you for coming together today to celebrate her life.’

2. Use a rhetorical question

Use a rhetorical question that you know will trigger happy memories in many of the people present.

‘Who can ever forget Aunt Mary’s special occasion cakes? Birthdays, Christmas, christenings, anniversaries and more. As she said, anything went better with cake.

Hers were off the scale good: good to taste, good to look at, good to share. Sublime.

I’m Henry Smith, Mary’s nephew. I was lucky to be on the receiving end of quite a few. And now it’s my privilege to give her eulogy.’

3. Use a list of qualities and habits

Use a list of qualities and habits that everybody will recognize as being true of the deceased. For example:

"Kind, lover of ridiculous hats – the sillier the better, fearless, honest, and for many of us, an inspiration. That’s my Uncle Andrew.

I’m Lucy. My Mother, Stephanie, is Andrew’s older sister.

4. Immediately establish your connection or relationship

Immediately establish your connection or relationship to the deceased. This is useful if you are talking to a very large group of people, many of whom don’t know you, or where you fitted in their life.

"My name is Robert Naido. I was extremely fortunate to work alongside Ben for many years at Timberlake High school. As a young inexperienced teacher, he was my mentor, and inspiration. He is why I am still teaching, and it’s also why I feel privileged to be asked to share my memories of him with you today."

What should I say in a good eulogy?

A ‘good’ eulogy is one that both satisfies and serves the people listening to it. As you speak your words allow them to connect with their own memories and feelings.

You’ll see them nodding their agreement, smiling, and perhaps wiping away a tear or two because what you’re saying is an honest, sincere, moving combination of humor and seriousness that genuinely reflects the person they knew and loved. It’s a careful selection stories and reflection, perhaps anchored around specific milestones, that will be particularly meaningful to everyone present.  That’s vastly different from a simple recitation of key milestones.

For example, something like this:

Amy was born in 1962 in Brooklyn, New York. She is the eldest child of Fred and Myrtle Black. The family moved to...etc., etc.

A good eulogy also has structure, a beginning, middle and end. It is not a shambling collection of hastily collected thoughts, and it is approximately 3 – 7 minutes long.

Following the guidelines above and using the printable eulogy planner will keep you on track.

What are some examples of a eulogy?

There are over 70 examples of eulogies on this site. They’ve been sent to me by people from all over the world: UK, USA, South Africa, Philippines, India, Australia, and more. There are eulogies for mothers, fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers, sons, sister, brothers, colleagues, and friends. Some are brief. Some are longer. Some are a poignant mix of humor and grief. All of them have been submitted by their writers to help people who had a eulogy to write. They understood having examples to read lessened the burden. Use this link to find them: examples of a eulogy .

What are the three parts of a eulogy?

The three main parts are a beginning, a middle section and an ending. This is the same three part structural format that underpins any successful speech.

In the beginning (introduction) you will acknowledge or greet everybody present, introduce yourself, state your relationship to the deceased, thank people for coming, and use a quotation/signature saying, rhetorical question or some other opener if you choose to.

In the middle section what you share will depend on whether you are the only person giving the eulogy, or one of several.

If you are the only person a brief biography covering date and place of birth, key childhood/birth family members and events, plus giving the names of the person’s spouse/partner, children and grandchildren is useful. This information provides context for the those who met the deceased outside of their immediate friends and family circle for example, in a workplace, as a member of a club etc.

Then add stories, memories, significant achievements, note talents, hobbies and passions, including any unique and special qualities.

If there are multiple people speaking, you can go straight to your stories and memories.

In the ending talk about what the deceased meant to you, what you gained and learned from them being in your life. If you choose to, add a brief reading or quotation before closing with a last farewell. *

* If you’re representing the whole family, or any other group of people, you will need to broaden what you say to make sure you include all the people who need to be. For instance, if it's family, what they meant to their partner, daughter, grandchild, and what was learned by those people. They need to see the importance of their relationship with the deceased reflected in what you say.

How to end a eulogy

Answer:   Here are four examples of ways to end a eulogy. Each is a heartfelt, sincere summary of the speaker’s loving regard for the deceased. They all come from eulogies their writers sent to me to share.

1. Eulogy for Dad by Byron Tweedy

This is the closing paragraph from Byrona Tweedy’s eulogy for her Dad.

“I’m so fortunate and grateful that I had a father so capable of expressing his love for our family and me. Although he will be forever missed, I feel comforted knowing that he accomplished more than he could have dreamed in life. I’ll hold you in my heart forever, dad; I love you.”

Read the whole of her eulogy for her father: Eulogy for Dad

2. Eulogy for my Grandmother Bertha

Here’s the last part of Craig Curran-Morton’s eulogy for his Grandmother.

“...Perfect She was perfect. Perfect in every respect. - Her laugh - Her smile - Her big kisses - Her hugs They were perfect and she was the perfect grandmother. And we are all a little closer to perfection to have had her in our lives. I love you grandma. You will be missed.”

Read Craig's funeral speech: Eulogy for my Grandmother 

3. Eulogy for my Grandad, my Friend

Corinne McPartland added some lines of a poem to the ending of her eulogy for her grandfather:

'Seeing as you loved a poem to fit an occasion, I will now leave you with a few lines of one I found, which I hope describes how you may have passed from death to eternal life:

"On with the dance! Let joy be unconfined; No sleep 'til morn, when youth and pleasure meet, to chase the glowing hours with flying feet." I love you, Granddad and am glad we have shared a friendship that has overlooked age, created so many wonderful memories and one that will last a lifetime - until we meet again.'

Read Corrine’s eulogy for her grandfather:  Michael McDonnell: my Grandad, my Friend

4. Eulogy for my co-worker Donna

James Lang wrote this as the ending to his eulogy for his colleague and friend of many years, Donna:

“Over the last year and a half of her life, whenever I saw Donna, on parting she would say, “Love you much”. Donna, I love you much. I am a better person for having you in my life. Thank you for everything that you did for me.”

Read eulogy for my co-worker Donna

What makes a powerful, heartfelt eulogy?

This is a similar question to the one above: What should I say in a 'good' eulogy?

A powerful, heartfelt, or good eulogy shares the same core characteristic. That is bringing the person to life in the imagination of listeners through telling carefully selected stories everyone can relate to. They can be funny, poignant, about significant milestones...Stories well told are much more powerful than a list of dry 'did this', 'did that' facts.

Have a look at these for examples of great storytelling. They’re each powerful eulogies in their own ways.

  • Eulogy for My Mother-In-Law and her Lasagna   by Jo Lloyd-Davies
  • Eulogy for my brother with Downs Syndrome by Cyprian Payne 
  • Jimbo Bro - my wee brother  by Chery

What should you not put in a eulogy?

Answer: A eulogy is given in public: to anybody who decided to come along to the remembrance service.

What doesn’t belong in it are private matters concerning the deceased, their family members, your personal judgments about aspects of the deceased’s life, comments about differing philosophical, political or religious beliefs, cliches like ‘it was for the best’, their ‘suffering is over now’, and ‘time heals all wounds’, tales of raucous or bad behavior, accounts of unresolved conflict, or stories focusing on yourself.

What you say needs to be appropriate for everyone to hear which doesn’t mean minimizing or hiding from difficult truths. It means considering why you’re speaking (giving the eulogy) and choosing your words to fit the occasion: respectfully.

What are the steps to writing a eulogy?

Briefly, the 3 principal steps to writing a eulogy are:

  • collecting the material you need: the stories, readings, poems...,
  • writing it using a 3 part structure: introduction, body (middle) and conclusion,
  • rehearsing it

The guidelines above will lead you through the entire process from beginning to end-delivery – giving the eulogy. 

Do download and use the eulogy planner. It will make the process less stressful, simpler and easier for you.

How long should a eulogy be? How long should a eulogy be at a celebration of life?

Whether it’s a celebration of life, or a funeral service, the optimum length for a eulogy is between 3 – 7 minutes. If you are the only person speaking that could perhaps be extended to 10 minutes.

To be sure, before you prepare the eulogy find out from the person organizing the celebration/service what time allocation has been put aside for your speech. Then use that as a guide.

For more see this article: How many words per minute in a speech . You’ll find a helpful quick reference guide for number of words required for a 1 through to 30 minutes, depending on whether you talk at a slow rate, a medium rate or a fast one.

Please note, it’s only by saying your speech out loud as if you were delivering it, and timing it as you do, that you’ll find out how long it actually takes.

Who usually gives, or says, a eulogy?

Answer: Who gives a eulogy at a funeral service varies hugely. Sometimes there is one speaker, and sometimes there are many. It depends entirely on the type of service it is, as well as how it’s being organized.

For a full answer please see: Who speaks at a funeral? Who gives the eulogy? 

What do you say at a celebration of life?

Answer: What you say depends on what’s fitting for the role and the relationship you had with the person who has died. You could, for instance, offer a short speech (eulogy), a poem, a song, an amusing story, or a favorite memory.

The key thing to remember about what you choose to say, is that the event is a celebration.

A celebration of life service is an opportunity to give thanks, to honor and acknowledge the positive presence of the deceased in your life. It’s about the special qualities and talents making them a unique person.

If you’ve been asked to speak, or want to speak, and don’t know what to say, or where to begin, ask the person organizing the event for more information. For example:

  • How long to speak for - one minute?  Two minutes? Three minutes?
  • What they’d like you to cover
  • Where you come in the speaking order, if there is one.
  • And then, read some eulogy examples to get an idea of the kinds of things people talk about.

Do you read a eulogy?

Answer: For many people the safest way to deliver a eulogy is to read it. That means having everything they want to say written out word-for-word in a document, and then printed off.

When they stand to speak, they’ll read from a copy of their eulogy placed on the lectern or pulpit in front of them. If they become temporarily overwhelmed by the enormity of the occasion, the complete text is a reassuring presence, enabling them to pick up from where they left off to take a breath, wipe their eyes, or blow their nose, relatively easily.

Opting to read rather than give the eulogy from either memory or extemporaneously using note, or cue, cards does not mean that you don’t need to practice. You will deliver your eulogy so much more effectively if you rehearse it. That means reading it out loud as many times as you can before you have to actually deliver it.

When you are familiar with the flow of the text, you’ll be far less likely to get flummoxed, overcome by emotion, when you come to particularly difficult passages to say, and if you do, you’ll recover more quickly.  Repeated practice helps a great deal.

For more on how to read a speech effectively

How do you get through a eulogy without crying?

Answer: The very first thing to acknowledge and accept is that tears at a funeral service are natural. They’re a very normal response to grief.

The fear lying behind the question is not so much will you shed a few quiet tears and have to pause to catch your breath before you go on.

It’s more along the lines of, will I stand up to give the eulogy and then be completely overwhelmed by grief? Will I sob uncontrollably, be unable to get any of the words out and have to sit down?

Feeling anxious about that happening is totally understandable. You want to do your very best to honor your loved one, and yet you feel so utterly vulnerable.

Here are a few suggestions I know will help.

  • Remind yourself tears are part grieving. If you cry no one is going to think ill or less of you at all. Be kinder to yourself. There’s no need to bite back your emotions.
  • Practice a lot out loud. Hearing yourself say the words makes them familiar. Even the difficult parts become easier to say. The shock you feel is a little less each time. It no longer sweeps you away. You may wobble a little, but you can recover and continue.
  • Breathe. When we are tense or anxious, we hold our breath and unfortunately, that makes us feel even more anxious. To help yourself, as you are practicing reading aloud from your script, use the punctuation as an opportunity to take a breath. At the end of each sentence there is a period, or full stop. Use it to take a breath. When you see a comma, take a breath. Between paragraphs, take a breath. (My article How to use pauses effectively  explains the process in more detail.) And if you do feel the emotion rising, your eyes beginning to tear up and your throat tightening, stop. Take a moment to take a long slow in-breath, followed by a long slow out-breath. Repeat if necessary, and then, when you’re ready, pick up from where you left off. For more on breathing well and breathing exercises  
  • Make sure the copy of your eulogy is very easily read. You don’t want to be scrabbling around trying to find your place if you had to stop for a moment. Each page needs to be printed single sided, numbered clearly, with 1.5 line spacing, and in a large clean font you can read at a glance.
  • Either have a support person to stand beside you as you speak for reassurance or have one sit where you can see them. Their role is to encourage, to give you strength, to remind you to breathe. If absolutely necessary, they can take over from you.

What is the most comforting thing to say at a funeral?

Answer: Many of us struggle to find the right words to say to those who are recently bereaved. It’s not because we don’t care, but because we do.

So what can you say, that is genuinely comforting?

For examples of what not to say, and what to say please see: Funeral words: examples of comforting things to say at funerals .

You'll find out how to avoid using platitudes and to say something meaningful, honest, and kind.

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In conclusion:

Remember having a eulogy to write is both a gift and a privilege.

It's a gift twice over. Once because you are giving your energy, time and love to honor the life of your loved one. And secondly because it will aid the healing process for everybody including yourself.

Giving a eulogy is a privilege because it signifies your value or importance in the life of the loved one and in the lives of family and friends. Being asked to speak shows trust and respect. You are being trusted to encapsulate a life fittingly and deliver the unique essence of the person everyone loved publicly.

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The quote above is widely attributed to Goethe. Despite disagreement over its origin, the sentiment expressed is fitting for your task. Have courage, and begin.

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how to make a memorial speech

 

If you are asked to write a memorial speech, rest easy knowing that while you have been tasked with a very important function, you don’t have to be a perfectionist to write an excellent memorial.

A memorial speech is more about helping provide family members and loved ones with closure than it is about perfect speech writing. Most memorial speeches only last for a few minutes. Granted there are some people that could talk for hours, but this will only prolong the agony of the family members and loved ones that have come to pay their respects.

If you truly want to write a good memorial speech, here are some tips that will help you create a speech that will leave a positive impression in the minds of friends and loved ones.

Research Important Life Events and Memories

If you know the family member or loved one well, then you probably have your own collection of memories you can pull from to write a good speech. However, it always pays off to talk with other family members to gather important stories or recollections about the deceased. See if you can find some old videos, journals or talk with other family members about their favorite or funny memories of the deceased. This will help you develop a better-rounded image of the person you plan to write about. That way you are not only considering your side of the story. Scrapbooks can also be helpful for creating stories about a loved one.

Create a Tone for Your Speech

One you have your stories and recollections, you will need to decide on the tone of your speech. While some memorials are funny or humorous, others are quite serious or solemn. You can decide for something in the middle, or create something abstract, like a video presentation or collection of poems. Whatever you decide to do, make sure you stick with it.

Create Your Draft

Work on a draft of your memorial. Make sure it is not too long. You don’t want to put people to sleep. Highlight important events that tell a story of the life of the person you plan to memorialize. This should characterize the person you plan to speak about in a positive way. You can read a poem, show pictures, highlight a scrapbook, or simply tell a story about the person you want to speak about. Whatever you do, make it poignant, and brief. The details that you use should be enough to provide a vivid image of who the person you plan to speak about was, enough so that a stranger would get a good image of the person you plan to speak about.

  • Opening – the opening can include an introduction to the person, including a quote, or short poem that highlights some feature of the person’s life, or introduces your relationship with the person.
  • Body – in the body, expand on the person’s life. Provide them with some “meat” that highlights the person’s achievements. Help people understand why that person is important, and how that person’s life impacted others. What did that person do? Did they raise a family? Did they conduct research? Were they active in their community? Did they bring joy to others?
  • Close – in the end, tell why that person will be missed. You may include another quote or poem, or some scripture here. Be sure to acknowledge friends and family, and offer condolences to all in attendance.

Don’t forget to practice your memorial before actually giving it. This will help calm your nerves, and ensure that you are ready for the big day when it arrives.



















 

 
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A Guide to Writing & Delivering an Appropriate Eulogy

Last Updated: May 15, 2024 Fact Checked

Sample Eulogies

What is a eulogy.

  • Writing a Eulogy
  • Giving a Eulogy

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This article was co-authored by Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP and by wikiHow staff writer, Raven Minyard, BA . Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, and other evidence-based practices. Rebecca holds a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology and Anthropology from DePauw University, a Master in Teaching (MAT) from Dominican University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Chicago. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level. Rebecca is trained as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist (CGCS), a Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP), and a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP). Rebecca is also a member of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Society of America and The National Association of Social Workers. There are 8 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 2,880,729 times.

A eulogy is a speech given at a memorial service in memory of the deceased. Being asked to deliver one may seem overwhelming at first, but you don't have to be a great writer or orator to deliver a heartfelt and meaningful eulogy that captures the essence of the deceased. If you want to know how to write a eulogy in spite of being in grief, keep reading as we walk you through how to write and deliver a great eulogy.

Tips for Writing a Eulogy

  • Introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Describe their family life, accomplishments, and notable hobbies.
  • As you talk about the deceased’s qualities, speak from the heart and tell stories from their life that support these qualities.
  • Don’t be afraid to use a bit of humor to break the tension. A bit of laughter can help the audience feel better.

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  • A good eulogy reflects the personality, character, and achievements of the deceased while typically incorporating personal anecdotes from the person delivering the speech.
  • Every eulogy is different, but the most important thing is that it is heartfelt and accurately depicts the person being honored.

How to Write a Eulogy

Step 1 Brainstorm and gather stories before writing.

  • Ask the deceased’s loved ones for stories. To make the eulogy personal and heartfelt, ask their friends and family to tell you about them so you can get a full picture of what they were like. [3] X Research source

Step 2 Choose a tone or theme to personalize the eulogy.

  • When deciding on a tone, consider the way the deceased passed away. If you're giving a eulogy about a teenager who met an untimely death, your tone should be more serious than if you were giving a eulogy about a grandparent who happily lived to see their ninetieth birthday.
  • Every eulogy is unique, so base the theme around the deceased’s life. For example, if they traveled a lot, talk about all the adventures they had. If they were family-oriented, talk about the cherished memories they shared with their children.

Step 3 Start the eulogy with a quote or poem.

  • If the deceased was religious, you can also begin your speech with a prayer.
  • For example, try something like “My mother loved Fleetwood Mac, so I’d like to open with a line from their song “Landslide.”
  • Or, “When I was a child, my father would always tell me ‘Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re going to get.’ He always acted like he came up with it himself, so imagine my surprise when I saw Forrest Gump for the first time.”

Step 4 Briefly introduce yourself and explain your relationship to the deceased.

  • If you aren’t related to the deceased, this is also a good time to offer your condolences to the family.
  • You can also describe how you met the deceased if you aren’t a relative.
  • For example, say, “My name is Jane and I’m the daughter of Robert. I’m here today to celebrate my father’s life and tell you all what an incredible man he was.”
  • Or, “For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Ted. I’m proud to say I’ve been Gary’s best friend for forty years.”

Step 5 State some basic information about the deceased.

  • Write down the names of the family members especially close to the deceased, like a spouse, sibling, child, or parent. You may forget their names on the big day because you're overwhelmed by sadness, so it's advisable to have them on hand.
  • Make sure you say something specific about the family life of the deceased to honor their living family members.
  • For example, say something like “John was a family man and is survived by his wife Susan, his daughter Christina, and his son Nicholas. He worked hard to build them their dream home where he proudly taught his children to ride a bike, drive a car, and be strong, independent people. He always said his family was his biggest accomplishment.”
  • Or, “Lois was a globetrotter. She spent the majority of her life traveling and seeing the world. She’d tell me stories about visiting countries I’d never even heard of and all the adventures she had.”

Step 6 Use specific stories and examples to describe their best qualities.

  • If the deceased is remembered for being kind, talk about the time they helped a homeless man get back on his feet.
  • If the deceased is known for being a prankster, mention their famous April Fool's prank.
  • For example, you could say “My mother was the kindest person I’ve ever met. She was the type to give you the shirt off her back. I still remember when I was 8 years old, she paid for a family’s meal at Olive Garden when she noticed their card was declined. We didn’t have much money then, so it was a complete act of selflessness. Ever since then, I’ve tried to be half the woman she was by helping out whenever I can.”
  • Pretend that a stranger is listening to your eulogy. Would they get a good sense of the person you're describing without ever meeting them just from your words?
  • The average eulogy is about 3-5 minutes long. That should be enough for you to give a meaningful speech about the deceased. Remember that less is more; you don't want to try the patience of the audience during such a sad occasion.

Step 7 Keep it honest and consider the audience.

  • For example, if the person was difficult or inordinately negative, either avoid talking about it or allude to it gently by saying something like “He had his demons, which were a constant battle.”
  • Or, say something like, “We all know Harry was a stubborn old man, and he’d tell you that himself. Underneath that rough exterior, however, was a kind soul.”
  • Avoid making jokes or comments about the deceased that would be a mystery to the majority of the crowd, as well.
  • A good rule of thumb is if you think something could be offensive to the deceased or their loved ones, don’t include it. If you made a joke that might be risky, get feedback from some of the deceased’s loved ones beforehand to determine if it’s appropriate.

Step 8 End on a touching note.

  • For example, if the deceased did a lot of charity work, you may encourage the audience to carry out their memory by doing some volunteer work themselves.
  • If the deceased was religious, you can say something like “My mother was a good Christian woman and as she goes to live with God in Heaven, I’d like to leave you with her favorite Bible verse.”
  • You can be heartfelt and still keep things light. If the deceased was the type who didn’t want their funeral to be too sad, try saying something like, “Buddy, I sure am going to miss you. You always said you wanted everyone to crack open a beer for you when you died, so once we’re done here, I encourage everyone to pour one out for the best friend anyone could ask for.”

Step 9 Get honest feedback.

  • You can also ask someone to help edit your eulogy. Since you’re the only one who will be reading it at the funeral, it doesn’t have to have perfect grammar, but your friends or family members can help you add smoother transitions or remove repetitive phrasing.

How to Give a Eulogy

Step 1 Rehearse the eulogy before the big day.

  • Rehearsing the eulogy will also help you learn to control your emotions and not get choked up over the speech.
  • Try memorizing as much of the speech as you can, or even just reading from notes. Though you should have something to fall back on if you forget what you were going to say, your words will sound more heartfelt if you’re not reading every sentence right off the page.

Step 2 Print your eulogy in an easy-to-read font.

  • Tell yourself you’re not there to win a speech-giving contest or to impress anyone. You’re there to convey your heartfelt feelings about the deceased and that’s it.

Step 6 Use a conversational tone.

  • Remember to sound like yourself, not some formal version of yourself. You can use a conversational tone as long as you don't use inappropriate language or too much slang that might confuse the older members of the audience.

Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP

  • Write and speak in your own voice. If you wish, augment your eulogy by reading a poem. Thanks Helpful 2 Not Helpful 1
  • The best eulogies are factual, honest, and respectful. Talk about the deceased and what they did in their lifetime. If they died young, show that you express regret about that. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

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  • Don't use humor that is either inappropriate or being used just for the laugh. Make it relevant and tasteful. If in doubt, leave it out. Thanks Helpful 4 Not Helpful 0
  • Don't think that a eulogy has to be a biography of the deceased. On the contrary, you shouldn't sum up their entire life. Instead, tell your story—that is, your relationship with the deceased and how they impacted your life. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
  • Avoid mentioning how the deceased passed. Depending on the situation, this can be a very sensitive topic and may greatly upset their loved ones. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

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Eulogies are pieces of writing or funeral speeches that are typically shared at a funeral or gathering for someone who has passed away. The speeches often contain a description of the person who passed away, the kind of person they were and personal memories that the person delivering the eulogy finds meaningful to share. That being said, eulogies can be fully customized to fit your writing style and needs and can come in all types of formats. Somber eulogies, eulogies filled with stories, short eulogies, and funny eulogies are all common. The best eulogy speeches are those that are written from the heart.

How to write a eulogy

Outstanding eulogies posted on ever loved, example eulogy templates, eulogy examples for a friend, eulogy examples for a father, eulogy examples for a mother, eulogy examples for a grandmother or grandfather, eulogy examples for a son, eulogy examples for a brother or sister, eulogy examples for a grandson or granddaughter, eulogy example for an infant, eulogy examples for a parent, eulogy examples for a wife, eulogy examples for a coworker, eulogy examples for various professions.

Not sure where to start? Don’t know how to write a eulogy for a mother? Friend? Sister? Grandfather? Try to relax and remember that many people don’t know how to write a eulogy, especially for someone important in their life. To start, the main parts to include in a standard eulogy are as follows:

Introduction

A brief introduction usually looks like “Thank you all for being here” or “Thank you all for coming”. You’re acknowledging the audience and thanking them for sharing this time with you and yours.

Short story

Including a short story about your loved one is customary and is usually a story that really shows their personality or what about them made them special. If you’re interested in a lighter eulogy, consider sharing a funny story. For more somber atmospheres, stories about lessons taught by the individual or a story about their achievements is a great alternative. Other popular story topics include major accomplishments, life events, the impact the person had on others, childhood memories and years, stories about traveling, marriage, family, children, or other important stories.

Favorite memories

Similar to the story, it’s not unusual to see eulogies include one or two favorite memories the person had with the deceased. These memories can be of simple or complex moments; this is up to you and what feels right.

Important quote

If your loved one had a favorite passage, verse, quote, or poem, you can include it in the eulogy itself. Alternatively, if you have a passage or quote that you feel is relevant and important to share, you can include that as well.

You can end the eulogy by summarizing the impact this person had on the lives of others and by acknowledging the family and those who chose to attend the services again. It may also feel fitting to end the eulogy with a treasured quote or passage.

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If you're looking for examples of real eulogies that have been written and read by folks on Ever Loved, here are some outstanding examples. Reading through example eulogies can help inspire you and guide you when it comes time for you to prepare a eulogy.

Shannon McMasters' eulogy

Written by Stephen McMasters Shannon McMasters' eulogy, written and read by her brother, Stephen, is a beautiful testament to a woman who Stephen describes as a "shining star that burned out too soon". Shannon's life was far from easy, but reading about her perseverance, determination, and strength and hearing her brother recount meaningful moments in their life and the impact she had on him and those around her is powerful. Shannon's eulogy is an example for those who are looking to honor the struggles and difficulties their loved one dealt with while remembering other important aspects of their life. Visit Shannon's memorial website to learn more about her life.

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Shannon had such a big life and touched so many people, it’s hard to know where to begin. Other than our mother, Shannon was the closest person to me growing up. I was basically raised by my mom and sister. Many of my earliest memories are of the two of us, singing Disney songs together, watching The Breakfast Club on rerun, and of course, fights in the backseat of the car. Later in life, she was the cool big sister. And I wanted to be just like her. I have so many fond memories with Shannon, from the University of Florida to moving cross-country to Los Angeles and on to Atlanta. I would not have done many of these things if not for her. Shannon was my best friend. We laughed at everything together, our sense of humor was nearly identical. We bonded over music sharing two of our top three favorite bands. People even said we look alike, which I was never sure was a compliment or not. The bulk of my life was spent with Shannon; it’s hard to believe she’s gone. She was a shining star that burned out too soon. I don’t know too many people that met Shannon and didn’t have something wonderful to say about her. She truly had a gift to connect to people, understand them, make them feel special and like they mattered. I believe she got this gift from our mother who also had a knack with people. Everyone’s life was brighter having known my sister, especially mine. People think Shannon was lucky to have me, but I was lucky to have her. I know I would not be the person I am today without her. She was always positive and believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself. Because of her, my dreams were bigger, my achievements were bigger, my life was bigger. Shannon was fearless in her pursuits; she accomplished so much in her short life. She graduated from UF, double-majoring in Political Science and Theatre. She then graduated from UCLA Law. She obtained degrees from both institutions while enduring bone marrow transplants. Later she went to cosmetology school at the Aveda Institute in Atlanta. I think it’s fair to say Shannon was dealt a rough hand from the start. In 1997, and again in 2004, she was diagnosed with Aplastic Anemia, an extremely rare disease in which the bone marrow quits producing red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. Even with a donor, chances of survival are still not 100%. Fortunately, I was a match. I was Bone Marrow Boy as Shannon liked to call me. Throughout both transplants, she had to undergo chemotherapy, hospital isolation, and months of recovery before returning to her normal life. Her oncologist declared her in remission in 2012, but she suffered from graft versus host disease, which caused numerous side effects both internally and externally. For years she took cancer-causing immunosuppressant drugs to suppress her immune system so her body would not reject my marrow. Not only did Aplastic Anemia do tremendous damage to her body, it wreaked havoc on her mind. Doctors told Shannon she would not live passed 40 and would likely be barren. I can’t imagine hearing this as an 18 year-old. Living more than half of her life with a terminal illness resulted in clinical depression and PTSD. She was also told she may develop mental disorders later in life due to her extraordinary illness. As a young adult, her way of dealing with the condition was to not be emotional or vulnerable. She dealt with her illness by pushing it aside and pursuing her academic and career goals, leading many of us to forget that she was ever sick at all. Music, painting, and dancing also played significant roles in my sister’s healing. Shannon viewed dance as therapy. In 2014, she was a research participant in one of my school projects. She tied her connection to music and dancing directly to her illness. She stated, quote, “It’s where problems don’t exist. When you’re not thinking of everything else going on in your life, therefore your anxiety is reduced. Moving and dancing to music makes you happy. You’re not feeling depressed. It’s all about the whole getting lost in the moment. That’s a lot of what Buddhist practice is, staying in the present.” My sister seemed to have found peace in those moments of presence on the dance floor. She also found peace through painting, which she spent a lot time doing the last five years. I think that’s one of the many reasons we all loved Shannon, she made us feel special every moment we were with her. We were present because we felt her presence. In the summer of 2015, Shannon had her first psychotic break. Later that year, she was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder borderline Schizoaffective Disorder. Mental illness would prove to be the battle of Shannon’s life. She really struggled those last few years. During this time, her mind was changing and she was helpless to stop or reverse it. She lost many of her close connections, not because she OR we didn’t want them, but because she was trying to navigate her new reality that included mania, paranoia, and delusions. Losing our mother in 2021 and her dogs Osa and Kiki back-to-back was just too much to handle. She was hurting and trying to survive the only way she knew how, but I know she did not want to hurt herself and what happened was an accident. She told me not too long ago that she knew she was never going to be the same again, and she hated her illness and what it had done to her. It just isn’t fair what happened to Shannon. In the end, I think she felt misunderstood and no longer accepted, and that’s what hurts the most. I think she felt alone, like she didn’t have anyone. That’s the tragedy of mental illness, not just because of what she went through, but it’s hard for us to understand and even when we try to help, relationships suffer. Unfortunately there were no easy answers or quick fixes, and I underestimated her ability to cope with her illness. The transplants may have saved her life before, I just wish I could’ve saved it again. Sometimes I feel I didn’t do enough and maybe I’ll always feel guilt for that. Shannon recently told me she prayed to God frequently to take her. I think she was ready to go. I think she has been ready for a while. She felt she had a bigger purpose beyond this place. She came into our lives briefly, laughed with us, cried with us, danced with us, made us smile, made us feel special, then left as quickly as she arrived. Maybe that was her purpose here, to have a positive impact on all of us by leaving us better than she found us. I suppose death is what makes life beautiful, knowing that our time here is finite, to make the most of it and remember what is important. Shannon reminded us of that. When she died, a part of me died too, but a part of her and our mother will always live on in me because they make up so much of who I am. While my heart is broken that she is gone and I will never see my sister again in this life, a part of me feels that she is no longer suffering and is at peace with our mother in God’s kingdom. Some birds simply aren’t meant for this world, their feathers are too bright. That’s how I’ll always remember Shannon, and God called her home to be with our mother.

Juanita Pearce's eulogy

Written by Christopher Cost Juanita Pearce's eulogy, written with love and forethought by her grandson Christopher, is a wonderful example for those who are looking for a unique way to deliver a eulogy for a loved one. Christopher gives beautiful insight into Juanita's life by describing one of his earliest memories, describing how she was throughout her life, and what kind of emotional impact she had on all those she knew. Her dedication to her family and willingness to sacrifice for the good of others is detailed throughout his tribute. Additionally, Christopher takes the time to address members of the family, a beautiful departure from the standard eulogy format that makes Juanita's eulogy incredibly heartwarming and unique. Visit Juanita's memorial website to learn more about her life.

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Good morning. I am Christopher, Juanita’s grandson from her daughter, Debbie. My nearly 42- year life is right about the length of the job she retired from. She made it to her 89th birthday and then some. From her birth in 1933 to her retirement was just around 60 years. I still have 18 years to get to that point. A lot can happen within that time span. Memory and Truth are funny things. My memory tells me that of all the family, I feel I may have spent the most time with her. The truth is that of all the people that have been in my life, my grandma is the one that has been the most present and participatory. One of my earliest memories of time with my grandma, which is a bit fuzzy at this point in my life, is going to work with her during a summer I was staying with her. She was a manager at Southwestern Bell and visitors had to wear a special badge. What I remember is that I was playing with the alligator clip on the badge and managed to pinch and hurt my finger. I remember my grandma and many other grandmas running to my rescue. I remember my grandma taking me to see these giant catfish that were bigger than me at the time. I remember that I was being a dumb kid and fell and hurt my wrist and she found a way to get me patched up. I still have the scar. My earlier memories may be fuzzy and even failing me, but the truth isn’t: my grandma was always there for me, no matter what. For many of you, perhaps family most of all, that knew grandma before our car accident in 2004, there may be memories of a woman with strong beliefs. You may have memories of her sharing her opinion, and perhaps even memories of some strong judgments and prejudices. For those of us that were especially close to her, we likely also have memories of her always learning and growing into a person that overcame her prejudices. What I remember is she became a woman that even with her opinions, and attitudes, and judgements, never let that get in the way of doing the right thing and rendering aide and support when it was needed. The truth is I’ve only collected two-thirds the memories that my mother and uncle can recall. Her elder sister and only surviving sibling Helen may be able to recall my grandmother’s entire lifetime as memories. The truth is memories are but glimpses and moments and no singular memory or even the collection of memories from a single person will ever adequately define an individual. A lot of you may be blessed by only the last few years of my grandma’s life. I dare say they may be some of the richest blessings you may receive. Truth be told, for as long as I have memories of her, they are made up of sacrifice and offering, one after another. Be it driving to Texas to take care of her grandchildren when my uncle and aunt had to go on a trip or an overnight drive into the mountains of Arkansas to help my mom care for me and my sisters. Or middle of the night runs to the emergency room when one of my sisters or myself had an emergency and mom needed support. No matter the reason, no matter what she was doing, my memories are of a woman who was always there for her family. These last 18 years of my grandma’s life were some of her most challenging. Yet, while she always brought her ornery and cantankerous personality, she also brought every bit of survival fight and strength of character to fill my memories with a woman who scaled an ever-increasing mountain of health and physical and mental challenges. For the 8- and one-half years I directly cared for my grandma following the accident, we tackled daily physical and occupational therapy at my parents’ house and then at the clinic until she could finally return to her own home. We later battled through a relocation to find her and me a new home that was better suited for her ongoing needs and care, to only then face breast cancer before getting into thyroid surgeries. My mother then took over for a few years on daily care before my sister Rebecca took over principal care and support in 2020, just as the pandemic hit. Most of you have your own memories of these last two or three years that I ask for you to recall as I share what I believe of the last few years of my grandma’s life. I believe the truth is that our individual and collective memories tell of a woman that continued to be there no matter what the situation was. They tell of her being a person of support, care, and growth both personally and as an example for everyone around her. And I believe that she will continue to be that person in spirit through the end of each of our lives and the lives of each life we touch. I would like now to speak directly to a some of our family that have been part of Grandma’s daily life and were crucial in the ongoing fight my grandma put up these last 18 years. Kylie, You may never understand how important you were to Grandma Juanita. You were born just ahead of our car accident that changed her life forever. By the time she came to your grandma’s and grandpa’s house for her recovery, you were a source of ongoing reason for her to keep going. I hope that you will from time to time calm your mind and heart to just let her example of love and value for family guide you as you enter your adulthood. RyLee and Lora, She didn’t play favorites often--I should know because I did spend so much time with her--but she does have a special connection with each of you. Ava, Your video calls lighted your Grandma Juanita’s day and gave her a bright smile. To Owen, You don’t understand this today, but Grandma Juanita will always be with you. You were her source of strength and inspiration to keep fighting when her life was turned upside down going from living alone to living with you, your two big sisters and brother, your mom and dad, and the dogs. It was not an easy adjustment for her, but she was able to make that transition because of you. And as your Grandma Debbie and mommy will remind you in the years to come, your partner-in-crime will always be with you, even if you cannot remember her. And, to Kaison and Gavin, the twins, You brought her fresh spirit when her life was yet again shaken with a relocation and then her stroke earlier this year. To my dad, David, Despite your own health, you found the energy to help grandma with her laundry and as always, the two of you continued to keep each other on your toes in conversation. To my brother-in-law Matthew, you helped to clean up messes and did a lot of the heavy lifting with RyLee to relocate her lifetime of things to the new house and storage. To her sister Helen, I know that having a close relationship with you, and your brothers Dillard and Dalford when they were still with us, was very important to her. And, to all of grandma’s family and friends with whom she spoke or saw, there have been so many “cooks in the kitchen,” but she was always grateful for each of you. You each played a role greater than you may know in her ability to continue bringing us blessings and love for 89 years. To my sister Rebecca, who possesses a soul of infinite compassion and caregiving, I want to thank you for the life you were able to let our grandma keep. I may have taken care of her first, but you stepped up and took care of her when she needed support and assistance that allowed her to retain her dignity and privacy in a way a grandson couldn’t provide. And, finally, to her daughter, my mother, You’ve been here as a coordinator and source of medical knowledge and wisdom that completed out and has been no less important than the direct care Rebecca and I provided. Life has thrown you one personal or family health challenge after another, and you have continuing challenges in front of you. Always remember that you too can always calm your mind and heart to allow your mom’s strength and guidance to pick you up when you’re in doubt or facing uncertainty. Death is not the end! It is merely another step we must all take. For those of faith and spirituality that believe Juanita is in Heaven with God, death on Earth is but her means to move to that eternal life. And, for all of us, her death is merely a transition to an ongoing presence on Earth for as long as we each continue to keep her memory within us and grow from her and for as long as you each keep her as part of your truth. In a few hours, some of us will go on a bit of drive to Anadarko to inter her body with her parents and two of her brothers. For as far back as I can remember, this was an annual pilgrimage over Memorial Day weekend. Each year, I can recall the same story as we would pass by Sonic on the highway. Grandma would always remind us that she grew up in a house behind that Sonic. I don’t think that specific Sonic is still there. But for any of you that join us for the burial this afternoon, as you enter Anadarko and see what looks like an old Sonic on your right, let it be a reminder of how precious memories are. For me, I will always remember my grandmother as the woman that took me to the store to get hamburger meat, go home and cook spaghetti and Ragu, spread towels on the floor in front of the TV, and watch movies while we ate on those towels. No matter what memory of her beliefs, opinions, and judgments, I will always know the truth is Grandma loved me, her family, and her friends. The truth is she wasn’t only present, she was actively participating when present. It is in great part through her example and pruning that I am the person I am today. I thank you, Grandma, for every gift and lesson and moment you gave me, and there are nearly 42 years of them to draw on. I love you and carry you with me always!

Barbara Burton Kleinert's eulogy

Written by Christine Maszkiewicz This beautiful eulogy is a wonderful example of how to interweave testament to someone's personality and character with the core occassions of their life. Barbara's eulogy is able to paint a thorough picture of what she enjoyed, what she was passionate about, how she was as a mother, her educational and career choices, and so much more. It's clear that anyone who had the privilege to listen to this eulogy (or to read it in its written form) was given a wonderful opportunity to learn deeply about who Barbara was as a mother, partner, friend, and person. To learn more about Barbara's life, visit her memorial website .

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Hello everyone, I am Christie Maszkiewicz, Barbara’s daughter. Today we come to honor and remember the life of Barbara Kleinert. My mother passed away four months exactly from the day my father passed away this year. We sit here in the same spot where we held his memorial back in February. It’s surreal. My family is still dealing with raw heartache from his death and now we are all feeling the pain from hers as well. They both left a void in our hearts. My brother and I are now without our dear parents. My nephews have lost both grandparents on their father’s side. It’s been a tough year so far so I want to thank you all for coming out to remember Barbara and to support this family once again while we are all trying to come to terms with such a great loss. I know many people could not make the trip to Colorado for health reasons or travel reasons. Barbara’s sister Laurie, brother Dave and niece Jenny all are here in spirit and watching online from the east coast and beyond. They wish they could be here today. They joined my brother and I and our spouses in the days leading up to my mother’s passing. We sat around her bed and talked with mom and reminisced about our time with Mom. At times I know for sure that Mom heard and reacted to what we were saying. She was surrounded with family and love in her last days and to me that is the most important thing. Love you Laurie, Dave and Jenny. Thank you, guys, for being there and for being here virtually today. My mom, Barbara was a sincere and warm person. She was a daughter, a grandchild, a niece and then a big sister. She was a close friend, a parishioner, a nurse and a teacher. She was a wife, a sister-in-law, an aunt, and a grandma. To many in her life she was a listener, a singer and a hand to hold. To me she was my mom. My mom loved to care for others throughout her life. My aunt Laurie told me one of her earliest memories was Mom, known as Barbie to Laurie, picking her up out of her crib when she was upset one night, holding and comforting her. During my mom’s childhood she grew up feeling unseen and unheard; she felt she didn’t really fit in or live up to her mother’s expectations. Her heart though was full of love, she turned those feelings of hurt into good. She reached out and helped others to make them feel seen, to make them feel heard. Her passion growing up was very much the church and music. She learned piano but found the guitar to be her instrument of choice and she used it throughout her life to bring song into a youth group or on a mission trip. When she was older, she went to nursing school to help others. Giving of herself was her calling. In her mother’s last year’s my mom was by her side and took care of her and the two eventually made peace. My mother was persistent about peace and understanding between those she loved. Mom was always involved in hobbies that helped others; she even met my dad through her volunteering activities. They met at the U.S.O. in New Jersey where she volunteered. Through her giving spirit she and my dad saw each other through some rough early years. Mom worked nights so dad could work and go to school. She juggled raising a young son while working long hours and supporting her husband. Eventually when a second child came along, she stopped working to be a stay-at-home mother and continue supporting her husband as he continued working and pursuing a Master’s Degree. My brother and I don’t have early memories of daycare, we have memories of being home with mom. Memories of being loved and cared for by her. That was a sacrifice she made, family was very important to her and I know we both appreciate the fact that our parents made that choice. When she went back into the workforce, she had to volunteer to get experience, since a Nursing degree wasn’t enough apparently. She volunteered and eventually worked in the school district with severely handicapped children. The passion she had for helping others became a lifelong career. Mom was always devoted to helping others, through her church St. Michaels in Colorado Springs, she joined the prison Ministry Kairos. I remember as a child answering the phone on weekends when mom was away on a Kairos Retreat. I very politely told the caller that mom was not here right now, she was in prison, could I take a message? My parents always got a chuckle out of that. As a child I connected with my mom’s fun spirit. She was childlike in the sense that she found wonder and beauty in the world where ever she went. She loved animals and nature. As child she had a bunny named Thumper that she adored. Later when she married my dad they acquired a pet skunk named Flower….I think we can figure out what name a pet deer may have acquired. Growing up we couldn’t have a dog or a cat since dad was allergic. With two kids and a wife wanting a critter he and mom figured out a way to make a guinea pig work with dad’s allergies. We had a spotted female named Cutie for a time and then we brought home Skeezics, a red spiky haired guinea pig. My mother had so much fun with him. We’d let him run around the living room and race down the hallway of the house. Many times mom had to help dad dismantle the huge sleeper sofa to get the guinea pig out from underneath where he was hiding. My mom would also sing various songs to the guinea pig, especially at treat time. That little pig would squeak so loudly when he heard the song….”What Shall we get for the Pig” since he knew he was getting a tasty treat. When we moved from CO to VA it was very hard on our family. Mom made sure to help us kids adjust and get involved in activities. As a horse crazy 8-year-old I wanted my own pony. The next best thing, riding lessons. My mom was at every single riding lesson camera in hand. She stood at the fence cheering me on as I learned new things like cantering or jumping. When I had my first fall she rushed to my side and as the old adage tells you, encouraged me to get back on. I’m sure as a mother that goes against many instincts to encourage a child to continue something that injured them. That next week she got me up early every morning so I could soak in a warm bath to ease my pain. In VA my mother continued with Kairos Prison missions but also got involved in Therapeutic riding for special needs children. I joined her a few times at the farm helping with the horses. She loved working with the children. They would come alive up on horseback, it relaxed them and they responded to the games mom and other volunteers played to engage the children. The smiles were just as bright on her face as they were on the children’s. My mother continued to love critters even after our family didn’t have any more pets. Our deck in the back of the house was not our deck. We didn’t have patio furniture or a hot tub out there. Nope, we had birds and squirrels lined up on every single railing eating the seeds and peanuts placed out there by mom. At night we ended up having raccoons at times. One evening there must have been 12 raccoons eating the seeds and other goodies mom fed to the critters. A special guest was Petey, a Virginia Opossum. This little critter loved noodles with BBQ sauce a specialty my mother whipped up for for her culinary delight. Mom spent hours taking photos of this sweet little creature. One day the opossum was still there in the morning and we watched her run off the deck to the underside of the front porch. She came back out with 10 babies clinging to her back and headed off into the woods. Mom made sure we all there to see it and she took pictures of the spectacle. Growing up loving animals just like my mother I didn’t have to look far to find a fuzzy or feathery friend to enjoy. My mother would often take in the birds that flew head first into the window. She would let them rest in a darkened aquarium until they came out of shock and then released them back to the woods. One such incident occurred with a little Tufted Titmouse, aptly named Tufty. He hit the window and needed help. When mom went to catch him, the little guy flew into the house and into the powder room that I was just exiting. My mom and I spent 15 minutes trying to catch that little bird to get him back outside. As I got older and moved on to college and beyond, I acquired the pets I didn’t have growing up, the fuzzy allergy triggering ones. My mother and father loved their grand-dog Spencer. He was a silly little Jack Russell Terrier. Mom never begrudged the fact that I didn’t want children of my own she accepted her four legged grandchildren. Every time I brought Spencer over you would hear the shrill voice of mom bellowing “Grand-Dog! Grand-dog”. He certainly was a spoiled grandchild. When I finally got my pony, my mother was there to meet her, happy as a clam to see me with Daenerys and to share the moment. My mother was constantly documenting our lives with photos. This was before digital photos which now everyone takes pictures of EVERYTHING. My mom invented that; out would come the camera and us kids would groan. Now we have boxes and boxes of memories to sort through that I know we will cherish as we walk down memory lane and thank her for being the shutterbug she was. Kodak stayed in business for a long time because of mom! My mother was the ever-present cheerleader and moral compass of our family. She brought a light to our lives, she often instigated fun but was also patient when we stepped out of line. Surviving my teenage years is a testament to the patience and love my mother had for her family. One hard part I’ve learned about losing someone is having to go through their belongings. Though I will state this act can shed light on memories that will warm the heart. So honestly this burden is one my brother and I are happy to take on. While looking through some books I came across a note mom wrote. She made many notes and comments in nearly every book she read. This particular note though was about parenting. She wrote that parents will make many mistakes. These mistakes shouldn’t really matter if the child knew they were loved. And mom, yes….we knew we were loved. Very much so. This year has been a hard year but with all the tragedy and difficult times we’ve had to endure, this year has been a year full of love, last moments and memories. I cherish these memories and they bring me comfort that there was so much love. I hope each of us can reflect on the memories we have of my Mom, Barbara….and that those feelings can bring us all comfort. We will love you forever Mom. We will love you forever.

Barbara Fritsche Olmanson's eulogy

Written by Leif Olmanson Written in the form of detailed descriptions of different memories Leif had with his mother, Barbara's eulogy is a perfect example of the how the accumulation of small moments woven together end up creating a beautiful landscape of a life well lived. Leif's description of each memory that he cherished with his mom is a perfect way for the reader to gain an understanding of the type of woman Barbara was and the effect she had on those around her. For those looking to share a eulogy that's built on memories, Leif's eulogy is a wonderful place to gain inspiration. To learn more about Barbara's life, visit her memorial website .

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Remembrances of Mom: When she was ten years old our mother was baptized at St. Peter’s Episcopal Church in New Ulm, but I think one reason she chose the Church of the Holy Communion for our family was because of the beauty of the church and its history. I recall being told that the ceiling was designed to look like an upside-down ship—basically a vessel to bring the parishioners to heaven. And that the stained-glass windows came from England by sailing ships and overland by ox cart. The Dodd family grave in the back of the church evokes pioneer history. Mom had a keen interest in local history, and this Episcopal Church building is a living reminder of that history. The obituary focuses on Mom’s love of travel, especially their long trip to Burma and their service to a disadvantaged part of the world under difficult conditions. I think this was a formative experience for them—at times a trial by fire. In some ways, they must have been different people by the time they returned to resume their life in St. Peter. It was a few months after they returned to St. Peter that I (Leif) was born, and my little sister Lori followed shortly. With six kids you would think that the adventures would stop, but that was not the case. Although sometimes they traveled without the kids, often they brought all of us or some of us along. There were memorable trips to the Boundary Waters, Canada, the Black Hills, Florida, Yucatan, and the Cayman Islands. These trips instilled a sense of travel in all of us. Long after we all left home, when Mom was 70 and my sister Trudi was 40, she decided to fulfill her bucket list. It started with Trudi and Thor traveling with my parents to Ecuador and the Galapagos Islands. Other adventures included Peru - Machu Picchu and Lake Titicaca, Panama (with Trudi and Eric), Norway and Germany (with Trudi and Eric), and Trinidad and Tobago (with Trudi, Leif, and grandkids Britta and Anders) where I made the mistake of calling my parents elderly when we were inquiring about a boat trip. I was set straight by Mom right away but had reason to be concerned since the docks were in bad shape and the captain had to time the waves to get them on and offboard. There were also several trips to Mexico with each of her children and several grandchildren joining them. The most memorable trip was for Mom’s 80th Birthday where Trudi and I were with them for the entire 21-day trip and all but one of the other siblings and Anders joined for a week. We started in Puerto Morales (a great discovery and location we returned to many times for easier traveling as our parents aged) and then went to Tulum. From there we headed to Xcalak (which was one mile from Belize) and ended up staying at a scuba diver training facility which was cool since they had students from around the world and for the diving trips, we were outnumbered by diving instructors. Mom and Dad enjoyed the snorkeling and bird-watching trip. For such a small fishing village they had some great restaurants with some interesting locally sourced gourmet dishes. We were having a great time and I was using my iPod to text my brother Thor to tell him to come to Xcalak. He misunderstood my messaging and indicated he would meet us in Punta Allen. When Mom heard that we were off to meet Thor in Punta Allen. The travel books said the road from Tulum to Punta Allen was anywhere from 1 to 4 hours depending on road conditions. Well from Xcalak we had a 4-hour drive to Tulum and what turned out to be another 4 hours to Punta Allen. (This long drive was the first time I noticed signs of Alzheimer’s in my dad.) Amazing how well my mom and dad were able to cover it from us. So back to the story. It had been raining so the roads were more like small lakes than a road. With mud puddles covering most of the road and as it turns out it was the route for the adventure Jeep tours you would see if you would go on a cruise or to a big resort. So, there we are in our Jetta size car with luggage and five passengers, Anders on the hump in the back seat. Since the few people that lived on this route did not like the jeeps ripping up the road, they would put in Jeep size road bumps to slow them down. So, every time we came upon one, I would stop and have everyone get out of the car to make it over the bump. After we finally got to Punta Allen the streets were not any better since they were also flooded. We met up with Thor and his girlfriend at the time and had a wonderful time with some great food and company. The adventure continued with Schelli, and Lori joining us Back in Puerto Morelos and trips to Chichen itza to recreate childhood photographs and Ek Balam. A great and memorable trip. Other memorable occasions: Dad and Amby were working on the Ford Model As that were being used for Schelli and Amby’s Wedding parade. Right before the ceremony, Mom saw Amby and took him into the bathroom of the church and said no man would marry her daughter with greasy hands, so she helped him scrub the grease off. When she was babysitting Marty when he was 3, he helped her pick berries and make jam. When Schelli picked him up, he had dark red around his mouth, and she said “the jam must have been good”. Mom gave her a funny look and brought a washcloth over and said, I think he got into a Woodtick that fell off the dog. Picking Morel mushrooms, canoeing, her amazing cooking inspired by traveling including braunschweiger dip, kawswe, elderberry Kiekle, Burmese curry, homemade sauerkraut, and her conch ceviche Mom was always willing to go, whether it was dancing, fishing, going to the lake and tubing behind the boat, and paddle boarding at 80, and they really enjoyed garage sales. Mom was an anchor for our family. She took care of us when we were sick, fed us, taught us about nature and history, and encouraged our interests. She was the keeper of holiday traditions, adapting her more German Christmas traditions by adventurously adding her husband’s annual Norwegian delicacy: LUTEFISK. Regular Christmas guests were: Violet, Charles, and Pauline Kinson (Violet’s shrimp paste), Bernie Bornhagen (black mustard for the lutefisk), and other friends we adopted along the way. One Christmas when we all arrived Mom said they had noticed an awful smell in the house. They remembered their Springer Spaniel dog (Spike) had a dead squirrel in the yard. Sure, that she must have brought the carcass into the house they did a thorough search of the house and to their surprise, they discovered a piece of lutefisk under a chair. The dog must have grabbed it out of the bucket it was soaking in. Dad told us that he rinsed it off and put it back in the bucket. We were pretty sure he was joking. Lots of great memories and we will miss her greatly!

Juliann Therese Weimholt's eulogy

Written and read by Josef Weimholt In Juliann's eulogy, Josef does an excellent job at delivering many of the details you'd find in a eulogy in a loving, descriptive, and beautiful way. In addition to thanking the community, describing his mother's impact on those around her and her character, Josef includes a beautiful and creative tribute to his mother with additional context and pledges for what he aims to do in the future to honor his mother. To learn more about Juliann's life, visit her memorial website .

Good morning. Before I begin, I want to take the opportunity, on behalf of our entire family, to thank all of you for being here today—in person, in this beautiful, old church that our mom loved so much, or virtually—to help us celebrate our mom’s life. We’d like to thank everyone who travelled from out of state to be here today, including those on our dad’s side of the family who traveled from as far away as California. Let that sink in for a second—there are people here today who flew from warm, sunny California. To Chicago. In February. To attend the funeral of an in-law, essentially. Now, I know they came in part to support our dad in his time of grief, but I think it really speaks to the impact our mom had on people. And that’s been evident as well in the flood of messages we’ve received since Mom passed, which have come not just from close friends and family, as you’d expect, but from those who worked with her briefly decades ago, those who met her only recently—including members of the Breakers community in Edgewater, where our parents have lived the past couple of years—from friends (and friends of friends) of my sisters and mine who may have met her only once at one of our weddings years ago. So many have reached out with a kind note, a memory, a heartfelt message about how our mom affected them. As everyone here can attest, to meet Mom was to know instantly what a beautiful person she was, inside and out; a kind, caring soul; sharp, funny, and fun to be around; someone who brightened the lives of all those around her. I heard it said recently that grief is simply unexpressed love. The moral, I think, is that grief isn’t something we should avoid or try to overcome, but something we should embrace. If grief really is just a reflection of the love we feel for the person we lost, then we should hope to always feel some measure of grief for our departed loved ones. I like that sentiment; I think there’s some wisdom there, and perhaps some solace for those of us who are grieving our mom’s loss so deeply still. But it got me thinking about that notion of "unexpressed love." Unexpressed love: that was a foreign concept to Mom. Like our dad, she never missed an opportunity to tell my sisters and I how much she loved us, how proud she was of us, how happy we made her, how lucky she was to be our mom. And we always reciprocated—in person, on the phone, over text (including, in recent years, through liberal use of heart emojis in any text with Mom). Now, I don’t know whether that has lessened our grief any, but I do know that I speak for my sisters, our dad, our Aunt Mary Kay, and everyone who was on the other end of those exchanges with Mom, when I say that we are incredibly grateful for each of those moments, each of those expressions of love that my mom would simply not let go unexpressed. It was in that spirit that I set out some time ago to put down in writing exactly what my mom meant to me—an impossible task, to be sure. I regret deeply that I didn’t finish it before she passed, but I’m grateful I can share it here today with her and with all of you. I initially intended for it to be a poem, as that’s the language that she loved best, but I’m afraid I didn’t inherit her poetic voice (or talents). So I ended up with something else, I’m not sure what exactly. But I call it, “My Mother’s Son.” My Mother’s Son I knew it was coming, every time I would visit Mom at work—usually to ask for money for the movies or to pick up the car to meet friends or for some other equally important reason—never just to say hi, or ask about her day, or tell her how much I loved her. (There would always be time for that later, right?) “You must be Julie’s son!” It was probably my nose or the shape of my face; perhaps the hazel eyes or brown, curly hair. At first, I was annoyed. I didn’t want to resemble a short, middle-aged woman—beautiful though she was—and rued the fact that I didn’t inherit a chiseled jawline or muscular physique instead. So I usually just smiled sheepishly. But beyond an amusement at the resemblance, there was something else evident in their tone. “You must be Julie’s son!” The front desk staff, her fellow nurses, the doctors and residents, the custodial workers—they always made sure to tell me how much they loved working with Mom—how kind and skilled she was with patients, how supportive and generous she was with colleagues. They were quick with an anecdote or an expression of admiration. Eventually, I came to embrace the comparisons—proudly wrapping my arm around her (and sometimes giving her a playful pat on top of her head, which by then came up only to my chest) whenever a new friend, colleague, or stranger remarked on the resemblance. In her later years, as her health declined and the Parkinson’s loomed like a storm cloud growing nearer and more ominous by the day, I would reflect often on the connection I shared with my mom, on what it meant to be her son. Apart from any physical traits she may have passed down, I knew she would be leaving for her children and grandchildren something truly precious and rare. Something that couldn’t be simply inherited, but would need to be earned—brought to fruition through the countless small acts and daily decisions that make up a person’s life. Now that she has passed, and I think about the man I strive to be for my own family—for my wife, Sarah, and our daughter, Tessa, who will grow up without having truly known her Ama—I find in my mom’s legacy a clarion call, a beacon guiding my way, a pledge I must continually renew: I will be kind to friends and strangers alike—especially the less fortunate, the marginalized, and the forgotten among us. I will be generous with my time, energy, and resources, and will commit to causes greater than myself. I will laugh, loud and often. My patience will know no bounds. I will smile constantly and exude warmth so that others are uplifted even when I’m down. I will be selfless and unfailingly loyal. I will not swoon at the sight of blood, but will swoon over a mariachi band (or really any live music). I will create. I will nurture. I will dance with enthusiasm. I will be open to all things, and constantly seek out new adventures, foods, cultures, and people. I will find happiness in the simple things, and peace in nature. When my health fails me or curveballs inevitably come my way, I will put on a brave face to spare my loved ones their worry, and will fight with a strength and tenacity that will make them proud. I will laugh some more, through everything. I will be grateful for all that I have been given. I will love, and be loved, and the world will be a richer, better place for my having been here. I will, I pray, truly and forever be my mother’s son.

Richard "Dick" Floyd Messalle's memorial speech

Written and read by Renee Messalle In this memorial speech, there are plenty references to memories, passions, hobbies, and delights that Richard took part in during his time. These references help paint a loving and broad picture of what Richard's life was like and the kind of person he was. In addition to the personal stories shared, Renee also includes a beautiful poem at the start which kicks off the metaphor of the Train of Life for the rest of the memorial speech. To learn more about Richard's life, visit his memorial website .

Welcome everyone. Thank you so much for coming today. Carl and I wanted to share a few memories about our Dad before the service started. I wanted to start off by reading this lovely poem that I saw recently. Train of Life At birth, we boarded the train of life and met our parents, and we believed that they would always travel by our side. However, at some station, our parents would step down from the train, leaving us on life's journey alone. As time goes by, some significant people will board the train: siblings, other children, friends, and even the love of our life. Many will step down and leave a permanent vacuum. Others will go so unnoticed that we won't realize that they vacated their seats! This train ride has been a mixture of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, goodbyes, and farewells. A successful journey consists of having a good relationship with all passengers, requiring that we give the best of ourselves. The mystery that prevails is that we do not know at which station we ourselves will step down. Thus, we must try to travel along the track of life in the best possible way -- loving, forgiving, giving, and sharing. When the time comes for us to step down and leave our seat empty -- we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who continue to travel on the train of life. And let’s remember to thank our God for giving us life to participate in this wonderful train ride. I am so glad that I was on my Dad’s train for 51 years. And thanks to those that joined the train at one time or another. His stop and his step down was so very unexpected for us – but he left so many great memories, and we are so grateful he stepped off on a high note! We have all loved hearing what others thought of my Dad – and am so happy that it was what we knew of him. The prevailing theme – he was such a kind and gentle and smart person. And several people said he was a “Renaissance Man”. And I totally agree – he loved to learn and knew a lot about everything. He was so happy in his recent move to Greenspring where he had a big office surrounded by at least 1,000 of his books, all in one room. And most importantly my Dad loved math and data. He had a bachelor and master’s degree in Math. He worked for the Navy using his math skills. And in going through things in his office – we saw that my Dad doodled math everywhere. And he did at least a sudoku a day. I have great memories of him helping us as kids with homework, which he enthusiastically did, and especially of course with math. My high school friends even fondly remember his tutoring us in math. After retirement, he even spent many years tutoring various students – even his grandsons. Just recently he helped Brandon and me with some math homework and sent us detailed descriptions and steps to help us. And he was still the volunteer Treasurer for the Four Corners neighborhood association, which he had been doing for many years. After grad school with his advanced degree in Mathematics, he met my Mom on their first day of work at US Navy, David Taylor Model Basin as they were both trying to find the math lab! My Mom worked there until I was born. And then, when I was looking for a summer job in college, I decided to apply where my Dad worked. This turned out to be the start of my government career as well, and I eventually worked in the same Directorate with my Dad for the summers and then for 7 years after college. It was a great chance for us to know and see each other in different ways, learn what my Dad did at work, have similar co-workers, etc. After my Dad retired, he had so much fun taking liberal art classes at the community college. He also loved going to see plays with my Mom, so they both ushered at various local theaters for over 30 years. And he even directed and acted in some community theater plays. Despite my Dad’s quiet demeanor – he definitely had had a wild and adventurous side …. He loved rollercoasters. Even as recent as about 5- 10 years ago, he was still going on roller coasters and rides at Disney and Universal with my husband and niece and Brandon, and even on the water slides at the water parks. When we were younger, he took us on a hot air balloon ride. He loved to bike – biked to work, biked with friends, biked long distance rides of 100 miles, and biked as a family. He did Hang gliding for a while – and even bought one. I remember playing in fields while my Dad would hang glide off of small hills. He even bought a Unicycle. He also loved science fiction, and he introduced us to Star Wars as kids. And I was able to take my parents to the new Disney Star Wars theme park in February, right before Covid. And I just took him to the movie theater at Thanksgiving to see the new Dune movie, which he loved. My Dad was always around and involved when we were younger. We always had family dinners, he made breakfast every Sunday (where I was introduced to and then loved scrapple), he washed the dishes every night for my Mom, and was always willing and around to assist us with our school and homework. And then he continued to be present and involved in my life as a grandfather to Brandon, especially since we lived somewhat close by. He set such a great example for me of what a father and what a spouse should be. And I am so happy that he met the love of his life, and that he and my Mom had such a wonderful marriage of 53 years – best friends - truly soul mates. In summary, my Dad had a fun life on that train for 79 years, sharing 55 of those years (70% of his life) with my Mom! He left many great memories for me and for others. Thanks Dad – I love you and you will be missed.

Following you will find some eulogy examples, with most of them being short eulogy examples. Shorter eulogies can become longer simply by adding in stories and memories that you hold dear or different aspects of your loved one’s life you’d like to share.

Thank you all for being here today. I’m honored to share this time with [Name]’s friends, family, and others in remembering [his/her] life.

I met [Name] [number] years ago at [description of meeting location]. I immediately liked [Name]’s [sense of humor / personality / presence] and knew we would make fast friends. Once, when we were [description of memory], [Name] turned to me and said “[Quote]”.

[Longer description of memory]

After we met, I [description of life after meeting person] and [he/she] went on to [description of what they did]. When [Name] met [spouse], everything changed. [He/she] became [description] and was one of the best [husbands/wives/fathers/mothers] a family could ask for.

I know I’ll always miss my best friend and that no one can replace [him/her]. With that, I’d like to leave you all with one of [Name]’s favorite quotes, by [author]: “[quote]”. Thank you.

[Name] was my best friend, confidante, partner in crime, and one of the best people I’ve ever had the honor to know. I first met [Name] in [location] and we quickly became fast friends. We shared a love of [hobby] and a desire to [description], something that very few others connected with me on.

[Name] taught me a lot about [description], something I will never take for granted. Our other friends refer to [Name] and describe [him/her] as [description]. What I know for certain is that anyone who knew [Name], knew how [brave/special/funny/kind/unique] they were. You don’t meet someone like that every day.

One of my most cherished memories with [Name] was the time we [description]. If not that, then it’s definitely the time we [description].

I want to thank you all for gathering today in honor of [Name], I know it would’ve meant the world to [him/her]. Let’s honor [his/her] memory by continuing to spread love in this world and to try our best each and every day. Thank you.

For those who don't know me, [Name] and I have been friends for practically our entire lives. We grow up in [town] together, lived down the street from one another, and went to the same schools from elementary to high school. We planned on going to the same college together (but [Name] was smarter than I and got into some schools I didn't). We weren't just friends, we were [brothers/sisters].

When I was younger, [Name] used to take me to [area]. We'd play [game] and sit out in the field, talking about [subject] for hours on end. [Name] was there for my life's most important events. [He/she] was there for [list out important life events] and always remembered my birthday and other important anniversaries. [He/she] was beyond thoughtful -- [he/she] was one of the kindest and most compassionate people I've ever met and will ever meet.

Losing [Name] is akin to losing a family member. [He/she] is irreplaceable and their loss is felt deeply, more than words can ever describe. At the same time, I know [Name] would hate it if they saw me up here crying, talking only about their loss and ignoring all the wonderful things [he/she] did with their precious time here on Earth. So, I'd like to take this time, to thank [Name] for everything [he/she] taught me: [list out lessons or important takeaways]

Let's honor [Name's] memory today (and all days) by being kind to one another and remembering the struggles that we all have to face during our time here.

Joie and I met before we were born -- our mothers were in the same prenatal group and bonded over their hatred of the lack of sushi in their lives. We were born only a few days apart, spent our first years of life held by each other's moms and had almost no chance in not becoming great friends. Little did our moms know -- they'd given us more than friendship when they became friends. They'd made us family -- sisters.

Both of our families had decided to only have one child, so Joie and I filled the void that every only-child experiences. She was my sister, through and through. I was there for every one of her life's major accomplishments (and letdowns). She returned the favor in kind. Joie was my support through my first relationship, my first heartbreak, my first degree, my first marriage (and second!) and my first child. I was there for so many of her firsts, seconds, and thirds in life. That's the kind of person Joie was. Supportive. Constant. Foundational. She was my rock and the rock for so many people around her.

Even in death, Joie knew we'd be lost without her support. Her husband, Robbie, is constantly finding small notes that Joie left behind, just little reminders that she still cares for him and is supporting him, despite this complication we call existence. Two days after Joie was diagnosed with cancer, she gave me a call. She told me to sit down and to get ready for the "shit to hit the fan". I thought it was just another rant about her job or some stupid thing she saw at the store or a 30 minute monologue on the downfall of American reality TV.

When she told me she had cancer, I nearly passed out. But she explained to me that now, more than ever, she needed me to be the strong one. Not just for her, but for her husband, for her family, and for myself. She told me not to embarass her in this eulogy, so I'll restrain myself from doing that by going over the top. Please just know, if you're here today, you meant something to Joie. If you're here today, you matter and are important. If you're here today, please honor Joie's memory by being the rock for someone else in your life.

Joie, I love you so, so much. I can't wait to see you again.

Thank you all for being here today. I’m honored to share this time with our friends, family and community and join in remembering [Name]'s life and ongoing legacy.

I met [Name] at [location] around [number] years ago and instantly knew we'd become lifelong friends.

We spent all our time during that summer [description of activities] and the following years were spent periodically visiting [location] and inviting friends out for our annual [description of trip].

[Name] was the kind of person who you never forget. [He/she] was [describe personality]. [He/she] instantly made people feel like [description]. [He/she] was endlessly [selfless, loving, caring, etc.].

I know this loss is one that runs deep for many of us gathered here today, but I also know that [Name] wouldn't want us to sit around mourning [his/her] loss and instead would want us to look towards the future and think on what we can do to make this world a better place.

In [his/her] memory, let's try our best.

For those who don't know me, [Name] was my childhood best friend. We met when we were [age] and instantly connected. We bonded over [subjects], we spent summers at [location] and I could almost always be found at [his/her] house on the weekends. I spent so much time at [Name]'s house that I was known as [his/her] [brother/sister], even by [his/her] parents own admission.

A lifelong friendship is incredibly hard to find and even harder to live without once you've experienced it. To say that this loss is hard is an understatement. [Name] was one of the [describe personality] people I've ever met. [He/she] was unique. [He/she] was hilarious. [He/she] was irreplaceable.

For all those that are gathered with me today, I ask that you join me in honoring [Name]'s life by practicing the values they held so dear. Be kind, be loving, enjoy life, and live life slowly.

Before I get started, I wanted to thank each and every one of you for showing up to honor and remember the incredible life of [Name]. If you knew [Name] (which, if you didn't, why are you here?), you know how magnetic they truly were. Standing up here with only a few minutes to speak on how amazing they were and what they meant to me feels impossible. How can I describe [Name] in a way that's accurate? How can I sum up the impact they had on me, on those around them, on the field of [career field], on the world? It's a near impossible task, so I decided to list out the top 10 things I appreciated most about [Name]. I plan on integrating these top 10 things into the way I treat others as a way of honoring their memory.

Things I learned from [Name]:

Thank you for joining me and listening to me today. I hope you take some of these values and ways of being with you.

Memories of [Name]

Instead of a standard eulogy, I wanted to use this time to share some of my most cherished memories of [Name]. These are ones I've picked out intentionally as I feel they best represent the type of person [Name] was, at least to me. While not all of these memories are ""positive"", they are the ones that have stuck with me the most.

[List memories]

We are gathered here today to celebrate the life of a remarkable young man, who was taken from us far too soon. [Name] was a 25-year-old Marine, who loved hunting, woodworking, and theater. He had a stoic, but kind personality that drew people to him, and he had a deep passion for nature, exploration, and family.

[Name] was a skilled hunter, who spent many hours in the woods, quietly observing the world around him. He had a deep respect for nature and all of its creatures, and he loved nothing more than being out in the wilderness, breathing in the fresh air, and feeling the sun on his face.

In addition to his love for hunting, [Name] was also a talented woodworker, who enjoyed creating beautiful objects out of wood. He had an eye for detail and a steady hand, and his creations were always stunningly beautiful.

But perhaps most of all, [Name] loved theater. He was a gifted actor, who had a way of bringing his characters to life, and he had a deep appreciation for the art of storytelling. He loved nothing more than being on stage, basking in the spotlight, and entertaining his audience.

Throughout all of his endeavors, [Name] was guided by his dedication to his family. He was a loyal son, a devoted brother, and a loving friend, who always put the needs of others before his own. He had a heart of gold, and he never hesitated to lend a helping hand or a listening ear to those in need.

[Name] was a remarkable young man, who touched the lives of all those who knew him. He will be deeply missed, but his memory will live on in the hearts of those he loved. Rest in peace, [Name]. You will always be remembered.

First, I want to thank everyone here for showing up today. It means a lot.

Losing my dad is one of the most difficult hardships I’ve ever had to go through. That being said, this process has made me realize just how lucky I was to have a father like [Name]. Without his example, encouragement, advice, and love, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I am eternally grateful for his life as an example for how I should live my own.

My dad was difficult to sum up in a few words, but some that come to mind are: [hardworking/gentle/loving/caring/strong/hilarious/funny/serious/crafty/intelligent]. When I was younger, we’d spend time [description of memory]. That’s where I first learned to [description of skill].

I remember once when I was younger, we [description of memory].

Dad, you will never be forgotten. Our family is eternally lucky to have had you as the head of our family. We will honor your memory by [way you’re going to honor memory].

Thank you all for coming today.

Growing up, my father was always [description of attitude / personality]. My friends would always say that he was [description of friends’ thoughts]. His coworkers would describe him as [description]. But to me, he was just my dad.

One of my favorite memories with him is when we [memory description].

Another time, we went to [memory description].

Those are the times that I keep in mind whenever I think of my dad, some of the best times of my life. It’s impossible to describe the amount of love I hold in my heart for my father, so I’ll leave it to someone else to describe for me. In the words of [author name], “[Quote]”.

Hello, everyone. Before I get started, I just wanted to acknowledge everyone's presence today. It means so much to me and to my family that you decided to be here with us today to remember my father's life. I know he's smiling on us from above and is absolutely thrilled that so many of you showed up today to remember him.

My dad is impossible to sum up -- we'd be here all day if I had the opportunity to share with you all all the wonderful things he did, taught, and accomplished in his life. To spare you all from that (and to shield you from watching me cry for a few hours) I've decided to restrict this to a short list of some of my favorite qualities of my dad. Without further ado, here's the things that made my dad the man he was:

  • My dad taught me and my brothers the meaning of what is was to be a man.
  • He was compassionate and kind, funny yet stoic, bubbly yet reserved, and quietly bonded our family together through difficult storms and joyful moments.
  • He was the BEST on the grill and 5 year winner of the Best Chili award at our annual chili cookoff.
  • He hated the Patriots, with a passion.
  • He'd sneak out in the middle of the night when we were younger to take us to midnight premiers of our favorite movies -- much to Mom's dismay.
  • He once drove over 500 miles to help me move out from an ex's apartment -- again, in the middle of the night.
  • He was known by my entire group of friends as "The Cool Dad".
  • Even during his last months, he was ensuring me and my brothers knew what to expect, knew what was coming, and what our responsibilities to each other were.
  • His family was the most important thing in his life.
  • My mom was the love of his life and never failed to put a twinkle in his eye.

My dad is the reason I am the person I am today. He was endlessly encouraging, loving, caring, and intelligent. To lose him is to lose a piece of who I am, though I know he's with me in spirit. Thank you once again for showing up to support our family and remember this great man.

[Author] once said, "[Inspirational quote]". Little did he know, this quote would go on to be the foundation of my father's life.

While most knew my dad as a [descriptor] person, those closest to him knew him for his [kindness, bravery, love, caring, tenderness, softness, etc]. A man of few words and many talents, my father spent much of his life in [work / career description] and caring for [his children/family/wife/etc.]. His greatest love in life was [Name] and his favorite pasttime was [pasttime]. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him and not a day goes by that I'm certain the world is worse off without him in it. Losing my dad has taught me two things: [list lessons]

Thank you all for joining me, please tell your parents how much they mean to you and please do kindness, wherever you can.

My father was not an easy man. He was someone who hated the idea of small talk, celebrated people who worked hard (but knew when to take a break), and would be more than happy if no one talked to him for months, leaving him to read through his favorite detective novels.

His life could also not be described as easy. My father grew up poor, he lost his own father at the young age of 8 and had a mother who could be described as absent (at best). His youth was spent attempting to make ends meet through illegal jobs he held while attending school. He ended up dropping out of highschool in order to pursue a job as a dishwasher and support himself.

It was at this point that he met my mother, who seemed to be one of the only people on the planet who could charm my dad. He described her as "The first sense of relief I felt on this earth." and would refer to her as the love of his life for the rest of his life. He did his best to shield me and my brothers from the harsh upbringing he endured. He pushed us to attend college, he pushed us to stay in school, and he pushed us to cherish those in our family -- something he never had.

He worked hard to get to where he was and without a doubt, could be described as a successful man. My father was resilient, generous, and reserved. Though he was a man of few words, he made sure that my brother and I knew we were important, were loved, and were cherished.

I love you Dad and I hope you rest easy. You did a wonderful job.

Lessons from [Name]

Instead of delivering a 20 minute eulogy on my father, that I know he would've hated, I've instead decided to share some of the lessons he taught that could go on to help others. These are lessons that have helped me navigate this life and are lessons I'll cling to now that he's gone. If they resonate with you, please feel free to take them for your own. I love you, Dad.

[List lessons]

My father laid the foundation for my life as a man. He took the lessons his father taught him (rather harshly), picked them up, brushed them off, and buffed them, turning them into the lessons he shared with me (much less harshly than his father did). He was patient. He was kind. He was handy. He was incredibly intelligent and well-spoken, yet preferred to let others speak. If there was a party, you'd often find him on the balcony, in the backyard, or in a corner somewhere, people watching and smiling kindly at anyone who wandered near him. He preferred learning above all else and would most often be seen in his study, with ten different books at varying stages of being read. I owe my father everything and I credit my success in life to the way he raised me, each and every day. To lose him, means to lose a piece of myself. Dad, I love you.

To say my dad meant the world to me is an understatement. A man of few words, and even fewer faults -- he was the stoic figure in my life, the foundation that stayed true no matter what was thrown at him, and the reason I became the woman I am today. I learned to let things go, to love people who loved me back, to befriend those without, and to stay close to those who mattered. My dad meant everything to me, and more. Rest in peace, Dad.

We all dream of having a mother who is kind, loving, and genuine. [Name] was exactly that type of mother. She guided us through years and years and years of hardship, difficulty, joy, and achievement. Our mother was the foundation of our family and without her, it’s difficult to know what to do or what comes next.

I’ll miss her [laugh/smile/generosity/humor/jokes/other descriptor], but am lost without her [guidance/thoughts/advice/other descriptor]. I know we’ll all miss her [insert personality trait or something she was known for].

One of my absolute favorite moments was when my mom [description of memory].

Another one of our family's favorite memories with [Name] was when she [description of memory].

Thank you all for showing up today to honor my mother’s memory and legacy. I know it would’ve warmed her heart to see you all here and I appreciate it greatly. In the words of my mother, “[quote]”

It is an impossible feat to sum up the importance that one’s mother has in one’s life, so I’d like to instead, share some of my favorite memories that I had with my mother. Before I start, let me give you a breakdown of the type of woman my mom was. [Name] was [hardworking/intelligent/ferocious/hilarious/kind/gentle/etc.]. She was always [description] and she never [description]. Her top three favorite things were: [name three things]. One of my favorite memories with my mom was the time we [description]. This is followed closely by the time we [description]. Her [smile/laugh/voice] would light up a room and bring joy to those around her. Her presence was deeply felt and her loss is almost too much to bear. So thank you to everyone who decided to come here today, it means the world to me. One of my mom’s favorite quotes is from [name of author]. It reads, “[quote]”. I’d like to leave you with that today as we celebrate my mother. Thank you.

Thank you for joining me today as I navigate the impossible task of summing up the life of someone incredible, in only a few minutes.

I guess I'll start by sharing one of my favorite moments with [Name]. I was [age] and had just [descriptor]. My mom took me to [location], one of my favorite spots. We had just gone to [location] the previous year, so this was a nice change. We spent the day [descriptor], working on [descriptor] and eating [food]. At night, we [description] and met with [people you met with].

Nights like this weren't uncommon with Mom -- she constantly made sure we had the most fun possible whenever we could. Her free time was spent supporting us, cheerleading for us, driving us to various activities, picking us up, hosting sleepovers, paying for our (many) mistakes, and being known to all as "the best Mom". My friends have all insisted I was blessed with her as my mom, and I know this to be true.

Today, I want us to join together to remember that. To remember the kind of woman she was and the kind of person she taught me and everyone who knew her to be. A woman of joy, light, kindness and warmth. A woman of love and positivity and a ray of sunshine that will be so desperately missed from this world. Mom -- I love you.

To my mother,

I miss you so much. You were the glue that held our family together. You were always there for me when I needed you. I am so grateful to have had you in my life.

You were an amazing woman and an even better mother. I will never forget all the things you taught me. I will never forget your unconditional love and support.

I know you are in a better place now, but I still wish you were here with us. I know that we will see each other again one day, but until then, I will cherish all of our memories together.

I love you, mom.

My mother was the most incredible woman I have ever known. She always supported me in everything that I did, and she was my biggest cheerleader. I know that she is up there looking down on me now, watching over me and guiding me as I navigate through life without her by my side.

Although my mother is no longer with us in this life, I know that she lives on in the memories that I have of her, and the love and support that she gave me throughout my life. She was strong, kind, and warmhearted, and I will always treasure the time we spent together.

I know that it is difficult to lose someone so important to you, but my mother's memory will live on forever in my heart. In her honor, I plan to spend the rest of my days living a life full of kindness and compassion, just as she did. She will never be forgotten.

I am so grateful to have had such an amazing mom, and I know that I will never be able to forget all of the wonderful things she taught me throughout my life. We will cherish all of the amazing memories we have of her until we meet again someday.

Hello all. Before I get started, I want to take this opportunity to thank everyone who has decided to join us today (and even those who reached out and mentioned they couldn't make it). We're gathered in this beautiful location to celebrate my mom's life. For all of those who decided to travel long distances, who reached out to us during our time of need, and who took the time to help us get this set up -- you have no idea how much this has meant to our family.

What's been most clear to me during this difficult time is simply the staggering amount of people my mom influenced, cared for, and loved. So many folks, even those she hasn't seen in over a decade, have written in and let us know the impact she had on their lives. To say she made you feel loved, seen, and appreciated at all times was an understatement. She was the pillar of our family, a pillar of her community, and would take each and every opportunity available to her to make those around her feel supported and seen.

This has been one of the hardest times our family has gone through and I'm so warmed to know all these bright and smiling faces here today. Thanks for coming to honor my mom.

To lose a mother is to lose a piece of your soul. My mother was no exception. Some would say our relationship was too close and my father used to warn me against "relying" on her too much, since he was trying to protect me from this exact day. My mom was the center of my life and without her, I feel lost. I'm angry, I'm confused, and I miss her so, so, very much. I want to ask each and everyone one of you visiting today, who took the time out of your busy schedules to show your support to my family -- please huge your parents. Please resolve any unresolved issues you currently have, if you love them -- none of it matters. Once you don't have the opportunity to make amends, it feels like everything was so silly. Mom, I miss you, I love you, and I'm lost without you.

Friends and family, today we gather to remember and honor the remarkable life of a woman who truly made a difference in this world. She was a devoted mother, a compassionate humanitarian, and an inspiration to all who knew her.

As we heard from her obituary, this incredible woman faced immense tragedy at a young age, losing her husband in a tragic accident. But instead of giving up, she channeled her grief into a powerful force for good. She joined the Peace Corps, dedicating her life to helping those in need in underdeveloped countries around the world. Her commitment to service was unwavering, and she spent years traveling the world, spreading love and kindness wherever she went.

But she was not only a humanitarian. She was a devoted mother to her son, who was her greatest joy in life. She instilled in him the values of kindness and compassion, and he is a testament to her incredible parenting.

Though we mourn her loss, we can take comfort in knowing that her legacy lives on. She touched so many lives with her kindness, generosity, and unwavering dedication to making the world a better place. She will be deeply missed, but her memory will always be a source of inspiration for us all. Rest in peace, dear friend.

Today, we gather to honor the life and legacy of Chef Kimmino, a beloved chef who has left us too soon. Chef Kimmino was a true culinary artist, whose passion and creativity inspired all who had the pleasure of experiencing their dishes.

Sadly, Chef Kimmino's battle with breast cancer came to an end at the age of 45. But let us not mourn their passing. Instead, let us celebrate the life they lived and the joy they brought to countless individuals through their delicious and unforgettable meals.

Chef Kimmino was a true master of their craft, always experimenting with new flavors and techniques to create dishes that were both innovative and mouth-watering. Their culinary creations were a reflection of their adventurous spirit, and they were never afraid to push the boundaries of traditional cooking.

But Chef Kimmino's impact went beyond their culinary talents. They were a mentor and inspiration to many aspiring chefs, always encouraging them to pursue their passion and follow their dreams. They were also a philanthropist, using their talents to give back to the community by donating their time and resources to various charities and organizations.

Chef Kimmino's passing is a great loss to the culinary world and to all who knew and loved them. But we can take comfort in knowing that their legacy will live on through the countless lives they touched with their passion and generosity.

So let us honor Chef Kimmino's memory by continuing to share their love of food and cooking with others. Let us keep their spirit alive by embracing their adventurous approach to life and always striving for excellence in all that we do.

Rest in peace, Chef Kimmino. You will be deeply missed but never forgotten.

We’ve all heard the heartwarming stories many have about just how great their [grandmother/grandfather] was, but I’m here to tell you today that mine was the best. Our [grandma/grandpa], [Name] was such a classic [grandma/grandpa] that it’s almost too difficult to believe. [She/He] was the best at [baking/cooking/fixing things/trips/parties/crafts/giving advice/etc]. [She/He] made the most amazing [food/hobby]. [She/He] also was a part of many clubs, including [list of clubs]. Loved by everyone around [him/her], [name] was the star of the show from the very beginning. When [she/he] was young, [she/he] participated in [activity]. As [she/he] grew older, [she/he] became a fan of [description of hobby/interest]. As [her/his] grandchildren, we were lucky enough to spend time with [him/her] doing [description of time spent]. Now that [she’s/he’s] gone, a hole is left in our hearts and in our souls, but we know we will see [her/him] again soon. One of [name]’s favorite passages was, “[passage]”. I think that sums up who [she/he] was quite well. Thank you all for being here today and I know that [Name] would’ve been in tears just seeing all of you who loved and cared for [her/him] show up for [her/him] today.

My [grandmother/grandfather] was one of those women who [description]. [She’s/He’s] incredibly difficult to sum up in just a few words so I’ll do my best. To start with, my [grandmother/grandfather] was most known for [his/her] [description of something they were known for]. Every single person who came into contact with [her/him] would tell me stories about how [he/she] would [story] and [story].

My favorite memory with [her/him] was the time we went to [description of memory].

I’ll always remember [her/him] as a [loving/caring/kind/gentle/wise/intelligent/hilarious] soul who would try [her/his] best each and every day to put a smile on the faces of others.

For those of you who knew my [grandmother/grandfather], you knew just how special and important [she/he] was to our family. I thank you all for spending time with us here today in honor of [her/him] and the person [she/he] was.

My grandmother was an amazing woman. She was always so kind and loving, and I will never forget all of the wonderful moments we shared together. I am so grateful to have had her in my life, and I know that she will be deeply missed by all who knew her.

She was a strong and independent woman, who always put others first. She was always there for me when I needed her, and she was such an important part of my life. I know that she is now at peace, and I take comfort in knowing that she will always be with me in spirit.

Those who knew her, knew how much she loved her family, and she was always so proud of us. She was the heart of our family, and we will never be the same without her. We will cherish all of the memories we have of her, and keep her in our hearts always.

Thank you for everything, Grandma. I love you so much.

My grandmother was one of the most influential people in my life and the lives of so many others. Never one to back down from a fight, she spent almost her entire life dedicated to trying to improve our system, to the best of her ability.

Whether this was through community service, time spent volunteering, or simply being a listening ear to those who needed one, her time spent on this planet was time spent caring for others.

I want to honor my grandmother's legacy by continuing in her footsteps and ask all here to do the same. Be kind to each other. Find ways to help those who cannot help themselves. Figure out how to invite joy into your life and how to cultivate it in the lives of those around you.

Grandma, thank you so much for being the bright soul that you so were. I adore you always and forever.

Before I get started, I wanted to say thank you to every single one of you who has shown up today to honor the life of my grandmother, [Name]. Each and every one of you meant something to her and I know that you know that, without a doubt.

Now, to the hard part -- summing up the life of such an accomplished, loving, and special woman. [Name] -- you were one of the most unique and special souls that has ever graced this earth. Everyone who encountered you immediately felt like one of your best friends. You held that special talent of conversing easily with strangers, of making newcomers feel like oldtimers, and of holding space for anyone and everyone that needed it. I have run into so many people that have said to me, "I'm so sorry for your loss, [Name] was one of my best friends." I've heard this phrase so often it's astounded me -- how did [Name] have so many best friends?! It's because she was special and she knew how to make others feel just as special.

To say the loss we've suffered is great is an understatement -- there is no way to describe the hole that is left by her passing. That being said, I aim to honor her life and legacy by attempting to make others feel just as loved, held, and cared for as she made them feel. I invite everyone here, to do just the same. Thank you.

I know my grandmother would be rolling in her grave if she could see me up here giving her even the slightest bit of praise. Always one to tut at any kind of recognition of her good deeds, she'd absolutely hate that we were all gathered here today to do just that. I can say, without a doubt, that my grandmother was the love of my life. She was the first person to make me feel like I had a home and a place in this world. She encouraged me to pursue my passions, no matter what they were. She was the first person I called when I decided to switch majors at college. She was the first person I called when I needed relationship advice, or advice on how to fix my toilet, or instructions on how to change a tire. She was endlessly crafty, knowledgeable, loving, and hilarious. She hated sad movies and loved a good horror film. Her church group referred to her as "The Old Commander" because she was so stringent in getting them to submit their projects on time. It didn't matter if it was for a church potluck or a wedding reception, she kept people in line and kept all of us in her orbit. Grandma, I love you endlessly and have no idea how I'm to navigate this scary world without you by my side. But I know you're out there, somewhere, looking over me. I love you.

Ladies and Gentlemen, friends and family, we gather here today to celebrate the life of a remarkable man, a loving grandfather, and a proud veteran - [Grandfather's Name]. He lived a full and fulfilling life, filled with joy, laughter, and countless precious memories that will be cherished by all who knew him.

[Grandfather's Name] was born in San Francisco and spent his early years exploring the city and all that it had to offer. He was an adventurous spirit, always eager to try new things and see new places. When he was called to serve in World War 2, he answered the call with bravery and honor, defending our country and our way of life. His service to our nation was a testament to his character, and it was a source of great pride for him throughout his life.

When [Grandfather's Name] returned home from the war, he began a new chapter in his life, one filled with family, friends, and all the things he loved. He was blessed with five grandchildren, and he cherished each and every one of them, spending countless hours camping, fishing, and exploring the great outdoors with them. His love of nature was second only to his love of his family, and he always took time to share his knowledge and appreciation of the natural world with those he loved.

[Grandfather's Name] was also a talented artist and woodworker. He spent many hours in his workshop, creating beautiful pieces of art and furniture that will be cherished by his family for generations to come. His passion for creating was matched only by his love of giving, and every year he donned a Santa Claus suit to bring joy to children in his community.

In the end, [Grandfather's Name] passed away peacefully in Florida at the age of 82, surrounded by the love of his family. He left behind a legacy of love, kindness, and generosity that will live on in the hearts of all who knew him. Today, we say goodbye to a beloved grandfather, a proud veteran, and a true friend. May he rest in peace and may his memory live on in our hearts forever.

Today, we gather to honor and remember the life of Louis Pereira, a Senior Program Manager and passionate writer. Louis had a love for writing, a passion that he was able to pursue in his final years, penning over six short novels that were close to his heart.

Though Louis may be gone, his legacy lives on through his family, particularly his two beloved grandchildren. His kindness, wisdom, and love will continue to guide them throughout their lives.

Louis's dedication to his work and his commitment to his passions serve as an inspiration to all of us. He was a beloved member of the community, known for his compassion and his willingness to lend a helping hand to anyone in need.

As we say goodbye to Louis, we take comfort in the memories he has left behind and the impact he has had on our lives. May he rest in peace, knowing that his spirit and his legacy will live on through his family and his writing.

You were always determined to be the best – on the field, on the court, in the classroom. You set your sights high and worked hard to achieve your goals.

I am so proud of everything you have accomplished in your short life. You were an amazing son, brother, and friend and you will be deeply missed.

You had a passion for sports and a natural talent for competition. You were always driven to win and I know that you would have gone far in your chosen field, no matter what that ended up being.

I will miss watching you play and excel at what you loved so much. You brought joy to everyone around you and I am grateful to have been a part of your life.

Rest in peace, my son. You will be forever in my heart.

First, let me take this moment to thank each and every one of you who showed up today (and to those who are joining us online). It means so much to our family to have this support system in place after the sudden passing of our beloved son, [Name].

I'm not a person of many words, but at this point in time it feels almost like there aren't enough words in the English language to describe how I feel or the impact my boy had on those he met throughout his short life. From the day he was born, I knew he was something special. It was in the glint of his eyes when he couldn't figure out a problem, in the sound of his laughter as it reverberated through our home, in the shine of his smile whenever he came home from school. He was special. I know every parent feels that way about their kid, but it's true -- [Name] was unique.

Losing him is the hardest thing I've ever dealt with and I know the spot left behind by him is irreplaceable -- I will deal with that for the rest of my days. At the same time, my son was absolutely not the kind of person who would want his friends, his family, and his loved ones to stand by and let grief consume him. He would want his memory to be celebrated and honored through love, laughter, adventure, and a deep appreciation of everything our lives have to offer.

In honor of my son, please hug your children a little tighter today. Please take a few minutes to appreciate what this planet has to offer. And please, most of all, be kind to one another.

I knew from the second I held you in my arms for the first time, how special, unique, and incredible you were going to be. And I was right.

My heart was overflowing with love and joy each and every time I saw your sweet face. Every time you said "Mom!", even if it was said in anger or frustration. I knew how much you loved me, our family, and life itself. Our talks were some of the most special moments of my life -- whether they lasted 2 minutes or were one of our infamous "loving debates" that lasted hours.

Your mind was brilliant, your passion for justice was admirable, and you were everything I wish I could've been at your age. I love you so very much son and to say this loss is unimaginable is simply an understatement.

I will follow your trajectory through life and attempt to celebrate your spirit in everything that I do. You are my sweet boy and I cannot wait until I get to see your sweet face and hold you in my arms once again.

I love you, son.

[Name] was my [youngest/oldest] [brother/sister] and one of the most important people in my life. I know [he/she] would’ve been amazed to see all of you who have come out today in support of [him/her] and us as a family. For those who don’t know me, I’m [Name]. From the very beginning, [Name] and I were inseparable. I loved having [Name] as a [brother/sister] more than anything else in my life. I’ve tried to protect [him/her] as though [she/he] was my own [son/daughter] throughout our lives and it is incredibly painful to be here letting [him/her] go today.

Even though [Name] was taken from us too soon, I know that I will see [him/her] again soon. [He/she] lived a full and happy life, one that touched the lives of so many people. I take comfort in knowing that [his/her] legacy will live on through the lives of others.

I’d like to leave you with one of my favorite quotes that I feel sums up [Name] perfectly: “[quote]”

Thank you all again for coming.

Today we’re gathered in memory of [Name], my [brother/sister] and biggest supporter. I’m [name], [Name] [oldest/youngest/older/younger] [brother/sister]. When we were younger, [Name] & I had a difficult relationship. Lots of fights, screaming, yelling; things that siblings tend to do. As we got older, I started to realize how important [Name] was to me and how much of a supporter [he/she] was to me as an individual.

A couple years ago, we went to [location] for [reason]. We [description of memory]. Another moment that I’ll always remember is the time we went to [description of memory].

[Name] was nothing but [generous/kind/loving/helpful/hilarious/determined/accomplished] and was the pride of our family. [He/she] was my best friend, my partner in crime, and someone I knew I could always rely on. Our family is not the same with their loss, but we will press on and live our best lives as a way of honoring [his/her] memory.

Thank you all for joining me and for allowing [Name] to have a space in your heart and in your life.

Every day, after school, my brother would wait (sometimes over an hour) for me to get out of my last class. He would stand at the bus stop, a huge smile on his face every time he heard the bell ring and saw me running towards him. This tradition continued all the way from when I was around 6 to my very last year of high school.

He was one of the most protective, kind, smart, annoying, hilarious, and goofy individuals I've ever known and will surely, ever meet. Going out of his way to stand at a bus stop just to make sure I had some consistency in my life, a friendly face at the end of the day, and a safe way to get back home was the kind of person he continued to be throughout my life (and throughout the lives of his own family).

Everyone who knew him knew what it meant to him to protect those around him, and that kind of protection was one he enacted until the day he passed away. Without my brother here, I feel a piece of me has shuttered itself away. At the same time, his loss has sparked a desire in me to be better. For him, for his family, for my family, and for myself. His impact on others was incalculable and immeasurable; his life is equally difficult to sum up in just a few words in just a few minutes. I don't doubt I'll be sharing small stories from his life for the rest of my own, but I do want to make sure I make one thing extremely clear.

My brother was the best of us and this world is less bright now that he has passed. Please, keep him in your memory and in your thoughts. Honor his memory by being kind and trying your absolute best. Thank you for coming and for joining my family in remembering my brother.

If I were to say that my sister was the most important person in my life, it might be a bit of a life. (Technically, my mom is the most important person in my life.) I didn't consider my sister as a separate individual -- she was part of me. We were two parts of a whole. Together, we were a full being. Without her, I feel as though half of me is gone.

When we were young, we would stay up until way past our bedtime, whispering down the hallway to each other as we slept in separate beds. We would share our dreams, our fears, our anger, and our joy for a few hours each night. I learned about her dream to be a veterinarian and she celebrated my desire to be a janitor. (We were young!)

Each summer we would go to summer camp together (which we hated), prompted by our parents' need to get some much needed alone time. We were fused at the hip and made almost no friends during summer camps (much to our joy and delight). When we'd get home, our parents would ask if we made new friends and had a great time, we'd lie and make up names for the friends we never made.

When we graduated from college (we both attended [name of college]), she was right behind me on the stage, clasping her degree in [subject] while I held mine in [subject] -- far from our dreams as children.

Throughout our 20's we played around with moving apart and traveling but would ultimately reunite in our hometown every two years or so. When we lost [name], we lived only 20 minutes from each other and would see each other nearly every other day. She was the first person I called when I needed someone to hear me out, someone to listen to me rant, someone to comfort me as I cried, and someone to advocate for me when I wasn't kind to myself.

Losing my sister is the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I will never feel whole again. At the same time, I know she would want me to remember her in a bright light and know that I carry her with me at all times. I truly aim to do this. In her memory, please give your loved ones a hug today and let them know how much they mean to you.

Many of you attending today know my sister through her immensely successful career as a nurse, some of you know her through her brief stint as a filmographer, and many of you know her because she made a deep impression on you at some point during our childhood. To say she was a lifelong friend to many wouldn't be doing her justice. My sister was the kind of person who somehow found the stragglers, the outcasts, the nerds, the misfits, and the people who didn't feel like they had a community -- and gave them one. She opened up her home to those in need, rented out (and sometimes just lended out) her extra rooms, constantly helped people find jobs, resources, and connections when they were new to the city. She was everything to so many and I'm so blessed to see you all here today. Please try your best to fill your life with generosity and gratitude as a testament to her and her life. Thank you.

Thank you for joining me today in honoring my sister's memory. From a young age, I knew my sister was special. She would pick me up each and every day from school. When I went to college, she was there to drive me to the dorms. When I graduated, she drove me across the country. Without her constant and unrelenting support, I wouldn't have made it through the last 40 years of my life. She showed me how to be a better sister, a better person, and a wonderful mom. I owe everything to her and don't know how to navigate life without her.

My grandson, [Full Name] was an amazing young man. He made his family immensely proud of him every single day he lived. A teacher, an educator, a passionate writer, and a talented artist, his multifaceted personality and talent arsenal impressed everyone he met.

He was a strong and independent man, who always put others before himself. Even when he was younger, he'd be the first of my grandkids to ask how he could help. If I was fixing the car, he'd want to watch. If I was working in the garden, he'd want to help. If the lawn needed to be mowed, he'd be up on a Saturday morning taking care of it. When his grandmother, my wife, had hip surgery, he was the one to run and grab us groceries every week. All of this without complaint and without making us feel as though we were burdens.

I am so proud of the man that he had become and only wish he had the opportunity to live out the rest of his days. A rare and special soul, he will be missed so very much.

Thank you for everything, [first name]. I love you and miss you so much.

To my beautiful granddaughter,

You were the light in my life – always happy, always smiling. You lit up a room every time you entered it and I will miss that light so very much.

I am so proud of the woman you were becoming and I know that you would have accomplished great things in your life. You had such a bright future ahead of you and I am heartbroken that it has been cut so short.

I will cherish all the memories we have together – from your first steps, to your first day of school, to your high school graduation. You were always my pride and joy and I will miss you more than words can say.

Rest in peace, my sweet granddaughter. You will be forever in my heart.

Example # 3

Those of you who know me, know how much my grandson meant to me, our family, and our community. [Name] was a rare individual -- someone that, in today's day and age, is becoming increasingly more rare. He thrived on connecting with others and building up his community in any way he could. Countless hours were spent volunteering with the food bank, the humane society, setting up various cancer walks and runs and trying his hardest to do good in this world and to provide a sense of togetherness with the few precious years he had on this planet. His loss is deeply felt by everyone in our family and of course, many of those who are not (but according to him, would be called family). Please consider honoring [Name]'s memory by volunteering your time in any way that you find meaningful. Maybe that means setting up a walk or run (or any other fun activity) for a charity that you hold dear. Maybe that means picking up trash on the road. Maybe that means spending time in the community garden. In any case, know that any time spent building up the lives of others is time spent remembering and honoring the life of [Name] -- and for that, we are forever grateful.

When I gave birth to [Name], my life was permanently changed. I'd heard how this can happen from friends and family, stories about how having a child changes your life. I'd known this would happen but no amount of warning could've prepared me for how rapidly and totally my world was consumed by my baby. When I held her in my arms for the first time, I knew. I knew my life's purpose. I understood the unspeakable bond that tethers a mother to her child. I was hesitant to release her, to let anyone else but me hold her, even her father. I was obsessed.

With each day, she grew into the bright, confident, and cheerful little girl she ended up being. Every flower was a burst of laughter, interactions with puppies and dogs was a cause for joy, she cried incessantly and wouldn't let me sleep for over 2 months -- but it was so worth it. Seeing her bright, chubby cheeks light up as I turned the corner into her room made it so very worth it.

My daughter was my world and I have no idea how I am to cope with her loss. No parent should undergo the rage and grief that accompanies picking out a casket for your small child. Her life was tragically taken from her and I'll never get to know what kind of person she would've been -- though I have theories. I know she loved every day she got to spend on this earth and I know she felt loved for each and every day.

What I learned from her was to embrace joy, to find a spark of happiness in each and every day, and to cry it out when you have to. [Name], sweet girl, you are so loved and so very missed.

Thank you for joining me and my family today to celebrate, remember, and honor the life of [Full Name]. [Name] was a [man/woman] of [describe characteristics] with a penchant for [description] that always showed itself whenever [he/she] would [description]. A [man/woman] of many talents, [Name] showed us that it was never too late to start [hobby/career].

My [father/mother/sister/brother/relation] was, without a doubt, my best friend, my biggest cheerleader, and my constant supporter. When I was interested in [hobby], [she/he] showed up to all the events. When I decided I was obsessed with [hobby], [he/she] went out and purchased [item]. When I decided to [description], [she/he] was the first person to [description].

My [mom/dad/relation] was an unforgettable and truly remarkable human being. I endeavor, with all my heart, to follow in [his/her] footsteps for the rest of my life. I will honor [his/her] time on Earth and [his/her] contributions to our society by [describe how you'll honor their life]. I ask that everyone here today join me in this endeavour as we aim to honor the life of [full name]. Thank you.

To my wife,

You were my best friend and my partner in life. We shared everything – our hopes, our dreams, our lives. You were the love of my life and I will miss you forever.

We had so many happy years together and I am grateful for every moment we shared. You brought joy to my life and I will cherish our time together always.

I am so proud of the woman you were and I know that you touched the lives of everyone around you. You will be deeply missed but never forgotten.

Rest in peace, my love. You will be forever in my heart.

Choosing a favorite moment from my life spent with my wife is impossible. Was it the time that we went to Lake Minetonka and passed out on the shores after sharing a box full of wine? Was it when she surprised me with tickets to see The Black Crowes in concert, only two months after I'd mentioned it to her? When I'd wake up in the morning to a hot cup of coffee and a brief rant on the political state of the world? The way she mothered our children effortlessly and still took the time to ask me about specific relationships at work? My life has been full of these warm memories -- I can't land on one. What I do know is that my wife emanated love each and every day. Every single day I felt loved, supported, and known. It made me want to make sure she was taken care of in each and every way. I did my best. I tried to give her the life she so deserved, but even if I could give her the life of a queen, it wouldn't have been enough for what she deserved. My wife was everything and is the center of my joy. I miss her each and every day and I know I will see her again.

Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to be married. I was obsessed with any and all films of prince charmings, beautiful and big weddings, and women being swept off their feet. I was convinced that my time would come by the time I was 20 (how naive!). I went through college and by the time I was 32 realized I'd never had a boyfriend. I'd never been courted. I wasn't even sure I liked men. My desire to be swept off my feet dwindled and I became secure in myself.

Until I met [Name].

Immediately, within the first 20 minutes of meeting [Name], I was absolutely smitten. I thought of almost nothing else when we were apart -- and we hated each other! She was competing with me for the same promotion at work and we were both tenacious and fierce women. She was stubborn, confident, and sure of what she wanted -- much like myself.

After she got the promotion I so desperately wanted, she invited me out for a conciliatory drink -- a move I never would've made. She would go on to refer to this as our first date, though I considered it the first brick towards building a bridge away from dislike and towards camaraderie.

I was swept off my feet, in a completely unexpected way. During our first years of dating, I found myself wanting to provide for her, take care of her, make her smile at all possible moments. When she ranted about work, I wanted to defend her. When she managed to burn chicken each and every time, you wouldn't hear a peep from me. When she suggested we get married, I wanted her to be the star of the show. I wanted to show her off to every important person in my life. She'd lovingly refer to me as her ""Princess Charming"" -- a role I happily inhabited.

My wife brought joy, kindness, love, courage, strength, and purpose into my life. Without her by my side, I feel an unhealable void. At the same time, in her way, she prepared me as best she could. I ask those gathered here today, in her memory, to help me keep her presence alive. Please spread joy in all the ways you can. Tell people how you feel. Advocate for yourself. Be free.

My life's greatest years were spent with [Name], the love of my life. She loved everything about life, even the downsides -- she embraced it all. Life was hard, but it was also worth it for her. From the moment I met her, I knw my life would be different and that I'd found the one.

[Name] made such a massive difference in the community around her, especially after becoming president of the charity she worked for. Her favorite things in life were witnessing others transform their lives for the better, helping people access community resources wherever possible, and advocating for those less fortunate. Go out today and try your best to emulate everything she did, and more.

I am so saddened by the loss of [Name]. We didn't always see eye to eye, but I always respected [him/her] as a hard worker and a great person. [She/He] was always so kind and helpful, and I will never forget all of the times [she/he] went out of [him/her] way to help me. [She/He] will be greatly missed by all who had the pleasure of knowing [him/her].

When we first met at [company], [name] was one of the first people to make me feel welcome. I’ll never forget how [she/he] took the time to get to know me and helped me feel like I belonged there.

I am so thankful to have had the opportunity to work with [him/her], and I know that [she/he] has left a lasting impression on everyone [she/he] met. [She/He] was an amazing person, and I know that [she/he] will be deeply missed. Thank you for everything, [name].

May you rest in peace.

Throughout my career, I've met plenty of personalities, characters, and people -- but none as special as [Name]. When [Name] first entered the front doors to our building, I immediately knew we would get on. [Name] was the type of person you'd easily become friends with. People who met [him/her/them] would immediately want to work alongside them. As one of my first direct reports, I can't tell you how many people would come to me on the side and request to be paired with or on a team with [Name]. Why? [He/she] was special. People gravitated towards them. People wanted to be in their sphere of influence. People wanted to work alongside them and get to know them.

That's rare. This is the first time I've seen the majority of my company in one room that wasn't our building -- and it's for the funeral of our very special friend and colleague -- [Name]. Thank you to [Name's parents] for raising such an incredible human being. Please know that your [son/daughter/child] changed the lives, every day, of so many people around them. I have never in my 50 years of managing imagined running into someone like [Name] and I am blessed to have known them. Rest well and peacefully, [Name], you did well.

Today we come together to honor the life and legacy of a beloved retired musician, who touched so many lives with his passion for music. He was a kind-hearted man who enjoyed pushing boundaries and exploring new horizons. He was an avid traveler, having visited countries all over the world. He also had a strong connection to animals, particularly cats. His home was often filled with cats of all shapes, sizes and colors.

He had a variety of musical influences, which he blended together to create his own unique sound. He was an incredibly talented musician who could play various instruments including the guitar, piano and flute. He wrote some beautiful melodies that will live on long after him.

He was also a generous soul, always ready to lend a helping hand. He had an open door policy and welcomed people into his home with open arms. More than anything else, he loved sharing stories and swapping ideas with those around him.

Today we celebrate the life of this incredible man who left behind a beautiful legacy of music and of kindness. He will be remembered for all that he has accomplished and the many lives that he touched. May we strive to follow in his footsteps and honor his memory by living our own lives with love, humility and caring. Thank you.

These eulogy examples are for those who would like to focus on a loved one's profession or career choices as their way of honoring their life's work.

Eulogy for a speech pathologist

Dear friends, family, and colleagues,

Today, we gather to honor the life and legacy of Sarah Kwambe, a remarkable woman who touched the lives of so many people during her time with us. Sarah was not only a skilled speech pathologist but also a former professional soccer player who had to leave the sport she loved due to a career-ending injury. However, Sarah didn't let that setback stop her from pursuing her passion for helping others.

Sarah's journey began in South Dakota, where she lived with her beloved cat, Sam. She dedicated her life to making a difference in the lives of young people, particularly middle schoolers, whom she worked with as a speech pathologist. She had a remarkable ability to connect with her students and inspire them to achieve their full potential.

Despite the challenges she faced early on in her life, Sarah never gave up on her dreams. She was an accomplished athlete who excelled in soccer, but when her injury put an end to her career, she channeled her passion and determination into her studies. She pursued a degree in speech pathology, and her dedication to her work was evident in everything she did.

Sarah was a compassionate, caring, and selfless person who always put others first. She was a mentor to many, a friend to all, and a source of inspiration to everyone who knew her. She had a warm smile and a kind heart that could light up a room, and her love for her students was evident in the way she interacted with them.

Although Sarah never had children of her own, she had a deep love for her cat, Sam, who was always by her side. Her commitment to her feline friend was just one of the many examples of her kindness and compassion.

In conclusion, Sarah Kwambe was a truly remarkable person who touched the lives of many people in ways that will never be forgotten. Her legacy will live on through the countless students she helped, the colleagues she inspired, and the friends and family who loved her dearly. She will be deeply missed, but her spirit will live on in the hearts of all who knew her.

Rest in peace, Sarah Kwambe.

Eulogy example for an environmental activist

Dear friends and family,

Today, we gather to remember and celebrate the life of Rachel Chen, a remarkable woman who dedicated her life to protecting and preserving our environment. Rachel was an accomplished environmental scientist, mother of three children - Irina, Bliss, and Mario, and a loving partner to her husband of many years.

From a young age, Rachel had a deep love and appreciation for nature. Her passion for the environment inspired her to pursue a career in environmental science, and she quickly became a respected expert in her field. She spent many years working tirelessly to protect our national parks, and her dedication to this cause never wavered.

Rachel was also an avid gardener, and she had a remarkable ability to bring beauty to everything she touched. Her love for nature was evident in everything she did, from the way she tended to her garden to the way she spoke about the natural world.

As a mother, Rachel was loving, patient, and kind. She instilled in her children a deep respect for the environment and a desire to make the world a better place. Her children were the light of her life, and she was so proud of the people they had become.

Rachel's passing is a great loss to us all. She was a remarkable person who touched the lives of so many people in countless ways. Her legacy will live on through the countless national parks and natural spaces that she helped to protect, as well as through the love and memories that her family and friends will always carry in their hearts.

Rachel, we will miss you dearly, but we know that your spirit will live on through the beauty of nature that you cherished so deeply. Rest in peace.

Eulogy example for a young adult

Today, we come together to celebrate the life of Zach Peterson. Zach was a talented mechanic, a loving son, and a loyal friend. He passed away far too soon, but his memory will live on in the hearts of those who knew him.

Zach had a passion for auto maintenance that was unmatched. He loved nothing more than working on cars, and he was always happy to help a friend in need. His skills were truly remarkable, and he had an uncanny ability to diagnose and fix any issue that came his way.

But Zach was more than just a mechanic. He was a gentle soul who cared deeply about those around him. He had a warm smile that could light up a room, and he was always quick with a joke or a kind word. He had a way of making everyone feel welcome and included, no matter who they were.

Zach's passing has left a void in our lives, but we take comfort in knowing that his memory will live on. We will remember his kind heart, his infectious laughter, and his unwavering loyalty. Zach was a special person who made a lasting impact on the world around him, and we are all better for having known him. Rest in peace, Zach.

Eulogy for an infant

With heavy hearts, we gather here today to mourn the loss of a precious child who has been taken from us too soon. We know that God has a plan for each and every one of us, but it is still difficult to understand why a young life has been cut short.

As we come together to remember this beautiful child, we take comfort in knowing that they are now in the loving embrace of our Lord. Though their time with us was brief, they brought immense joy and love into the world, and we will cherish the memories we have of them forever.

We know that this is a time of deep sorrow, but we can find solace in the fact that this child is now at peace in the arms of our Heavenly Father. May we all find comfort in our faith, and may we hold this precious child close in our hearts as we navigate this difficult time. Rest in peace, little one.

Eulogy for a grandmother

Today we gather to remember a truly remarkable woman - my grandmother. She was a woman of many talents: a masterful cross-stitcher, an incredible fudge-maker, and a loving grandmother to a whole gaggle of grandchildren.

Grandma was the kind of woman who made you feel like you were the only person in the world when she was talking to you. She always had a smile on her face and a twinkle in her eye, and she had a way of making even the most mundane tasks seem like an adventure.

And oh, her fudge! I think we can all agree that Grandma's fudge was a work of art. It was creamy, decadent, and so rich that you could only eat a tiny piece at a time - not that it stopped any of us from trying to eat the whole batch in one sitting!

But beyond her talents and her love of fudge, Grandma will be remembered most of all for the love she had for her family. She was a guiding light for all of us, a source of wisdom and strength when we needed it most.

So, as we say goodbye to this incredible woman, let us not mourn her passing, but celebrate the incredible life she lived. She was one of a kind, and we were all blessed to have known her. Rest in peace, Grandma - we will never forget you.

Eulogy for a farmer

Today we gather to celebrate the life of a man who loved nothing more than working hard under the sun, watching his land grow and thrive. [Name] was not just any farmer - he was a tireless advocate for agricultural reform and change. His passion for sustainable farming practices, conservation, and education knew no bounds.

He was never afraid to get his hands dirty or put in long hours because he believed that every crop mattered; every seed planted had the potential to make a difference. His dedication inspired those around him and helped shape the landscape of our community.

[Name] will be remembered by all as an honest, kind-hearted man who always put others first. I’ll miss his unwavering determination to better this world through agriculture and his infectious smile that brightened up everyone’s day.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when he taught me how to plant corn by hand while sharing stories about his childhood on the farm.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when he organized a fundraiser for local farmers affected by droughts and natural disasters.

Thank you all for being here today to honor my friend’s memory and legacy. In [name]’s words “Farming is not just a profession but also an art form”. May we carry on this art form in honor of him.

Eulogy for a teacher

We are gathered here today to say goodbye to someone very special: A teacher who dedicated her life towards social justice inside her classrooms, making sure each student felt valued and respected regardless of their background or ethnicity. She empowered students from underserved communities with access to quality education - she showed them they could achieve anything if they worked hard enough.

[name]'s legacy lives on through every student she touched during her career as an educator, instilling confidence in them whilst fighting against systemic oppression within school walls.

I’ll miss her contagious energy, witty humor, and deep compassion for everyone she met.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when she invited me to speak in her class about my personal experiences and background, empowering me to share my story confidently.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when she organized a rally with her students for Black Lives Matter movement that brought people together from all walks of life.

Thank you for being here today, honoring the memory and legacy of someone who dedicated their life towards ensuring social justice inside classrooms. In the words of [name], “Education can change how we view ourselves, other people, and the world”. Let’s carry on this legacy in honor of her.

Eulogy for a foster dad

We gather here today to celebrate the life of a man who was known for his unwavering dedication towards family, golfing and fostering kids - [name]. If there’s one thing that everyone knows about him- it's that he loved nothing more than spending time with those he loved and helping those in need.

[name] had an infectious personality which brought joy to all those around him. He made sure to always put his family first no matter what, while also making time for the sport he was passionate about: Golf.

He would often take foster kids along with him on these trips; providing them a chance at a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

I’ll miss his contagious laughter, generosity, and his commitment to living every day to its fullest potential.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when we went out golfing together by the lake, enjoying each other’s company over some good shots.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] is when he organized a youth-golf tournament fundraiser raising funds for underprivileged children.

Thank you all for being here today honoring someone who lived their life so fully dedicated towards their passions - Family, Golfing & Fostering Kids. In the words of [name], “Life is like a round of golf; try your best from tee to green but don't forget to enjoy the moments along the way."

Eulogy for a soldier

Today we come together as friends and family members mourning the loss of someone whose bravery knew no bounds- [name]. A soldier who sacrificed everything including her own life during deployment serving her country valiantly.

Her courage has inspired us all and reminded us that freedom sometimes comes at great cost—she gave up everything she had just so others could have something better tomorrow.

She will be remembered not only as a hero but also as a friend whose selflessness touched countless lives on and off-duty alike. Her positivity knew no bounds even in times where things felt like they couldn’t get any worse.

I’ll miss her infectious energy, unbreakable spirit and her ability to inspire people around her even in the darkest of times.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when we went on a vacation together after she returned from deployment, catching up on life post-duty and just enjoying each other’s company.

Another one of our community's favorite memories of [Name] was when she organized a fundraiser for veterans who had been wounded during active duty.

Thank you all for being here today. We celebrate someone whose profound sacrifice has given us the freedom that we enjoy today- Freedom which comes at great cost. In [name]'s words: "Duty first; self second." Let us never forget this sentiment as we honor those brave men and women who serve their country valiantly.

Eulogy for an animal activist

Today marks the passing away of a woman whose compassion for animals was unmatched - [name]. She served as President at local ASPCA chapter where she inspired others through her dedication towards animal rights advocacy and protection. Her tireless efforts led to increased awareness within our community regarding animal welfare issues such as abuse or neglect.

[name] will be remembered not only as an advocate but also as a friend to all animals; big or small. Her kindness knew no bounds and it extended beyond just domesticated pets like dogs or cats- advocating for wildlife preservation too!

I’ll miss her infectious energy, unwavering passion and her ability to inspire empathy in those around her.

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when she rescued several abandoned kittens outside our office building during lunch breaks.

Another one of our local communities’ favorite memories with [Name] was when she coordinated fundraisers which helped raise funds for medical treatment costs associated with pet care amongst low-income families.

Thank you all for being here today honoring someone who made it their mission to ensure well-being among some oft-forgotten members in society: animals. May we strive each day to extend kindness towards them, carrying on what [name] started so passionately.

Eulogy for a writer

Thank you so much for attending the services today as we gather to say goodbye to Kaleb Morris, an incredibly talented author and journalist. His work delved into the darkest corners of human behavior, shining a light on the most heinous and unthinkable crimes. Kaleb had a gift for telling stories that not only captivated readers but also helped to shed light on important issues that might have otherwise gone unnoticed.

Tragically, Kaleb's life was cut short in a boating accident, leaving behind his child and former wife, Shareece. Though we grieve for the life that has been taken from us too soon, we can also take comfort in the legacy that Kaleb leaves behind.

His writing was not just a means to entertain, but a way to make a difference in the world. Kaleb shone a light on issues that needed to be addressed, and gave a voice to those who had been silenced by violence and tragedy. He was a gifted storyteller, and his impact on the true crime genre will be felt for years to come.

Kaleb will be deeply missed by all who knew him, but his work will live on as a testament to his incredible talent and dedication to his craft. Rest in peace, Kaleb.

Eulogy for a nurse practitioner

We gather to remember and honor Cherish Abrams, a beloved nurse practitioner who touched the lives of countless patients and colleagues during her 25 years of service. Cherish was known for her compassion, dedication, and expertise, and her loss is deeply felt by all who knew her.

Cherish was like a ""grandma"" to the NICU where she worked, comforting and caring for infants and families during their most vulnerable moments. Her gentle touch and kind words provided solace and hope to those in need, and her wisdom and guidance were invaluable to her colleagues.

Cherish's tragic passing is a reminder of how precious life is and how quickly it can be taken away. But even in death, she continues to inspire us with her selflessness, her unwavering dedication to her patients, and her love for her profession.

Cherish's memory will live on in the hearts of those she touched, and her legacy will continue through the lives of the countless patients she cared for and the colleagues she mentored. May she rest in peace, knowing that she made a profound difference in the world and that she will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a community leader

Today we gather to honor and remember the life of Michael Patel, a beloved community leader and philanthropist who dedicated his life to making the world a better place. Michael was a self-made businessman, a devoted family man, and a passionate advocate for those in need.

Throughout his life, Michael demonstrated a deep commitment to his community, supporting countless charitable organizations and causes. His generosity knew no bounds, and his impact on the lives of those he helped will never be forgotten.

Michael's passing is a great loss to us all, but his legacy will continue through the countless lives he touched and the causes he supported. We are grateful for the time we had with him and for the inspiration he provided to us all. Rest in peace, Michael, knowing that your life made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a high school teacher

We gather here today to remember and celebrate the life of Samantha Liu, a beloved high school teacher who passed away far too soon. Samantha was a bright, energetic, and dedicated educator who brought out the best in her students and inspired them to reach for their dreams.

In her 15 years of teaching, Samantha touched the lives of countless students, colleagues, and parents. Her passion for education was infectious, and her positive energy was felt by everyone who crossed her path.

Though we mourn the loss of Samantha, we take comfort in the memories she has left behind and the impact she has had on our lives. Her legacy lives on in the countless students whose lives she touched, and in the hearts of all those who were fortunate enough to know her. Rest in peace, Samantha, knowing that you made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy for a philanthropist

Eulogy example for loving mother.

We gather here today to celebrate the life of Emily Thompson, a beloved mother and grandmother who passed away peacefully surrounded by her family. Emily was a kind, caring, and nurturing woman who devoted her life to her loved ones.

As a mother of four and a grandmother of nine, Emily's love and devotion knew no bounds. She was the heart and soul of her family, providing comfort, support, and wisdom whenever it was needed.

Though we mourn the loss of Emily, we take comfort in the memories she has left behind and the love she shared with us all. Her legacy lives on through her family and the countless lives she touched during her lifetime. Rest in peace, Emily, knowing that you made a profound difference in the world and that you will be deeply missed.

Eulogy example for teacher

Marcus was a beloved teacher who dedicated his life to helping his students achieve their goals. He had a gift for teaching and his enthusiasm for learning was contagious. Marcus always went above and beyond to help his students, whether it was staying late to help them with homework, or just lending an ear when they needed to talk. He truly believed in the power of education to change lives, and he worked tirelessly to make sure his students had the tools they needed to succeed. Marcus was also a devoted husband and father. He met his wife, Sarah, when they were both in college, and they were inseparable ever since. They had two children together, and Marcus loved nothing more than spending time with his family. He was always there for his kids, whether it was coaching their sports teams or just reading them a bedtime story.

Marcus was diagnosed with cancer three years ago, but he never let it slow him down. He continued teaching, even when he was undergoing chemotherapy, and he always had a positive attitude. Marcus fought his illness with courage and grace, and he never lost his faith in God.

Marcus was a shining example of what it means to be a good person, and he touched the lives of everyone he met. He will be deeply missed by his students, colleagues, and his loving wife and two children.

Eulogy example for a chef

Isabella was a talented chef who had a passion for creating beautiful and delicious food. She was always experimenting with new flavors and ingredients, and her dishes were a work of art. Isabella had a natural talent for cooking, but she also worked hard to hone her skills. She attended culinary school and worked in some of the best restaurants in the city. But Isabella's love for cooking wasn't just about creating amazing dishes. She also loved the way food brought people together. Isabella was always hosting dinner parties and potlucks, and she loved nothing more than seeing people enjoy her food. She had a big heart and loved to share her food with family and friends. Her food was a way for her to show her love for the people in her life.

Isabella was also a devoted partner. She met her girlfriend, Maria, when they were both working in a restaurant, and they were inseparable ever since. They built a life together, and Isabella loved nothing more than spending time with Maria and their two dogs.

Isabella's death was a shock to everyone who knew her. She had so much talent and so much to give to the world. But even in death, Isabella's spirit lives on through her food and the memories she created for those who knew and loved her.

Eulogy for a principal

Today, we honor the life of a great educator who dedicated his life to shaping young minds and transforming our community through educational reform. We celebrate Michael's passion for education and his tireless efforts in ensuring that every child in this school district received quality education. He was not only an excellent principal but also a mentor, friend, and role model to many.

Michael was committed to providing resources necessary for students' success by creating programs that would enable them to have access to books, computers, and other learning materials. His unwavering commitment towards serving disadvantaged communities will forever be remembered.

We'll miss his vision for educational reform but are grateful for the impact he left on us all.

One of my favorite memories with Michael was when he fought tirelessly to get funding from the government so that we could add more classrooms and hire more teachers. His determination inspired me always.

Eulogy for a doctor

It is with heavy hearts that we say goodbye today to Dr.[Name], an incredible physician who touched many lives during his medical career. While he loved fast cars, small dogs, and Margaritaville music, his dedication towards helping others never wavered.

Dr.[Name] had a way of putting people at ease whenever they were anxious about their health issues; he made you feel like everything would be okay no matter what happened.

He lived life fully and inspired those around him while doing so - even while battling his own illness—always encouraging others never to give up hope or lose faith in themselves.

I’ll miss his sense of humor but am lost without his guidance on how I should take care of myself better!

Another one of my favorite memories with Dr.[Name] is when he took me out on a ride-along in his sports car after work one day! He loved living life vicariously through little adventures like these!

Eulogy for someone who followed their dream

Today we gather here to honor [Name], who was a brilliant data analyst with a desire to become a potato farmer in Europe. He had an insatiable love for his lineage and dreamt of starting his farm there.

[Name] loved data analysis, but he also believed that there was more to life than crunching numbers. His passion for agriculture inspired him to follow his dream of farming potatoes and reconnecting with his roots.

He will be missed for his gentle nature and quiet strength. Still, we can all take comfort in knowing that he lived life on his terms and pursued what made him happy.

One of my absolute favorite moments was when [Name] shared pictures of the farmland where he hoped to start farming someday—his eyes lit up as he spoke about it so passionately!

Eulogy for a CEO who swapped careers

Today marks the passing away of someone incredibly special- a CEO turned dog trainer specializing in corgis- [Name].

[Name]'s career shift from being a successful CEO reflected how passionate she was about dogs, especially corgis! Her love for them was unmatched, and she spent her later years training them.

She was an inspiration to many who dreamed of following their passion. She showed that it's never too late to start something new, no matter how old you are!

We'll miss her business acumen but are grateful for the legacy she left behind. [Name] lived a life filled with happiness and fulfillment, doing what made her happiest - surrounded by pups!

One of my favorite memories with [Name] is when I visited her training facility and saw all the corgis happily playing under her watchful eye; it was a beautiful sight to see!

Eulogy for a small business owner

Today we celebrate the life of our beloved community leader [Name], who served tirelessly on city council while running one of the most popular sandwich shops in town.

[Name] had an unwavering commitment towards serving others; she dedicated her time, energy, and resources towards making our community better. From creating programs for at-risk youth to supporting small businesses like hers financially - she did it all without asking anything in return.

She brought people together through her sandwiches, which were not only delicious but also affordable! Her relentless dedication towards serving her customers helped establish her business as one of the best sandwich shops around town.

We are grateful for everything [Name] did during her lifetime, and we know that her legacy will continue to inspire future generations.

Another one of our family's favorite memories with [Name] is when she would often give us free sandwiches if we couldn't afford them! She truly cared about everyone who came into her shop!

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A Guide to Writing a Funeral Speech: 8 Heartfelt Examples

By: Author Camila Steinfeld

Posted on Last updated: October 20, 2023

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A Guide to Writing a Funeral Speech: 8 Heartfelt Examples

With the passing of a loved one comes the responsibility of making arrangements for their funeral. This includes deciding who will be saying a funeral speech at the funeral service.

Saying a funeral speech is not something that should be undertaken unprepared. It requires some forethought and planning.

A funeral is an emotional occasion and delivering a speech, unprepared, in front of the congregation is a recipe for disaster = one that will not soon be forgiven.

The ‘Do’s and Don’ts’ of a Funeral Speech

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When you sit down to decide what you’re going to say in your eulogy speech, there are a few factors you need to take into consideration.

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In writing your speech , it’s important to demonstrate the personal relationship you shared with the deceased. It’s necessary that you give the congregation an insight into the person’s life as it related to your own.

If you want to relate a situation or event that occurred in the deceased’s life, do so tastefully.

Your aim is not to deliver a stand-up comedy routine, but rather, a poignant and potentially somewhat humorous view of who the deceased was and what they meant to you.

A funeral speech is difficult to deliver if you’re feeling over-emotional. You cannot afford to break down and cry in the moment.  

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That’s not to say that you cannot show your emotions and grief. But you must be able to get through the speech you have prepared.

Finally, don’t use a funeral speech as an opportunity to settle old scores or tell others about unfinished business between yourself and the deceased.

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Here are some examples of a funeral speech that celebrates the deceased’s life but at the same time expresses the grief of the speaker.

A Eulogy for a Mother

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The last thing I imagined myself doing today was delivering the eulogy at my mother’s funeral.

Despite the fact that she was ill, and we knew her passing was inevitable, it has still come as a shock to us as a family.

My mother was a phenomenal woman who possessed reserves of strength and patience that seemed to be infinite.

We, her children, were her pride and joy; she regarded us as the greatest accomplishment of her life. That doesn’t mean that raising us was easy, nor always enjoyable.

My siblings and I gave her a lot of gray hairs along the way. But, regardless of our misdeeds, she would always find it in her heart to forgive us.

And not only that, she would have enough faith in us to believe that we would not transgress again.

One of my fondest memories of my mother is watching her sit down and relax after a long day. She worked hard at her job and came home to run her household. That meant that she had very little time to herself.

And even with the little ‘me time’ she had, she never used it for herself. She’d always be knitting or sewing or making something that we needed.

What our family lacked in money, my mother more than made up for with love.

My mother was the heart of our home, the center of our universe, and the greatest example of unconditional love we could’ve hoped to have.

A Eulogy for a Father

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My father was a quiet man. He seldom said much. That’s why, when he did have something to say, we listened.

That may make him sound like he was distant, but nothing could be further from the truth.

He was always interested in what was going on in our lives and was extraordinarily proud of our achievements.

Whether it was scoring a home run in a Little League baseball game or getting a bursary for a university, he delighted in our successes.

As a child, one of the places I felt the safest was in the arms of my father. In fact, right now, that’s the place I wish I was more than anything else.

He was a hardworking man who set a great example for my siblings and me. We learned from him that, regardless of the task, it was not worth doing if you didn’t want to do it properly.

My father had an incredibly dry sense of humor. It took us a while to grasp it because, as children, we didn’t get it.

But as we grew up, we began to understand his wit and laugh at the things he said.  

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He presided over family dinners with a quiet dignity that spoke of a patriarch who took that responsibility seriously.

He was the mediator in our disputes as siblings and always took the high road, refusing to take sides.

He’s left a gap in our lives that we can’t even begin to contemplate filling.

A Funeral Speech for a Best Friend

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Jennifer and I met, two gap-toothed first-grader’s, on the first day of school – ever.

Something drew us to each other though. We could never quite figure out what it was, but it’s lasted a lifetime.

As children, we would spend hours with each other without talking that much.

We just understood each other. Even if you put us on either side of a big room full of people, Jennifer and I would always find our way back to each other immediately.

We survived high school together. I’m not sure if either of us would’ve made it without the other. We laughed and cried together so many times.

There were crushes and boyfriends that caused heartache and heartbreak. But, throughout it all, we were always there for each other, no matter what – no matter how many times I needed a shoulder to cry on, Jennifer was there.

We went to different colleges after high school and the careers and lives we pursued after our studies were poles apart. We lived far away from each other and I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

I’ll be honest, we sometimes went for long periods without talking, which I regret.

But every time we spoke or saw each other though, we picked up where we left off, and it felt like we’d never been apart.

It’s that mutual love and respect that makes me know Jennifer was the best friend I could ever have had.

A Eulogy for a Wife

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I don’t know where to begin to tell you about the enormous gaping hole that Samantha’s passing has left in my life.

It feels like half of me has vanished in an instant, and I’m not sure I’ll ever feel whole again.

Samantha was an amazing woman. She had such an infectious zest for life that she could always find the humor or a silver lining of any situation, regardless of the gravity. Anything seemed possible with her attitude.

The way she attacked the obstacles she encountered with such strength and determination was inspirational.

Samantha and I met quite by accident. I walked into her office in error – and there she was: the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She seemed to radiate some kind of magnetic attraction.  

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I knew there and then that I would never be able to stay away from her, and that my life would not be complete without her in it. She didn’t make it easy.

I had to ask her out several times before she agreed. But when I look back on the life we’ve shared, it was more than worth it.

Our children were the center of Samantha’s world. She took her role as a mother seriously and did an amazing job of raising them to be the adults they are today.

I wish I’d had more time with her, I really do. But I will treasure the years I had with her in my heart for the rest of my life.

A Funeral Speech for a Husband

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The thing that made me fall in love with Stephen was his sense of humor. He always made me laugh, even when all I wanted to do was cry.

Whenever I’d get angry or upset with him – for whatever reason – I’d always wind up laughing because he could always make me see the funny side of it.

As a husband, Stephen was supportive of everything I did.

Like when I decided that the patio needed to be refurbished. He was right by my side working so hard to help me, even though I’m sure the last thing he felt like doing was revamping the patio.

In fact, I know he would have preferred to spend his weekend resting and relaxing. But he never let me down. Tired or not, he’d help me with all my ‘projects’.

Stephen endeared himself to me even more when we became parents. He was so proud to be a father and a wonderfully hands-on partner.

I couldn’t have asked for a better father for my children. In fact, there were times I had to ask him to be a bit more hands-off so that I could get to my babies!

The lives of our children and their achievements gave Stephen an enormous amount of satisfaction.

He supported them every step of the way. He picked them up when they fell or failed.

He encouraged them to keep going. And he showed them how to be the resilient adults they have become.

My life was better that I could have ever imagined, and fuller that I ever dreamed because of Stephen’s presence by my side.

A Eulogy for a brother

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I’m not going to stand up here and tell you that it was all sunshine and roses between David and myself growing up.

There were times I wished he wasn’t my brother. And I’m sure there were times he wished I wasn’t his sister.

We seemed to have a knack for pushing each other’s buttons, sometimes with some amusing consequences, sometimes not.

From the outset, David stood out as an individual. He did not march to the beat of society’s drum. He had his own internal drumbeat, and he remained committed to it.

One of my favorite memories of David is the one-and-only time my mother asked him to water her indoor plants. True to form, David came up with a plan to make the job easier.

He brought the hose and sprinkler indoors and turned it on. I’ll never forget the look on my mother’s face and the mischievous grin on David’s.

As we grew older, I began to see David for what he truly was. He was a caring brother who’d do anything to protect me.

He let me cry on his shoulder when I went through my first break-up. He was the only one who understood my hurt and confusion when our parents divorced.

David was a loyal and kind person who’d never let you down.

He’d have given anyone the shirt off his back. I’m proud to have called this incredibly special man my brother.

A Funeral Speech for a Sister

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My sister Janet never met a challenge she didn’t conquer.

Even as a baby, she showed an exceptional amount of determination. She would turn her mind to an obstacle and work on it until she’d overcome it.

Of course, she drove me crazy. Having a little sister who wanted to tag along was, at times, infuriating.

She would go through the things in my room and leave a mess. When she was about ten years old, she got into my makeup drawer and went completely overboard.

When I caught her, she had rainbow-colored eyelids, forehead and cheeks. Her lips and teeth were full of lipstick, and there was mascara everywhere. I was furious at the time. When she saw how angry I was, she began to cry.

Anytime she’d open those beautiful big brown eyes of hers, silently reminding me that she was my flesh and blood, I couldn’t stay angry with her.

She’d open those beautiful big brown eyes and remind me that she was my flesh and blood. And I couldn’t stay angry with her.

Janet was an exemplary student. She had an incredible work ethic. If she didn’t understand something, she’d work at it until she did.

Losing my sister is so heartbreaking. She had so much left to offer the world.

But wherever she is, I know that she’s looking down on me now with those gorgeous brown eyes and that beautiful smile.

A Funeral Speech for a Close Acquaintance (e.g., a teacher, boss, coworker)

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I’d like to start by offering John’s family my sincerest condolences.

Your loss is so great. You had a special man in your midst, and I’m can’t imagine the depth of loss you must feel.

John was my high school English teacher, so you might wonder why I refer to him as John and not as Mr. Robinson; it was at his insistence, as soon as I graduated.

When I first called him Mr. Robinson after graduation, he’d turned around and said, “Is my father standing behind me?” When I replied in the negative, he’d said, “Then why are you saying his name?”

John taught me so much more than English. He taught me how to think critically, and not to take things at face value.  

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He showed me the value of questioning that which was placed before me as fact. Thanks to him, I developed analytical skills that I continue to use today.

John’s work ethic influenced me greatly. He would always show us the value of hard work and diligence. I took those lessons to heart.

His passion for teaching English was contagious. I fell in love with the language on a different level thanks to him. He made the written word come alive in class.

He may not have known it, but John fulfilled an important role in my life. He was like a father, an uncle, and a big brother all rolled into one.

He shaped me into the man I am today. There are no words I can use to express my gratitude, which I know would disappoint John. After all, he made sure he taught us a wide vocabulary

Eulogy Examples: How to Write a Eulogy for a Loved One

By Bernie Flowers

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How do you distill a lifetime of memories and experiences into a 15-minute eulogy? It’s an honor to hold the responsibility of eulogizing your loved one, but it can feel like a challenge to fit everything you want to say in one speech.

Instead of making the funeral attendees feel like they are reading an encyclopedia from cover-to-cover, look for ways to highlight the rich life experiences that matter most. A eulogy should be a sampling of the best the person had to offer including accomplishments, personality traits, and memorable stories.

When it comes to eulogy writing, you can search online for ideas and examples. But the most important thing you need to keep in mind: quality over quantity .

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What is a Eulogy?

Giving a eulogy means that you are sharing a remembrance speech with the purpose of paying tribute to a loved one. This speech is given at the funeral or memorial service by a family member or close friend.

A good eulogy highlights the lasting impact of the person on their family and community. Through your speech, you’ll have an opportunity to share their unique qualities, as well as the ripple effect of positivity and change they created in the world around them.

How can you best honor  your loved one? A eulogy can be a part of your healing, and a beautiful way to reflect on the details that were most special about them.

Eulogy Examples

One of the simplest ways to write a eulogy is to review a eulogy speech example that matches your own preferred tone and style. What makes a eulogy unique is the unique details you’ll share about the person themselves, which is why it’s essential to customize your eulogy to honor and celebrate the personality of your loved one.

You may want to start with our primer on how to write a eulogy . Then, use the following outline and eulogy examples to create a strong speech  that communicates the message you want to share about the person who meant so much to you.

Eulogy Sample Outline

Using a eulogy sample outline is a proven way to create a great speech. Remember those Mad Libs books from your childhood? This process is similar: follow the outline and plug in the personal details applicable to your loved one. 

These eulogy samples help you overcome writer's block and keep you focused on the details that matter most. Aim to cap the eulogy at a maximum of 10 minutes total. The simplest eulogy outline can be broken down into three parts, so you’ll need to consider how much time to spend on each section:

  • Set the tone by beginning with a poem, quote, or scripture that was meaningful to the person.
  • Names they were known by, including nicknames and maiden names.
  • Cause of death (an optional detail).
  • A brief insight into your relationship with the individual.
  • Accomplishments
  • Major life events
  • Stories or fond memories
  • How the person affected others
  • Childhood years
  • Travel adventures
  • Marriage and children
  • Any other thoughts you want to share about the person
  • A final take away from your theme
  • How you want family and friends to remember the individual
  • What the person would want you to remember them for
  • Quote, scripture, or song lyric
  • Thank attendees for participating

Eulogy Examples for a Friend

It can be helpful to write this eulogy as if you were talking to a friend. Common talking points might include:

  • Common activities enjoyed together
  • What you like most about the person
  • Personality traits or phrases they often use
  • How you would describe the person
  • What will you remember them by?

Here is a eulogy example for a friend:

I can’t imagine how empty it will feel to spend time on the basketball court without Jim by my side. Our relationship was built with a basketball in hand, and evolved to share many family gatherings and other activities together over the years. With his passing, Jim is leaving behind a legacy of kindness, compassion, and generosity.

Jim shared good humor and a big smile with everyone he met. Even though people often cursed at his practical jokes, he was an integral part of creating a solid foundation of friendship in our group. When times were difficult, he could always put a smile on my face. He held his head high until the end, showing what it looks like to finish strong.

Eulogy Examples for Your Father

Writing a eulogy for your dad may be really tough. How do you memorialize your hero amid grief and emotion? We hope these tips and the example below will help you in your process. 

  • Share childhood experiences when spending time with dad
  • Talk about his best qualities
  • Capture his essence through “dad jokes” and the things that made you laugh
  • Tell about the things you will miss most about him
  • Describe his role in your upbringing

Here is a eulogy example for your father:

My dad was my hero. He could make every person feel like they were the most important person in the world. Growing up, I knew that I could always ask Dad for help – and he would be willing to drop anything to lend a hand. He was a rock of stability in my childhood and a source of strength for our whole family.

My father was a man who infused fun into the most mundane tasks. I remember how he would turn our bedtime routine into an adventure that included highlights from our favorite storybooks. He was a kind and thoughtful person. Every night at the dinner table, he encouraged us to talk about the things we were grateful for, and always had yummy treats for us kids hidden in the back of the pantry. I will miss you, Dad, and I’ll always hold onto the amazing memories we shared together.

Eulogy Examples for Your Mother

How can you ever do justice to a eulogy for your beloved mother – the woman who was always there with love and guidance through the ups and downs, the celebrations and challenging moments of your life? Here are a few tips for writing a eulogy for your mother:

  • Describe the way she showed her love for you
  • Celebrate the small ways she turned your house into a home
  • Highlight the impact she made throughout the community
  • Explain the smells, sounds, and feelings you felt when arriving home
  • Share stories from childhood and adulthood that reflect her character

Here is a eulogy example for your mother:

Today we are honoring, celebrating, and remembering {mom’s full name]. She was a woman of grace and courage, with a stubborn streak that showed up when she set her mind to something, like going back to school to become a nurse at age 40. 

My mother was truly my best friend and I am humbled by the challenge of describing the fullness of her beauty and caring here today. I don't know how she did it, but Mom always found the perfect balance between work and home. Even though she worked 40 – 50 hours a week to support us, she prioritized family dinner. That time was sacred to our family. Her love and kindness were infused in everything she did, whether she was baking cookies for a bake sale to help the hospital or sewing our Halloween costumes by hand year after year. 

She had a magical way of bringing joy every time she walked into the room. No one who met her could forget her smile. And I’ll never forget the advice and the lessons she taught me. Her wisdom will forever guide the decisions I make through the rest of my life. I love you, Mom.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandmother

How do you share the details about the love you felt through your relationship with a grandmother? Follow these tips to write a good eulogy for this important woman:

  • Talk about the fun traditions she brought for your favorite holiday
  • What was she known for in the community?
  • How did her influence touch your life?
  • What are the daily moments that will remind you of her?
  • Share funny stories that showcase her quirks or sense of humor

Here is a eulogy example for your grandmother:

My grandmother paid attention to the details – it was the little things that added the finishing touch to every experience. Whether she was setting out the treat jar on the kitchen table or clinking the glass while drinking her iced tea, she always prioritized food and drinks.

Since she loved to shop, grandma would often take us to the mall when we were visiting for the weekend. We would have fashion shows in the dressing rooms and often come home with bright, frilly dresses that were perfect for twirling.

When grandpa was away for the war, grandma was an example of always getting back up again when things get hard. She never complained; just worked hard and supported her family at all times. Despite the personal challenges, she always looked outside of herself – which is why she will be remembered as a beacon of light in this community.

Eulogy Examples for Your Grandfather

What are the details that make your grandfather larger than life? Here are a few ideas to help when writing a eulogy for this great man:

  • Explain the qualities that best describe his personality
  • Tell about the details that made him stand out from other grandparents
  • What hobbies or passions did he share with the family?
  • How will the neighborhood or community remember him?
  • Talk about stories that were life-changing moments for him

Here is a eulogy example for your grandfather:

Even though my grandfather didn’t like to be the center of attention, he had an undeniable impact on the community. If he was here with us today, he wouldn’t want us to share grief and sorrow. Instead, his desire would be to focus on the happy memories and joyful experiences shared over the years.

Grandpa was a man who set a lasting impression on everyone he met. His deep laugh and kind eyes warmed the room and brought life into the most boring daily activities. Grandpa loved spending time with his grandkids because he said that it made him feel young at heart.

He was a great teacher and a dependable friend. His advice and guidance will continue to carry me through the joys and challenges that life has to offer.

Eulogy Examples for Your Brother

Siblings share a special bond, giving you deep insights to share about your brother. Follow these tips for writing a good eulogy:

  • What was it like growing up in the same house together?
  • Describe the way your relationship changed in adulthood
  • Share funny stories about sibling rivalries
  • Explain the lasting impact he left on you and the family
  • List his favorite hobbies and food

Here is a eulogy example for your brother:

While it’s tragic to think about Kyle leaving us too soon, he left behind a lifetime of memories that we can celebrate. Kyle was always ready for a fun day with friends – he would have been the one showing up today with the perfect playlist for the event.

Even though my brother was a few years older than me, he always included me in the adventures with his friends. I never felt like the little brother he was dragging along. He made me feel special and included in the group, and helped me build confidence along the way.

Kyle was my best friend and I can’t imagine what life is going to be like without him sending me funny cat memes every night. But I know that his memory will live on when I eat his favorite pizza or hear his favorite band on the radio.

Eulogy Examples for Your Sister

If you’ve lost a sibling, we are truly sorry, Writing a eulogy for your sister can be a way to honor her through your memories of your childhood and growing up with her, as well as the milestones of her life. A few ideas for this eulogy include:

  • Share her notable life accomplishments
  • Retell your favorite stories from growing up together
  • Highlight the kind of person she was
  • Summarize your relationship in a few short words
  • Talk about what she meant to you and how she influenced your life

Here is a eulogy example for your sister:

My sister, Kim, might have been a little shy at the first introduction. But once she warmed up to a friendship, she always had plenty to say every time she talked. Kim loved to share stories from her time volunteering at the children’s hospital and she had a beautiful gift of making everyone feel like the most important person in the world.

We were only a year apart, which meant that I was the younger sister who was often stealing her clothes or listening in on her conversations with her boyfriend. Even though I was the pesky sibling who cracked jokes about her unique style, she was everything I wanted to be when I grew up. She was independent, strong, and beautiful. She was a free spirit who wasn’t afraid to act boldly, like moving to Paris after college and starting her own business. She was my partner in crime, and I could always tell her everything. She will never be replaced. . My dear sister, I love you and I will be forever grateful for every moment we spent together.

Short Eulogy Examples

Short and sweet is a good rule of thumb to follow when writing a eulogy. Consider these important talking points if you want to write a short eulogy:

  • Highlight the person’s passions or interests
  • What were the most memorable times you spent together?
  • Sum up the person’s character using a story or memory
  • Express your gratitude for the impact the person had on your life
  • Talk about their influence on family and community

Here is a short eulogy example:

The years I spent with Kathy in my life were filled with excitement and adventure. She showed up for life in the biggest way possible. From the moment she shared her cookie with me on the first day of kindergarten, I knew we would be best friends.

She spent many years working as a teacher, and her heart was big enough to offer individual attention to every child that walked into her classroom. Kathy made a difference in the lives of hundreds of children over the years, and her kindness and positivity will leave an unwavering legacy in this community.

Funny Eulogy Examples

Sometimes a bit of humor is the perfect way to lighten the mood and showcase the personality of your loved one. Consider these tips if you want to add a few jokes into the eulogy:

  • Point out the person’s comedic qualities
  • Be specific about sharing their jokes or pranks
  • Look for ways to communicate what the person would say if they wrote the speech
  • Find the right balance of humor to share laughs without being irreverent
  • Share a funny poem or a quote from the person’s favorite movie

Here is a funny eulogy example:

Anyone who met Josh quickly learned that there are always laughs to be shared. It was impossible to spend time with him without enjoying a gut-busting laugh at some point in the conversation. Josh was known as the class clown, and his jokes were quick-witted and hilarious.

Who could forget the time Josh showed up to the family reunion wearing that ridiculous blow-up dinosaur costume? He chased the kids around the park until everyone laughed until they were crying.

Many funny memories came out of our family camping trips. He couldn’t sit down to enjoy a peaceful campfire. Instead, the s’more making always seemed to turn into a marshmallow fight – with white puffs flying through the air when you least expected it. Josh kept a smile on my face through the ups and downs of life, and I will keep on smiling in his honor.

Personalizing the Eulogy

As you read through these funeral eulogy examples, the most important thing to remember is that there isn’t a right or wrong way to write a eulogy. Instead, consider the best way to share the person in the way they would want others to remember them. It’s your chance to verbalize your love and honor the memories of your loved one.

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The Funeral Speech

The funeral or memorial speech is an integral part of most funeral and memorial services.  Funeral speeches include formal eulogies or tributes as well as informal reflections, remembrances and comments.  Funerals, Homegoings and Celebration of Life services include a mix of these funeral speeches to ensure that all close family and friends are given a chance to reflect on their relationship with the deceased, and offer comfort to mourners.  It is considered an honor to be asked to deliver a heartwarming funeral speech.

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There are several types of funeral speeches.

Eulogies -- This is the most common funeral speech.  A eulogy is usually the main speech that praises and offers testimonial to the deceased's life.  Eulogies typically are from 5 - 15 minutes.

Tributes -- Sometime tributes are interchangeable with eulogies.  Often, tributes are usual shorter and slightly more informal than a eulogy and are given in addition the formal eulogy.  Tributes gives other close friends and relative a chance to reflect on relationship with the deceased.  May include very personal memories or funny stories about the deceased.

Reflections / Remembrances / Informal Comments . -- Can be co-workers, close friends, typically relationships other than family members.  Usually limited to 2 minutes.

Here are a few tips for composing a funeral speech.

Take time to prepare -- Whether you are just giving informal comments or a formal eulogy, you want to take time to prepare what you plan to say.       

Write down specific memories, or qualities of the deceased that you may want to share.  See our articles on "how to write a eulogy" and our eulogy writing checklist .  Also check out our collection of eulogy examples or maybe look for a sample funeral speech on the internet.

Print your speech, or use note cards so that you can refer to it if you forget what you are going to say.  Use a large font for so that it's easy to read.  Consider putting it in outline form, so that it can be easier to read.

Try to speak in a natural and conversational tone.

Practice your speech

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10 Powerful Eulogy Examples That Will Inspire and Guide You

Losing a loved one is an incredibly difficult and emotional experience. It’s during these times that the importance of a heartfelt eulogy becomes evident, as it allows us to pay tribute to the person’s life, share fond memories, and provide comfort to family members and friends. A well-crafted eulogy can have a significant emotional impact, helping those in attendance find solace and connection through shared stories and experiences.

At MemoryCherish, we understand the challenges and emotions that come with writing a eulogy , especially when you’re grieving the loss of someone dear to you. That’s why we are here to guide and support you throughout this process, offering valuable insights and examples to help you craft a moving funeral speech that captures the essence of your loved one’s life.

In this article, we will explore 10 powerful eulogy examples that will inspire and guide you in creating a meaningful tribute for your beloved family member or close friend. Whether you’re looking for funeral speech ideas or seeking guidance on how to strike the perfect balance between reminiscing about precious memories and honoring the life of the departed, these examples will provide you with the inspiration you need to express your feelings and pay tribute to the person who meant so much to you.

II. Preparing to Write a Eulogy

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When preparing to write a eulogy , it’s essential to gather your thoughts and memories about your loved one. This process begins by reflecting on the special bond you shared with them. Death is never easy, but through funeral speeches and eulogy examples, we can find solace and pay tribute to the person’s life.

As you embark on this emotional journey, remember that there is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy. Whether you choose to share funny stories or fond memories, the goal is to honor your beloved family member or dear friend. Funeral speech examples can serve as inspiration, but your own memories and personal stories are what truly make a eulogy unique and heartfelt.

Begin by reminiscing about your favorite memories with your loved one, whether it’s a funny story from your childhood or a precious moment shared with your best friend. As you sift through these memories, consider the impact your loved one had on your life and the lives of others. Were they a supportive father or a caring mother? A loyal friend or a cherished sibling?

As you write, strive for a balance between emotions and storytelling. While it’s natural to feel grief and sadness, a eulogy should also celebrate the life and legacy of the departed. Share anecdotes about their achievements, passions, and the qualities that made them special. By recounting these stories, you’ll not only pay tribute to their memory but also provide comfort to family and friends in attendance.

As you work through the writing process, don’t be afraid to lean on others for support. Reach out to close friends or family members who knew the person well and ask them to share their own memories and experiences. These collective stories will help paint a vivid picture of your loved one’s life and provide a solid foundation for your eulogy.

Lastly, remember that your eulogy should be an authentic reflection of your relationship with the deceased. It’s okay if it’s not perfect or polished – the most important thing is to speak from the heart and honor their memory in a way that feels true to you.

In conclusion, preparing to write a eulogy requires time, reflection, and a willingness to embrace both laughter and tears. By gathering thoughts, memories, and stories from your own life and those of others, you can create a heartfelt tribute that honors your loved one’s life and provides comfort to all who hear it.

III. Key Elements of a Powerful Eulogy

A powerful eulogy is not only a tribute to the deceased but also a source of comfort and solace for family and friends. To create a meaningful and heartfelt eulogy, focus on these key elements:

A eulogy should celebrate the person’s life and highlight their unique qualities, accomplishments, and passions. By sharing stories that showcase their character, you’ll help paint a vivid picture of the person they were, allowing those in attendance to remember and cherish the time they spent with them.

Incorporate fond memories and funny stories into your eulogy to bring smiles and laughter to the room. These lighthearted moments provide relief from grief and remind everyone of the joy the deceased brought to their lives. Don’t be afraid to share personal anecdotes – these genuine stories will resonate with others and deepen the emotional connection.

Take the time to express your gratitude and love for the person who has passed away. Share how their presence impacted your life and the lives of others, and acknowledge the lessons they taught you. In doing so, you’ll create a sense of unity and support among those grieving, and show that the deceased’s memory will continue to live on in the hearts of those who loved them.

As you write your eulogy, remember that there is no right or wrong way to honor your loved one. Drawing inspiration from eulogy examples and funeral speeches can help guide your writing process, but ultimately, your own memories and personal stories will make your tribute unique and heartfelt.

In conclusion, a powerful eulogy celebrates the person’s life, shares fond memories and funny stories, and expresses gratitude and love for the departed. By focusing on these key elements and speaking from the heart, you’ll create an emotional connection with your audience and pay a fitting tribute to your loved one. Embrace the informative, persuasive, and empathetic nature of storytelling to honor their memory and provide comfort to those who are grieving.

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IV. Eulogy Example 1: A Tribute to a Dear Friend

Ladies and Gentlemen,

As we gather here today, we are united by the love and the profound sense of loss we all feel for a woman who touched our lives in ways words can hardly express. Darlene was not just a friend; she was a constant source of light and warmth in our lives, a force of nature whose energy and spirit were as boundless as her capacity to love.

Darlene was a woman of many talents and passions, but above all, she was a woman of extraordinary kindness. Born in a small town, she carried that sense of community with her throughout her life. Her heart was her hometown, welcoming and warm, a place where everyone felt loved and accepted.

She was a teacher by profession, but her influence extended far beyond the four walls of a classroom. She didn’t just teach lessons from textbooks, she taught lessons of life. Patience, kindness, empathy, courage – these were the tenets she lived by, and instilled in everyone around her.

Her laughter was a melody that played on even the cloudiest of days, her smile, a beacon that could light up the darkest of nights. She had a zest for life that was infectious, a spirit that was indomitable. She found joy in the simplest things, and in doing so, taught us to appreciate those little moments that make life so beautiful.

Darlene was a friend who was always there, in good times and in bad. She was our rock when we were adrift, our compass when we lost our way. Her friendship was a gift, one that we unwrapped every day, one that brought us immense joy, comfort, and love.

She was an avid gardener, her hands weaving magic into the soil. Her garden was a testament to her belief in growth, change, and the idea that beauty can bloom even from the darkest corners. Just like the flowers in her garden, the seeds of love and kindness she planted in our hearts will continue to grow and bloom.

As we bid farewell to our dear friend Darlene today, let us not lose ourselves in the sorrow of loss, but rather find comfort in the memories we shared, the laughter, the tears, the love. Let us remember her not with sadness, but with the joy she brought into our lives, the lessons she taught us, and the love she shared with us.

Darlene, you were a blessing in our lives, a light that never dimmed. You were a friend who left footprints of love and kindness on our hearts. As we say goodbye, know that your spirit will continue to live on in the garden of our memories, in the bloom of every flower, in the rustle of every leaf.

Rest in peace, dear Darlene. You will be missed, but your spirit, your love, and your light will forever shine bright in our hearts.

V. Eulogy Example 2: Honoring a Parent’s Legacy

As we gather here today, we find ourselves in the midst of an ocean of emotions. It’s not easy to say goodbye, especially to a man like my father, Richard. He was my guiding star, my greatest mentor, and my dearest friend. His passing leaves a profound void, yet his spirit continues to surround and guide us.

My father was a man of humble beginnings, but he was rich in ways that cannot be measured by material possessions. He was rich in wisdom, in kindness, in love. He was the kind of man who knew the value of hard work, the importance of honesty, and the strength of humility. His life was not an easy journey, but it was a journey he embarked on with courage and dignity.

Richard, or Dad as I was blessed to call him, had a heart as vast as the universe. He loved unconditionally, gave generously, and forgave easily. His laughter was the soundtrack of my childhood, his smile, my beacon of hope. He had a way of making the ordinary feel extraordinary, of turning mundane moments into cherished memories.

Dad was an engineer by profession, and he brought that same precision, dedication, and passion to every aspect of his life. But it was his role as a father that truly showcased the depth of his character. He was not just a dad, he was a superhero without a cape, a guiding light without a lantern, a teacher without a classroom.

He taught me the importance of resilience, the power of kindness, and the value of integrity. He taught me to be brave in the face of adversity, to be compassionate in the face of cruelty, to be humble in the face of accolades. He taught me not just how to live, but how to live well, with purpose, with passion, with love.

As I stand here today, I am reminded of his words, “Life is not about the number of breaths we take, but about the moments that take our breath away.” Dad lived his life embracing every moment, cherishing every breath. His legacy is not just in the years he lived, but in the lives he touched, the hearts he warmed, the souls he inspired.

Today, as we bid farewell to my father, I am not saying goodbye. Instead, I am saying thank you. Thank you, Dad, for your unwavering love, your endless patience, your invaluable lessons. Thank you for your laughter, your wisdom, and your guidance. Thank you for being my dad.

Richard, Dad, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your love continues to surround us, your wisdom continues to guide us, and your laughter continues to echo in our hearts. Rest in peace, dear Dad. You will always be loved, always be missed, and forever be remembered.

VI. Eulogy Example 3: Remembering a Sibling’s Life

Today, as we stand united in grief and in love, we are here to celebrate the life of Destiny, my sister, my confidante, my lifelong friend. Her departure has left an irreplaceable void, yet her spirit, her laughter, and her memories continue to surround us.

Destiny was a beacon of light in our lives. Her name was not just a moniker, but a testament to the vibrant, inspirational life she led. She was a woman of courage, of compassion, of boundless love. Her spirit was indomitable, her heart, an ocean of kindness.

From our earliest days, Destiny was not just my older sister but my mentor, my guiding light. She was the one who taught me how to tie my shoelaces, the one who comforted me when nightmares kept me awake, the one who stood up for me when bullies tried to tear me down. Her protective nature, her unwavering support, and her unconditional love are the foundation of the unbreakable bond we shared.

Destiny was an artist, her canvas as expansive and as diverse as her spirit. She painted with a passion that was contagious, her artwork a reflection of her soul – bright, beautiful, and brimming with life. Her paintings were not just images, but stories, stories of hope, of love, of dreams. Her art was her voice, her way of touching lives, of making a difference.

Her laughter was infectious, her spirit, unyielding. Destiny faced life’s trials with a courage that was awe-inspiring, and a determination that was unstoppable. She taught me the true meaning of resilience, the power of hope, and the beauty of life.

Destiny was a lover of nature. She found solace in the rustling leaves, joy in the blooming flowers, and inspiration in the setting sun. She believed in the healing power of nature, its ability to comfort, to inspire, to rejuvenate. Her love for nature was not just a passion, but a way of life.

As I stand here today, I am not just mourning the loss of my sister, but celebrating the life she lived, the love she shared, the dreams she chased. Destiny, you were more than a sister, you were a part of me, a part of my life, a part of my soul.

Destiny, you will always be remembered, not just as a sister, but as a beacon of love, of strength, of inspiration. Your spirit will continue to guide us, your memories will continue to comfort us, your love will continue to surround us. Rest in peace, dear sister. You will be missed, but your spirit, your love, and your light will forever shine bright in our hearts.

VII. Eulogy Example 4: Celebrating a Spouse’s Love and Partnership

We are gathered here today in the midst of profound sorrow, but also in heartfelt gratitude and love for a man whose presence in our lives was a blessing, my dear husband, Nick. His departure has left an indelible mark on our hearts, yet his love, his laughter, and his memories continue to comfort us.

Nick was not just my husband, he was my partner, my confidante, my best friend. Our journey together was not just a marriage, it was a beautiful dance of love, respect, and companionship. His love was my sanctuary, his arms, my home, his heart, my haven.

Nick was a man of extraordinary strength, of unwavering courage, of boundless love. He believed in the power of dreams, the strength of kindness, and the beauty of life. His spirit was as vibrant as a summer’s day, his heart as warm as a winter’s fire.

He was a man of many talents, but his greatest talent was his ability to love, to love unconditionally, to love profoundly. He loved with a depth that was awe-inspiring, with a passion that was heartwarming. His love was not just a feeling, but a force, a force that brought joy, comfort, and strength.

Nick had laughter that could light up the darkest of nights, a smile that could brighten the gloomiest of days. His optimism was infectious, his spirit, indomitable. He faced life’s trials with courage, its joys with gratitude, its sorrows with grace.

Nick was a man who loved the sea. He found solace in its vastness, joy in its waves, and inspiration in its depths. He believed in the power of the sea, its ability to heal, to inspire, to rejuvenate. His love for the sea was not just a passion, but a way of life.

Today, as I stand here, I am not just mourning the loss of my husband, but celebrating the love we shared, the life we built, the memories we created. Nick, you were more than a husband, you were my rock, my lighthouse, my compass.

Nick, your physical presence may be absent, but your love continues to surround us, your laughter continues to echo in our hearts, your spirit continues to guide us. Rest in peace, dear Nick. You will always be loved, always be missed, and forever be remembered.

VIII. Eulogy Example 5: A Heartfelt Tribute to a Child

Today we gather, our hearts heavy with sorrow, our souls seeking solace, to honor and remember a life that was short in duration but infinite in its impact. A life that was a beacon of light in our world, the life of our beloved Poppy.

Poppy, our little angel, was a burst of sunshine, a spark of joy, a wellspring of love. Her life was a dance of innocence, a symphony of laughter, a canvas of dreams. Her presence was a blessing, her laughter, a melody, her love, a treasure.

From the moment Poppy arrived in our lives, she brought with her a love that was boundless, a joy that was infectious, a spirit that was indomitable. She loved with a purity that was awe-inspiring, she laughed with a joy that was heartwarming, she lived with a zest that was life-affirming.

One of my most treasured memories is of our trips to the park. Poppy would run towards the swings with gleeful abandon, her laughter ringing through the air, her eyes sparkling with joy. Those moments of pure, unadulterated joy, of innocence, of love, are etched in our hearts, a balm to our aching souls.

Poppy was a lover of stories. Every night, we would dive into a world of dragons and princesses, of superheroes and talking animals. Her eyes would light up with wonder, her laughter would fill the room, her dreams would take flight. Those moments of shared stories, of shared dreams, of shared love, are treasures we will forever hold dear.

As a family, we grew, we learned, and we loved, all through the grace of Poppy. She was our teacher, our inspiration, our guiding light. Her innocence taught us the beauty of simplicity, her laughter taught us the joy of living, her love taught us the power of kindness.

Today, as we bid farewell to our beloved Poppy, we are not saying goodbye, but thank you. Thank you for the love, for the laughter, for the lessons. Thank you for the joy, for the memories, for the dreams. Thank you for being our child, for being our joy, for being our love.

Our dear Poppy, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your laughter echoes in our hearts, your love surrounds us, your spirit guides us. You were a blessing in our lives, a gift we will forever cherish, a love we will forever hold dear.

Rest in peace, our dear Poppy. You will always be loved, always be missed, and forever be remembered.

IX. Eulogy Example 6: Commemorating a Colleague or Mentor

Today, we gather not only to mourn, but to celebrate the life of an extraordinary individual, a mentor, a colleague, and a friend, Sharon. Sharon’s physical absence has left a void in our lives, but her spirit, her teachings, and her memories continue to inspire us.

Sharon was a woman of extraordinary intellect, of unwavering dedication, and of boundless kindness. She was not just a colleague, she was a mentor, a guiding light. Her work was not just a job, it was a passion, a mission, a calling.

Sharon’s professional accomplishments were as vast as they were impressive. She was a visionary, a trailblazer, a leader. Under her guidance, our team overcame challenges and reached heights we could only dream of. Her strategies were innovative, her decisions, insightful, her leadership, inspirational.

I remember a time when we were facing a particularly challenging project. The deadline was tight, the stakes were high, and the pressure was immense. But Sharon, with her characteristic calm and determination, led us through. She worked tirelessly, inspired us with her dedication, and encouraged us with her positivity. It was her leadership that brought us to success, her strength that kept us going, her spirit that made us believe.

But Sharon was more than just her professional achievements. She was a woman of deep compassion, of genuine kindness, of profound wisdom. Her office door was always open, her heart always ready to listen, to understand, to help. She had a knack for making you feel heard, for making you feel valued, for making you feel important.

Sharon was also a lover of books. She believed in the power of words, the magic of stories, the wisdom of lessons. She often said, “Books are not just pages filled with words, they are mirrors reflecting life, windows opening to the world, doors leading to wisdom.” Her love for books was not just a hobby, it was a way of life.

As we bid farewell to Sharon today, we are not just saying goodbye, but thank you. Thank you, Sharon, for your guidance, for your support, for your wisdom. Thank you for the lessons, for the memories, for the inspiration. Thank you for being our mentor, our colleague, our friend.

Sharon, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your teachings continue to guide us, your memories continue to inspire us, your legacy continues to shine. Rest in peace, dear Sharon. You will always be remembered, always be missed, and forever be treasured. Your spirit, your wisdom, and your love will forever shine in our hearts.

X. Eulogy Example 7: Paying Homage to a Community Member

We stand here today to honor the life and legacy of a man who was not just a member of our community, but its backbone, its heart, its soul. Today, we remember Will, a man who dedicated his life to the service of others, who believed in the power of community, and whose impact will forever be etched in our hearts.

Will was a man of extraordinary generosity, of unwavering dedication, and of boundless compassion. He believed in the strength of unity, the power of kindness, and the beauty of community. His life was a testament to his values, his actions, a reflection of his heart, his legacy, a tribute to his spirit.

Will was the driving force behind our community center. I remember when it was just an idea, a dream, a vision. But Will, with his determination and hard work, turned that vision into a reality. Today, the community center stands as a testament to Will’s dedication, a beacon of hope and unity, a symbol of our community’s strength and resilience.

I remember the joy on Will’s face during the annual community festival. His laughter echoed through the air, his spirit contagious, his joy palpable. He would organize games for the children, cook for the community, and bring everyone together with his stories and songs. Those moments of shared joy, of unity, of community, are treasures we will forever hold dear.

Will’s contributions extended beyond the community center. He was always there to lend a helping hand, to offer a comforting word, to share a hearty laugh. Whether it was helping a neighbor with their garden, teaching the children how to fish, or simply sharing a cup of coffee and a good conversation, Will’s presence was a source of comfort and joy.

Today, as we bid farewell to Will, we are not just mourning his absence, but celebrating his life, his legacy, his impact. We are celebrating a man who was a pillar of our community, a beacon of hope, a symbol of unity.

Will, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your legacy continues to inspire us, your memories continue to comfort us, your love continues to unite us. Rest in peace, dear Will. You will always be remembered, always be missed, and forever be cherished.

XI. Eulogy Example 8: Cherishing the Memory of a Distant Relative

In the tapestry of family, every thread is vital, each color and texture essential in creating a beautiful whole. Today, we gather to honor the memory of a cherished thread in our own family tapestry, our beloved Betty.

Betty, though distant in relation, was close in heart. Her life was a beautiful melody in our family symphony, her presence, a radiant color in our family portrait. She was a woman of remarkable strength, unwavering resilience, and infinite kindness. Her stories were our history, her experiences, our heritage, her legacy, our treasure.

Betty was the keeper of our family stories. I remember how as children we would gather around her, our eyes wide with anticipation, our hearts eager for adventure, as she took us on journeys through the annals of our family history. From tales of ancestors who crossed vast oceans for a better life, to stories of our great-grandparents who built the foundations of our family with their bare hands. Those stories, told in her warm, soothing voice, connected us to our roots, our past, our heritage.

I remember Betty’s annual visits during the summer holidays. Despite the distance that separated us, she would make the journey, her face lighting up with joy as she embraced each one of us. Those summer days spent with Betty are filled with memories of laughter, stories, and the sense of belonging that comes from being part of a family.

Betty also loved nature. She had a garden filled with the most beautiful flowers you could ever imagine. Each petal, each leaf, each bud, was tended to with love and care. She often said, “Gardens are like families. Each plant is unique, each has its place, each contributes to the beauty of the whole.” Her garden was not just a hobby, it was a reflection of her philosophy of life, of family, of love.

As we bid farewell to Betty today, we are not just mourning her absence, but celebrating her life, her legacy, her impact. We are celebrating a woman who was a vital thread in our family tapestry, a cherished note in our family symphony, a vibrant color in our family portrait.

Betty, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your stories continue to connect us, your memories continue to comfort us, your love continues to unite us. Rest in peace, dear Betty. You will always be remembered, always be missed, and forever be cherished. Your spirit, your love, and your legacy will forever shine in our hearts.

XII. Eulogy Example 9: A Touching Tribute to a Beloved Pet

Today, we gather to celebrate not just a pet, but a friend, a companion, a family member. Today, we remember and honor our beloved Pluto.

In the grand tapestry of life, some threads shine brighter than others, some touch our hearts more deeply, and Pluto was one such irreplaceable thread in our lives. He was not just a dog, but a beacon of unconditional love, a source of joy, a companion in life’s journey. His loyalty was unwavering, his love, boundless, his spirit, indomitable.

Pluto came into our lives as a tiny bundle of joy, his eyes sparkling with mischief, his tail wagging with excitement. From that moment, he became a part of our family, his laughter our melody, his love our treasure, his presence our blessing.

I remember our walks in the park, Pluto running ahead, his tail wagging, his eyes full of joy. He would chase after squirrels, jump into piles of leaves, and then look back at us, his eyes twinkling with mischief, his joy contagious. Those moments of shared joy, of shared adventures, of shared love, are memories we will forever cherish.

Pluto was also a great comforter. On days when life seemed overwhelming, when the weight of the world seemed too much to bear, he would sit by our side, his head on our lap, his eyes filled with empathy. His presence was a balm to our weary hearts, his love a salve to our aching souls.

As we bid farewell to Pluto today, we are not just mourning his absence, but celebrating his life, his love, his spirit. We are celebrating a companion who was a source of unconditional love, a friend who was a beacon of joy, a family member who was a pillar of strength.

Pluto, your physical presence may be absent, but your spirit lives on. Your laughter continues to echo in our hearts, your love continues to surround us, your spirit continues to guide us. Rest in peace, dear Pluto. You will always be remembered, always be missed, and forever be cherished.

XIII. Eulogy Example 10: Honoring a Life Cut Short

We gather here today to remember, to mourn, and to celebrate the life of Bruce, a life that was cut tragically short, but a life that was lived to the absolute fullest.

Bruce was a man who embraced life with open arms, who drank deeply from the cup of experience, who believed in making each moment count. His life was not a slow march, but a spirited dance, a vibrant symphony, a beautiful tapestry of vivid colors and rich textures.

Bruce had an insatiable curiosity about the world around him. His quest for knowledge was unending, his thirst for understanding, unquenchable. He was a voracious reader, a keen observer, a thoughtful questioner. He believed that every day was a chance to learn, to grow, to evolve. His mind was not just a repository of knowledge, but a fertile field of ideas, a wellspring of wisdom, a beacon of enlightenment.

I remember one summer, Bruce decided to learn how to play the guitar. He practiced day and night, his fingers strumming the strings, his voice humming the tunes. Within a few weeks, he was not just playing the guitar, he was creating music. His melodies were not just notes, but stories, emotions, expressions. His music was not just a hobby, it was a passion, a form of self-expression, a celebration of life.

Bruce also had a deep love for nature. He often said, “Nature is the greatest teacher. It teaches us about life, about resilience, about beauty.” He would spend hours in the woods, exploring the trails, admiring the flora, observing the fauna. His love for nature was not just a pastime, it was a philosophy, a way of life.

But what made Bruce truly extraordinary was his indomitable spirit, his unyielding courage, his unflagging optimism. Even in the face of adversity, he remained hopeful, resilient, positive. His spirit was not just an inspiration, it was a force, a beacon, a guiding light.

As we bid farewell to Bruce today, we are not just mourning his absence, but celebrating his life, his spirit, his legacy. We are celebrating a life that was lived to the fullest, a spirit that was indomitable, a legacy that is timeless.

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XIV. Tips for Delivering a Powerful Eulogy

Delivering a powerful eulogy requires more than just well-written words; it also involves speaking from the heart, managing emotions, and engaging the audience with storytelling. Here are some tips to help you deliver a heartfelt and memorable tribute:

When delivering a eulogy, it’s essential to speak from the heart. This means being genuine, sincere, and authentic in your words and emotions. Share personal stories and memories that have meaning to you and the deceased, as this will create a strong emotional connection with your audience.

It’s natural to feel a mix of emotions when giving a eulogy. While it’s important to express your grief, try to maintain a balance between sadness and celebration. Remember that you’re there to pay tribute to your loved one’s life, so focus on the positive aspects of their life and the impact they had on others. If you find yourself getting too emotional, take a moment to pause, breathe, and regain your composure

before continuing.

To engage your audience, use vivid descriptions and anecdotes that paint a clear picture of the person’s life. This not only helps those listening to visualize the stories you’re sharing but also makes the eulogy more memorable and relatable. Whether you’re recounting a funny story or a precious memory, make sure to use descriptive language and details that capture the essence of the moment.

As you prepare to deliver your eulogy, remember that there’s no right or wrong way to honor your loved one. Drawing inspiration from funeral speeches and eulogy examples can help guide your approach, but ultimately, your own memories and experiences will make your tribute unique and heartfelt.

In conclusion, delivering a powerful eulogy involves speaking from the heart, managing emotions, and engaging the audience through storytelling. By focusing on these elements and using a style that is informative, persuasive, and empathetic, you’ll create a lasting tribute that honors your loved one’s life and provides comfort to those who are grieving.

A heartfelt eulogy leaves a lasting impact on everyone who hears it, providing comfort and healing during a difficult time. By sharing fond memories, personal stories, and celebrating the life of your loved one, you create a powerful tribute that honors their memory and helps those who are grieving find solace.

As you contemplate honoring your loved one’s memory, consider seeking guidance from MemoryCherish’s eulogy writing service. Our team of skilled writers is experienced in crafting eulogies that capture the essence of the person’s life, drawing inspiration from funeral speech examples while incorporating your own memories and experiences to create a unique and meaningful tribute.

At MemoryCherish, we understand the emotional weight of losing a loved one and the challenge of finding the right words to express your feelings. Our goal is to support you during this emotional journey and help you create a lasting tribute that resonates with your audience and keeps your loved one’s spirit alive.

In conclusion, a heartfelt eulogy has a lasting impact on all who hear it, providing comfort and solace in times of grief. As you honor your loved one’s memory, remember to speak from the heart, share personal stories, and celebrate their life. Let MemoryCherish’s eulogy writing service support you during this emotional journey, as we work together to craft a powerful tribute that honors the life and legacy of your loved one.

To start a short eulogy, begin with a brief introduction of yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Then, express gratitude to the attendees for coming together to celebrate the person’s life.

A good sentence for a eulogy could be: “Today, we gather to honor and celebrate the life of [Name], who touched the hearts of everyone they encountered with their kindness, humor, and unwavering dedication to their loved ones.”

An example of starting a eulogy could be: “Good morning/afternoon, my name is [Your Name], and I am [Name]’s [relationship to the deceased, e.g., sister, friend, etc.]. I stand before you today to share some fond memories and pay tribute to our beloved [relationship to the deceased].”

A beautiful eulogy is heartfelt, genuine, and focuses on the person’s life, their special bond with friends and family, and the impact they had on others. It includes personal stories, favorite memories, and acknowledges the emotions felt by those mourning the loss

The final sentences for a eulogy could be: “As we say our goodbyes to [Name] today, let us remember the love, laughter, and precious moments we shared together. May their memory live on in our hearts forever, and may we find solace in knowing that they are now at peace.”

Remember to include keywords such as eulogy examples, fond memories, beloved mother/best friend, eulogy speech, personal stories, and writing a eulogy while crafting your content. These terms will help create a comprehensive and touching tribute to the departed loved one.

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How to Write a Eulogy

Overview: how to write a eulogy.

This guide offers compassionate and practical tips for creating a touching eulogy that honours your loved one's memory:

  • Begin with personal reflections and gather stories from others to create a rich, multifaceted tribute.
  • Structure your speech with a clear beginning, middle, and end to ensure a coherent and impactful narrative.
  • Write sincerely and from the heart, using language that feels natural and true to your relationship with the deceased.
  • Personalize the eulogy by focusing on unique traits, stories, and the significant impact of the deceased.
  • Practice the eulogy to manage nerves and deliver a speech that is both authentic and comforting to the audience.

Writing a eulogy can feel like a daunting task, especially during a time filled with emotion and reflection. A eulogy isn't just a speech; it's a deeply personal tribute that captures the essence of someone dear to us who has passed away. It's our chance to share the story of their life, the imprint they've left on our hearts, and the memories we'll treasure forever.

In this blog post, we'll guide you through the steps of crafting a eulogy that not only honours the memory of your loved one but also resonates with those who gather to remember them. Whether you're a seasoned speaker or this is your first time addressing a crowd, our aim is to provide you with clear, compassionate guidance. We'll help you find the right words to express your feelings and celebrate a life well-lived, ensuring your eulogy is as meaningful and special as the person it's about.

Understanding the Purpose of a Eulogy

What exactly is a eulogy, and why does it hold such significance at a funeral or memorial service? Simply put, a eulogy is more than a farewell speech; it's a powerful way to celebrate the life of the person who has passed away. It's an opportunity to share the story of their life — the joys, challenges, achievements, and even the small, everyday moments that meant so much.

In a eulogy, we share these memories and stories to not only remember the person we've lost but to also offer comfort and connection to others who are grieving. It's a chance to paint a picture of the departed, showcasing their personality, their beliefs, their relationships, and the legacy they leave behind. Through a eulogy, we can express our love and respect, share our grief, and start the healing process, both for ourselves and for others.

But what should a eulogy include? While there's no one-size-fits-all answer, most eulogies have some common elements. Below is an infographic that breaks down these key components, helping you understand the structure and content that can go into creating a heartfelt and memorable eulogy.

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Remember, a eulogy is a personal tribute. While this guide provides a general structure, the most touching eulogies come from the heart and reflect the unique relationship you shared with the person you're honouring.

Preparing to Write a Eulogy

Before you start writing your eulogy, gathering your thoughts, memories, and anecdotes about the person you're remembering is a vital first step. This process is not just about reflecting on your own experiences; it's about piecing together a complete picture of the individual from various perspectives.

1. Start with Your Memories: Think about your time spent with them. What moments stand out? It could be a conversation that stayed with you, a particular day, or even a small habit that brings a smile to your face now.

2. Collect Stories and Anecdotes: Reach out to family and friends. They might have stories you've never heard before or a different take on a shared experience. These contributions add depth and variety to your eulogy.

3. Look for Inspiration: Sometimes, objects like photos, letters, or even a favourite book of the deceased can spark memories or provide insight into their life and character.

4. Organize Your Thoughts: With all these memories and stories, it can be overwhelming to decide what to include. That's why we've created a downloadable worksheet to help you organize your thoughts. This template can guide you in selecting the most meaningful and representative elements for the eulogy.

Remember, this preparation stage is not just about collecting content for a speech. It's a journey through the shared and individual experiences that shaped your relationship with the departed. Take your time with this process; it's a significant step in both celebrating their life and your journey of remembrance.

Structuring Your Eulogy

Creating a structure for your eulogy is key to ensuring your words flow smoothly and capture the essence of the loved one you’re commemorating. A well-structured eulogy generally consists of a beginning, middle, and end, each serving a unique purpose in the narrative.

1. The Beginning: This is where you introduce yourself and your relationship to the deceased. Start with something that immediately engages the audience – it could be a poignant quote, a brief touching story, or a significant moment you shared. The opening should set the tone for the rest of the eulogy.

2. The Middle: This is the heart of your eulogy. Here, weave together personal anecdotes with general information about the deceased. Balance is key. While personal stories bring the eulogy to life, general information (like their career, interests, or community involvement) helps those who may not have known them as well to understand their character and impact.

3. The End: Conclude with a message that leaves a lasting impression. This could be a final tribute to their legacy, a note of gratitude, or a comforting message to the audience. The ending should provide closure and reflect the overall spirit of the eulogy.

Remember, while this structure serves as a guide, the most effective eulogies are those that feel natural and heartfelt. Don’t be afraid to adjust the structure to better fit your memories and experiences with the person you’re honouring.

Writing Tips and Techniques

Crafting the words of a eulogy is both an art and a heartfelt expression. Here are some tips to help you with the writing process, ensuring your eulogy is a fitting tribute that captures the essence of your loved one.

1. Choose the Right Tone: The tone of your eulogy should reflect the personality of the deceased and your relationship with them. Whether it’s solemn, lighthearted, respectful, or even humorous, ensure it feels appropriate and genuine.

2. Use Accessible Language: Write as if you’re speaking to a friend. Avoid overly complex language. The goal is to connect with your audience and make your words easily relatable.

3. Keep It Concise: A good length for a eulogy is usually between 5 to 10 minutes. This allows you to share meaningful stories and details without overwhelming your audience.

4. Handling Emotions: It’s natural to feel emotional while writing and delivering a eulogy. If you feel overwhelmed, take a moment to pause and breathe. Remember, it's okay to show emotion; it reflects the depth of your connection.

Real-Life Examples: Excerpts from Actual Eulogies

Solemn and Respectful Eulogy Excerpt Example:

"Today, we gather to remember and celebrate the life of Elizabeth Johnson, a remarkable woman whose strength and compassion touched us all. Elizabeth led a life marked by unwavering dedication to her family and an enduring commitment to her community. Her selfless acts, whether big or small, were a testament to her loving nature. I recall a particular moment last winter when she quietly organized a fundraiser for the local shelter, a reflection of her deep empathy and concern for those around her. Elizabeth's legacy is not just in the grand gestures, but in the quiet moments of kindness that defined her character. As we bid farewell, we carry forward the lessons of generosity and grace she embodied. Her spirit, a guiding light in our lives, will forever remain in our hearts."

Lighthearted and Affectionate Eulogy Excerpt:

"Mike was a man who could light up a room with his humour and infectious smile. I can’t count the number of times he turned a bad day around with just a well-timed joke or a silly face. Like that summer barbecue when he wore that outrageous Hawaiian shirt – you know, the one with the flamingos – and declared himself the 'Flamingo King'. He had this incredible ability to make everyone feel included and valued, a gift that made him not just a great friend but a cherished part of our community. Mike's love for life and his playful spirit were truly one-of-a-kind. As we remember him today, let's not forget to smile and laugh as he often made us do. In his own words, 'Don’t forget to enjoy the ride!' And what a ride it was with Mike."

These excerpts demonstrate how different tones and styles can be effectively used in a eulogy, providing you with inspiration for your own writing.

Remember, there's no single 'correct' way to write a eulogy. The most touching eulogies come from the heart and are delivered with sincerity, regardless of their style or tone.

Personalising the Eulogy

A eulogy becomes truly special when it reflects the unique personality and life story of the person you're remembering. Personalization is key to creating a tribute that resonates with all who knew them. Here are some suggestions to help you add that personal touch to your eulogy.

1. Highlight Unique Traits: Think about what made the deceased unique. Was it their sense of humour, kindness, or perhaps a passion for a particular hobby? Mentioning these traits helps paint a vivid picture of who they were.

2. Share Personal Stories: Include stories that showcase their personality. These could be funny anecdotes, touching moments, or significant life events. Personal stories create an emotional connection with the audience and bring the eulogy to life.

3. Mention Their Impact: Talk about how the deceased affected those around them. This could be through their actions, words, or simply their presence. Highlighting their impact shows the breadth of their influence and legacy.

4. Authenticity and Sincerity: The most impactful eulogies are delivered with honesty and sincerity. Speak from the heart. Your genuine emotions and respect for the deceased will resonate more than any poetic words.

Remember, personalising a eulogy isn't about creating a perfect speech; it's about capturing the essence of a person’s life in a way that feels true to who they were. Your personal insights and memories are what will make the eulogy a beautiful and fitting tribute.

Finalising and Practicing the Eulogy

Once you've written your eulogy, it's time to fine-tune it and prepare for the delivery. This final stage is crucial in ensuring your speech not only reads well but also sounds natural when spoken.

1. Editing Your Eulogy: Read through your eulogy several times. Look for areas where you can simplify sentences or clarify thoughts. It's also a good idea to ask someone you trust to read it over. They can offer valuable feedback on how it sounds and feels.

2. Practice Makes Perfect: Practice reading your eulogy out loud. This will help you get comfortable with the flow of words and identify any tricky parts that might trip you up. Practice as much as you can; the more familiar you are with the words, the easier it will be to deliver them.

3. Dealing with Nerves: It's natural to feel nervous about speaking in public, especially at an emotionally charged event like a funeral. To manage nerves, practice deep breathing techniques and remember to pause for breath during your speech. Focus on the reason you're there – to honour someone important to you.

4. Delivery Tips: While delivering your eulogy, try to make eye contact with the audience, even if it's just a brief glance. This creates a connection and makes your words more impactful. If you get emotional, it's okay to take a moment, take a deep breath, and continue.

Remember, the goal of finalizing and practicing your eulogy is to make sure you feel prepared and confident. Your sincerity and dedication in delivering this tribute are what truly matter.

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We understand that writing and delivering a eulogy is a deeply personal experience, and each journey is unique. This is why we'd love to hear from you. Sharing your experiences can provide comfort and guidance to others facing similar challenges.

1. Share Your Experiences: If you've written or delivered a eulogy before, feel free to share your story in the comments section below (or even add it to your loved one's Memorial Story on their QR Code Memorial Plaque ). Your insights could be incredibly helpful to someone else in their time of need. 

2. Offer Your Tips: Perhaps you've discovered a helpful tip or technique during your experience. Sharing these can be a great way to support others who are preparing their own eulogies.

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Writing a eulogy is a significant gesture of love and respect. It's a way to celebrate the life of a loved one and share their story with others. We hope that the tips and guidance provided here will help you craft a heartfelt and memorable tribute. Remember, the most important aspect of any eulogy is the sincerity and love with which it's delivered. Your words, infused with your memories and emotions, will honour the life of your loved one in the most beautiful way.

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How to Write a Memorial Day Speech

Memorial Day, once called Decoration Day, is the day the United States of America sets aside each year to remember and honor the men and women who have died in the service of their country. Memorial Day ceremonies often take place in cemeteries with American flags flying and a military gun salute. Those who speak talk about the price of freedom and the bravery of American soldiers, sailors and airmen who served, fought and died for freedom as well as to protect their loved ones. A speech for Memorial Day needs to incorporate these aspects of the solemn holiday.

Start writing your Memorial Day speech from the reason you were asked to write, and maybe deliver, the speech. You may be a veteran, the spouse of a veteran or the spouse or family member of a fallen soldier. You may be a dignitary, pastor, rabbi or cleric. If you are a dignitary, write how honored you are to have young men and women from your jurisdiction willing to give their lives to protect their country. As a veteran yourself, you can share some of your feelings about serving and about losing your comrades. As a spouse of a veteran, share your pride in your spouse. Religious leaders are expected to acknowledge a higher power. Start from who you are.

Relate true-to-life anecdotes. Share stories about those whom you honor on Memorial Day. Ask family and friends for insight into the lives of real soldiers who have lost their lives in the service of their country. Make these fairly short, with a mixture of sad, poignant and sweet; you may even add just a touch of humor, if appropriate. Bring the soldiers to life through these stories, as Memorial Day is a day of remembrance. Your speech helps families remember the positive as well as the negative aspects of the day. Write about heroic actions and human decisions, such as saving the life of an animal caught in a war situation.

Write your heart into the speech. A Memorial Day speech isn't just about holiday facts or wars fought. It isn't just about warm, fuzzy stories about brave soldiers. To make the speech draw a heartfelt response, you need to interject your own responses to Memorial Day. Add to the stories of those honored, your own experiences with one or more of the soldiers, your love for the U.S., what it offers its citizens and why it is important to defend and protect the ideals of freedom. Write about the sacrifice not only of the soldiers themselves, but also of their families.

Write about the soldiers who didn't die, but who live with the consequences of war, including trauma both physical and emotional. If you have personal understanding of this trauma, add your own knowledge. Explain that these soldiers live with the death of their comrades-in-arms as well as with memories that may keep them from sleep at night. Finally, encourage those present not to forget the fallen soldiers, but also not to forget those soldiers still living.

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Carolyn Scheidies has been writing professionally since 1994. She writes a column for the “Kearney Hub” and her latest book is “From the Ashes.” She holds a Bachelor of Science in journalism from the University of Nebraska at Kearney, where she has also lectured in the media department.

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How To Write a Eulogy ✍️: Tips, Structure, & Examples [Guide]

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Whether you want to give a memorable eulogy, or you’ve been asked to give one, it’s a lot of pressure. 

You may not have given a “public” speech since high school, and now you’re expected to give one for a loved one you’ve lost, to a room full of those (including yourself) grieving their decades of life?

Thankfully, writing a beautiful eulogy is not that hard. 

In fact, on this page I set out a step by step guide on exactly how to write a eulogy, including how to structure it, what to include, how to give it at a funeral or memorial service, and many useful eulogy examples.

All you need is a pen and paper (or computer to type on), a desire to honor the departed’s legacy, and the ability to recall a few memories or accomplishments that best represent them. By the time you reach the end of this page you will have written a meaningful eulogy that truly pays tribute to their memory.

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What Is a Eulogy?

A eulogy is a type of speech given at a funeral or memorial service to pay tribute to and celebrate the memory of a person who has passed away. It is typically delivered by a family member or a close friend of the deceased, although it may also be delivered by a priest or celebrant.

While it may sound daunting for someone who doesn’t have much experience writing “speeches”, any eulogy that manages to fulfills the four following purposes will be one you should be proud of:

  • Reminds funeral attendees of your loved one’s positive impact on their family, friends, community, and world around them,
  • Chronicles the person’s life and unique accomplishments,
  • Paints a portrait of their best personality traits, the ones that made them special,
  • Honors their legacy.

Preparing to Write Your Eulogy

Now you know what they are, you can begin preparing to write a eulogy.

There are two things you want to try and determine at this stage: How long your eulogy will be and the key things you will include in it.

How Long Should Your Eulogy Be?

The exact length you should be aiming for when writing a eulogy depends on how much time you have been allocated in the funeral schedule.

That said, a good eulogy length to aim for is 5 to 10 minutes, or about 600 – 1,200 words . This allows enough time to paint a picture of the person’s character, personality, and accomplishments. Some eulogies can be longer or shorter while still honoring the person’s memory.

As long as it achieves the purposes set out earlier, there is no such thing as a eulogy that is “too short”. You can make a strong impact with few words. There is, however, such a thing as writing a eulogy that is “too long”. So it’s wise to err on the side of short and sweet.

However, I wouldn’t worry too much about that quite yet. Just keep it in mind for the eulogy writing process to come.

Brainstorming: What To Include in Your Eulogy

Before starting to write, you should brainstorm ideas of what you want to include in your eulogy. There is no right or wrong way to do this.

Generally, one to two meaningful anecdotes or fond memories you have of your loved one is a good amount to aim for. If possible, these memories could include other members of the deceased’s family who are in attendance at the funeral. However, don’t let this distract from sharing a good memory that is personal to you and reflects your loved one’s personality and character.

Other things to jot down at this stage to include in a eulogy are:

  • Nicknames the deceased was known by
  • Details of their relationships, close friends, and children and/or grandchildren (if any)
  • Accomplishments and great things they achieved in their lives
  • Their work and hobbies
  • Thinks they liked (music, interests, traveling, likes and dislikes)
  • Anything special or unique to them
  • An overall chronology of the person’s life story with as much detail as you wish

If you intend to include a quote, poem, or song lyric in your eulogy, it is a good idea to think about this now too. You may also wish to discuss this part of the process with the deceased’s friends and family – they will likely have thoughts and ideas you haven’t considered.

How to Write a Eulogy In 8 Simple Steps

1. set out your structure with sections.

Now that you have brainstormed your ideas, you can start forming the structure of your funeral speech. To some people, the idea of writing hundreds of words can be a lot, so being able to break it down into 5 – 7 logical “sections” of much less words can be really helpful.

How you structure it is ultimately up to you, but the following is a good guideline:

Eulogy Sample Outline:

  • Introduction
  • Life Details
  • Memory Three (Optional)
  • Conclusion: Legacy 
  • Closing Remarks

2. Write Your Introduction

Now it’s time to write your introduction.

If you had a quote or poem that you wanted to include in your eulogy, this can be a good place to put it. It also gives you something to flow from into your “introduction proper”, acting as a springboard.

You could also start with a funny story relating to your lost loved one or their personality. This is a slight deviation from the proposed outline above, but there’s nothing wrong with that.

Regardless of exactly how you start, you want to move into:

  • Introducing yourself and your relationship to the deceased ( briefly , the eulogy is not about you),
  • Thanking everyone for coming.
  • Paying condolences.
  • Introducing any of the nicknames (if any).

Here’s an example:

Meaningful Eulogy Introduction Example:

Good afternoon to everyone. I thank you all on behalf of John’s family for coming, and I am sure he would be happy to know that you are all here today. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Jane, John’s wife.  Johnny was the love of my life, my partner in everything, and the rock that held our family together. I am truly sad that he is gone, and as much as I hurt, I express my sympathy for everyone else here who has lost him the same way I have. It is through him that we are all connected. 

3. Add The Deceased’s Important Life Details

Moving on from the introduction, you want to paint an overall image of the lost person’s life that captures their essence.

Alongside using descriptive language to express their personality and character (e.g. caring, loving, kind, funny), you can use the key factors that you noted down earlier, including their work, hobbies, achievements, interests, and unique characteristics. You should mention their important family members.

Eulogy Life Details Example

Emily was a caring and loving woman, but that doesn’t mean she wouldn’t say it like it is! I recall many times in her company when I didn’t know whether to cry, blush, or laugh – and that’s just how she was! She had a varied life. After being born in our small town of Ruddington, she moved into the big city of London for many years for work. But we know Emily, the city life was never for her, and she ultimately returned to Ruddington with the birth of Tommy and Matt, who she loved so much. I know she’s up there looking down on you two.

4. Include Your Memories and Anecdotes

The next step in writing a eulogy is incorporating the cherished memories, significant life moments, and anecdotes you wrote down earlier. I suggest no more than three anecdotes, but I would personally aim for two.

This is a little bit more freeform than the other steps. There is no set structure I suggest following, just write from the heart. It can be helpful to write as if you are telling the story to a friend.

These stories can be touching, funny, or whatever you want them to be.

As you write, it’s a good idea to be considering themes and common threads in your anecdotes. Do they tell you anything about your lost loved one’s character?

For example, if I had chosen two stories about how my Gran liked taking us on holiday and buying my siblings candy without my parent’s knowledge, a common theme would be the love and adoration my Gran had for her grandchildren, so much that she spoiled us!

Finding themes like this will assist with the next sections of your eulogy.

Eulogy Anecdote Example

I remember when I met Gwen, it was the day JFK was elected. She was ecstatic about that – me? Not so much. But it didn’t matter, because the moment I laid my eyes on her I knew she was the one. And I think she knew too, because there wasn’t a single day we didn’t see each other since then. And of course, less than a year later we were married and Jack was on the way. It was a hard time explaining that one to her father! Our relationship moved fast but those early days were just as special as anything that came since, driving in my chevrolet, talking until the sun came up. She always knew how to talk – and teach.

5. Conclusion: Set Out Their Legacy

Using all of the content you’ve written for your eulogy so far, you can now bring it together to do what I refer to as “setting out their legacy”.

In effect, you will be using the anecdotes and deceased’s life information to paint the complete picture of the impact they have had on you, their family members and the world. This is like writing a conclusion to a book.

Eulogy Conclusion Example

And the reason I share all these stories is, simply, John was an amazing person, both in his heart and mind. He was an amazing husband, more than I could have ever asked for, and an even better father, raising two beautiful boys who are here with us today.  He lived life to the fullest, whether working, fishing, or taking the dogs for a walk, he was always looking for the best in people and seeing the good in the world. Despite the challenges that life presented to John, the loss of his parents, the loss of our home in the flooding, he always kept his head held high and never lost his love of life. He was a constant source of inspiration and guidance to those around him and will be greatly missed by everyone who knew him.  

6. Closing Remarks

Finally, you want to include short closing remarks. You have already concluded your eulogy, so this is really just an opportunity to say goodbye to the one you’ve lost, express your own grief, and thank those who have joined you in honoring their legacy again.

Eulogy Closing Remarks Example

Today we say goodbye to a woman who left a lasting impact on everyone she met. Her love and her memories will live on in all of us, and she will forever hold a special place in our hearts. Rest in peace, Emily. Thank you all for joining me in saying goodbye.

7. Practice Your Eulogy With Family Members and Close Friends

You don’t want the first time you read your eulogy out loud to be at the funeral. It’s a good idea to practice a few times to see how it flows, see how long it is, and ensure you are happy with it.

Once you’ve practiced a few times by yourself, it’s a good idea to practice with someone close to you, and someone you feel comfortable sharing it with before the service. 

A family member or a good friend will be an option. Ask them for feedback. 

If there are any specific parts of your eulogy speech you are unsure of, ask them about those bits specifically. A good question to ask is if you are giving your speech at a good pace – many people talk too fast, especially when they are nervous, so being consciously slow is a good idea.

8. Edit and Finalize

With your feedback, you can go back and edit your eulogy to bring it to exactly where you want it to be for the memorial service.

It’s a good idea to have a final draft of your eulogy a few days before the funeral so you have time to practice the “final version”. Making last minute changes may cause you to stumble on the day – although this is fine, no one is expecting perfection.

Tips to Remember When Writing Your Eulogy

Humor is fine, but don’t go overboard.

Most of the examples of sections of eulogies we’ve given above are quite “dry” and absent of humor, but that doesn’t have to be the case for your eulogy.

Including humorous and funny anecdotes, even jokes, is completely appropriate and can enhance your speech.

However, it’s important to not go overboard. At the end of the day, a funeral is supposed to be a somber event. Jokes are fine, but you are not writing a standup routine.

Writer’s Block? That’s Okay

Writing a eulogy can be hard – there is no denying that. In fact, in part, it’s probably what’s contributed to you being here reading this article on how to write a eulogy.

If you do get writer’s block, or you don’t know where to start, here are a few tips:

  • Instead of writing, try recording your thoughts into the recording app on your phone. You can then adapt your voice notes later.
  • Talk to your family and friends, ask if they have any ideas to help you with writing your eulogy or if they have any anecdotes about your lost loved one they are willing to share.
  • Take a breath, sleep on it, and try again tomorrow. Unless the funeral is today, you have time. If you can’t write right now, try again a different day once you’ve had some more time to think and reflect.

Topics to Avoid: What You Should Not Say In a Eulogy

Your eulogy will be personal to you, and you are likely to know intuitively what is and isn’t appropriate to include in your unique speech. However, if you are unsure, here are some topics that you should typically avoid:

  • Grievances you had with the deceased (or that they had with others),
  • Character flaws,
  • Family drama,
  • Negative memories you have of them,
  • Their cause of death,
  • Anything else that is generally negative.

Preparing for the Day of the Funeral or Memorial

The day before the funeral, sleep well and stay hydrated. You want to be energetic, fit, and healthy for the service. 

You can practice your eulogy again a few times the night before, but on the day it’s best to stay in the moment and celebrate the life and memories of your lost loved one with their family and friends.

Before giving your eulogy, remind yourself to speak slowly and with clarity. Your eulogy is not a race. You want to give funeral attendees time to listen to and process your words.

When giving your eulogy, you may cry. This is very common. You are giving an emotional speech, at an emotional event, about someone who was very close to you. For most people, taking a few deep breaths and pausing is enough to recompose themselves . In a worst case scenario, if you have your eulogy written out, someone can take over for you. There is nothing wrong with this if it happens.

Once you’re done, feel proud of yourself. You did it. You wrote, and gave, a beautiful, good eulogy that truly honored the one you lost. 

Eulogy Examples

Beyond the examples we’ve included above, here are a few more eulogy examples to inspire and assist you. You may also wish to view our article on the best eulogies ever written .

Eulogy for a Partner

William was an exceptional man. Not only was he a loving husband, but he was also a devoted father, friend, colleague, and more. His ability to make everyone feel loved was his greatest gift. I met William 40 years ago and it was love at first sight. We would see each other every week at the skate rink. We took things slow at first, he was always a gentleman. But I saw how his infectious laugh and good nature made him instantly likable to everyone he met and knew he was special. William loved nature, and we would often spend weekends camping in Nottingham forest. When we had our son, James, William was overjoyed. He was a fantastic father and James went to him with anything.  William was a hard worker who was always dedicated to his locksmith business. Whether he was at work or fishing with friends, he always encouraged everyone to live life to the fullest and never stop pushing forward. William was my soul mate and my inspiration. He supported and loved us all no matter what. Goodbye William. I love you.

Eulogy for a Sibling

I remember when Stacey was born. I was ecstatic. I ran to my teacher at primary school the day after she was born, boasting. For a few years following that… yeah. She was my little sister. I should have been nicer. But we knew we loved each other.  And as Stacey became an adult my love and care sustained. I saw her meet Tony, get married, get elected, I was so proud of her every step of the way. Stacey was special. If you needed help, she would be there. I once called her from two states away in a broken down car and she drove overnight to come and save me. That is the kind of woman Stacey grew into. Stacey may be gone now, but she will never be forgotten. She will be in my heart, and I’m sure the hearts of everyone else here, for the rest of our lives. Stacey, I wish you could still be here. But I know you’re up there now, looking down on us. And I promise, whenever anyone needs my help, I will be there for them, in your memory. Thank you all for coming.

Eulogy for a Friend

I met Dave at university. We were in the same class at law school. I remember on the first day he showed up late. I begrudgingly moved seat so he had somewhere to sit, but it was one of the best decisions I ever made, because he was my best mate ever since. Dave was special. He wasn’t like most friends. He was someone you could share anything with, and I mean anything, no matter what. Relationship problems, family problems, health problems. He was someone who would listen. Even during the busiest of times, exam time, or in the middle of a case, he would drop everything to listen – because he put his friends first.  The world is a worse place without him. Dave was. Dave is. My best mate. I love you man. Thank you all for coming.

Eulogy for a Parent or Grandparent

Today, we remember Margaret Smith, a woman of grace, courage, and love, and a beloved mother. After raising three children, she went back to study at 45 years old to become a teacher, something she had always dreamed of. It’s not like she had to work, it’s something she wanted to do. She wanted to be a positive influence on the world. Raising three children wasn’t enough, she wanted to help hundreds. Mom was selfless. Her entire life, she has lived, happily, for others. Whether it be organizing local events, helping me find an apartment, buying me my first ironing board (and teaching me to use it!) when I moved into the apartment, she was always there. I couldn’t have asked for a better mom. Someone so full of love. Her advice will forever guide me. I will always hold her dear and cherish her memory. I love you, Mom.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who traditionally gives the eulogy at a funeral.

A eulogy is typically delivered by a family member or a close friend of the deceased, although it may also be delivered by a priest or celebrant. However, this is not set in stone, and it is common for those not so close to the loved one who passed, such as colleagues or grandchildren, to give eulogies as well. 

Can there be more than one eulogy?

Yes, it is common for there to be more than one eulogy at a memorial or funeral service. This allows for multiple perspectives to be shared, which can provide a more well-rounded tribute that better honors the memory of the person who has passed away.

If you are only one of multiple people giving a eulogy at a funeral, it may be worth discussing your eulogy with the others to minimize overlap in stories/anecdotes.

How are eulogies different from obituaries?

Eulogies and obituaries are both forms of tribute to a deceased person, but they serve different purposes and have different formats.

A written eulogy is a remembrance speech or tribute typically delivered at a funeral or memorial service. It usually consists of personal reflections, memories, and stories about the deceased, and its purpose is to pay homage and honor the life of the person who has passed away.

An obituary , on the other hand, is a piece of writing that announces a person’s death and provides information about their life, such as their date of birth, education, career, family, and achievements. Obituaries are usually published in newspapers or online and are often more factual and straightforward in nature than eulogies.

The Bottom Line

Eulogy writing can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be hard.

Follow our step by step guide, refer to our examples, discuss with a friend or family member, and you should be able to write a touching, beautiful, tribute, that celebrates your lost loved one.

If you have any further questions about writing a eulogy anything else beyond life, please feel free to leave a comment below or get in touch .

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